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A former therapist once described love as mutually assured individuality-- lol. I think that is a great description. You don't have to accept all behavior or all actions but you really have to accept the other person as who they are.

That is what I am looking for in a romantic relationship. So I guess I better describe myself so you know what you have to put up with:

I'm a college student who is two classes short of a bachelors degree in pastoral studies and after that I most likely will be going to seminary. There is a fair chance that I will be active in ministry at some point-- whether as a pastor, youth pastor, or as a chaplain. I'm pretty liberal and accepting and not a fundamentalist type Christian.

Let me talk about two kinds of love-- eros and agape. Agape is very accepting and very undemanding-- if you want to read about it google 1 Cor:13, Paul wrote about it and it gets read in a lot of weddings. But there is more to a relationship between men and women than agape love, there is also eros love, which is much more possessive and demanding. You can accept things about a stranger that you cannot accept about someone who you want to be your significant other. Eros love requires attraction, acceptance, trust, and availability-- you demand a lot more from someone you are in a romantic relationship than you do from an acquaintance or a friend.

So I am looking for someone who will accept me as I am and who will accept my faith as it is because I am not willing to compromise myself or my faith in order to be in a relationship. Behavior and actions, sure those are up for negotiation, but the person I am? No. I'm not some holy roller, just a guy who made mistakes and is focusing on something better. Let me cut and paste a quote from something I just wrote in discussion about my "orthodoxy" or lack thereof in one of my classes:

"I don't think I have any answers here, I'm still trying to figure stuff out. What I don't agree with is when some human being tells me that if I do not conform to his view that God will not love me, approve of me, that I will be damned to burn in hell for all time,etc.

That includes the so called views of Scripture, Doctrine, reason, history, and experience. Christ said in John 5:
39You diligently study[c] the Scriptures because you think that by them you possess eternal life. These are the Scriptures that testify about me, 40yet you refuse to come to me to have life."

Whenever some human being condemns my faith for being different than theirs and tells me in the next breath what God is or what God thinks then I am even more sure that he is wrong. I am not a total relativist but i think that the absolute and objective truths of God are expressed in many ways and through many cultures and people."

So about you:

I want to find someone who's crap I can put up with and who makes me happy because she wants what is best for me. I want someone who I can trust and who can be available for me and who can in turn trust me and for whom I can be available. I believe in communication and mutual needs and goals and I think that two people who work together can accomplish almost anything if they believe they can.

I think if you accept yourself and love yourself that there is a really good chance that I will be able to do the same. That would also include your physical appearance, if you don't like the way you look I probably won't either.

I can accept anyone with agape love but I'm looking for eros as well.

Is there a woman out there who will take a chance on a guy like me? People play everything safe and then they end up with nothing. I'm tired of playing it safe, not taking risks, not risking failure, and of course not succeeding. Hell I want to screw up as many times as it takes until it works. LOL

Or as William Blake wrote: The fool who persists in his folly shall become wise.

Going to school-- almost done with a bachelors in pastoral studies. I do believe in something, very much so, it just isn't what most people believe.

My eyes. That seems to be the one consistent thing that women compliment me on-- completely strange women have told me that I have pretty eyes or beautiful eyes, etc. You know you have to think they say that to all the guys but after awhile when enough women say that you have to think either they are reaching for something to compliment or they mean what they say.

Stephen King is a better writer than people give him credit for and Anne Rice is much worse. James Patterson is a hack.

Coen Brothers movies are good. The new Batman was good. I like the Professional by luc beson. Serenity and firefly were good. House used to be good. Dexter on Showtime is good, can't wait for season three.

Greasy burgers and well done fries. Steak and brats and most forms of chicken.

Love, purpose, touch, acceptance, hope, contentment.

How are childhood makes us who we are but there is a point when you have to be the adult. How everyone has problems. And what my purpose here is. I am into religion, philosophy, and good conversation.

Lately hanging out with friends in some sort of mindless activity.

You know what? Fine. I'm sometimes very lonely and it makes me sad.

Wow, nobody says those things. Everyone is supposed to be perfect and damnit, I'm not.

You want to meet a guy who is flawed and sincere and looking for a good woman who is low vision, patient, and has bad taste in men. :p

You want to be in and maintain a healthy relationship.