I'm Italian, from a city in the south east called Taranto.
I lived 4 and a half years in UK, then 3 in Spain. Now I moved to Hong Kong in September 2014. I'm hoping to live here at least 3-4 years.
MY EXPERIENCE WITH MEETING PEOPLE FROM THE INTERNET
(this is a whole extra section that I wrote up but you can just skip it)
I'm an expat, have been an expat for many years in different countries now, so meeting people from the web is my main way of making new friends. This is normal for me.
My experience in meeting people for friendship-or-potentially-more has been mixed, so far. I did meet a lot of people in person. Not only through okcupid, but through other websites as well like couchsurfing or facebook.
Most of the times however, when I meet someone, we only meet once and then never meet again. This is not because the first meeting goes terribly, quite the contrary, I think that pretty much always when I meet someone, we have a fairly good time. And, no, we don't have sex. All we do is meet up for lunch or dinner and talk. I'm very talkative and easygoing so even when the other person is shy or doesn't talk much, we can still have some sort of conversation going. No awkward silences.
But most of the people I met, we've only met once, or in some rare cases, two-three times. I came to realise this is because people simply can't be bothered to get to know someone and actually meet them often enough to not completely lose contact with each other (say, 2-4 times a month?).
People would simply prioritize the long time friends they already have, which, I guess, is fair enough. In today's busy world, where everyone is always working or studying and never has time for anything, people would rather meet up with their old time friends than "invest" their time with a random person from the internet.
I met some people in person and it looked like we had a good time and we could at least be friends. But ask them if they are free to meet again at any time, and they will always be busy.
I don't know what kind of situation girls expect out of an okcupid meeting.
There's the kind of guy that tries to buy your interest in them by being forcibly and overly sweet and romantic right away and trying to make you feel like a princess. Like you're such a special girl and they might actually want to have a serious relationship with you. But really, they don't even know you.
I can understand why some girls easily fall for that. Aren't we all just waiting for someone to finally recognise how special and unique we truly are? It's a nice feeling, I understand. You just shouldn't trust when someone acts like that without actually having spent enough time with you, learning more about you.
Then there's the guy that does the complete opposite and sends you photos of his dick on whatsapp with the caption "U like?". I don't know what's the success rate of that.
I'm neither of these two types of guys.
Whenever I meet someone new, I never act like I'm prospecting a potential relationship or anything, but neither I am on a mission to have sex with as many girls as possible.
I just meet you, talk to you, tell you about my life, thoughts, feelings... and ask about yours. There isn't anything I try to accomplish, I just see what happens. Most of the times, nothing seems to happen. Rarely, there is a mutual attraction and in that case things do happen, but in a natural way.
Another reason why it's so hard to actually see someone more than once is that people simply "can't be bothered". A lot of the girls who join okcupid come here for sheer boredom, they install the app on their phone to check it out after a friend told them about it and they get flooded with messages in a few days, hardly reply to any, then likely disable or delete their accounts after a while. Most of the people here are not really looking for anything or anyone in particular, they are just bored and curious to see what happens here.
I don't know. Either way, I usually prefer to skip the text chat and just have a conversation face to face, usually over some food and see what happens.