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  • Ages 23-45
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Average build
Not at all
Dropped out of University
Has kid(s) and wants more
Has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"Who are you?" *taps a pencil to his teeth and makes a face before repeating:* "Who are you?"

Ok. Now that I have my "Breakfast Club" reference out of the way, I will continue with dissecting myself in a few paragraphs in the hopes of attracting others. (That's my sarcastic side)

Now, to get a few important points out...

I am technically married. My wife (SharpFierySag) , have been together for over six years total, we've been married for two and a half, and have a 5 year old daughter. We do not live together anymore, and do not have a romantic relationship with each other at all. We are still very good friends, we agree on how to raise our daughter, and we work well together, so for now, the D word hasn't really come up.

*Watches a bunch of people hit the "back" button and continue their searches*

Anyway, so...more about me.

Right...I hate these things. "Here, take this space, and fill out what you can that you think will turn other peoples' heads, and they will in turn take notice and wish to fuck you."

Really? Come on. Most people have looked at the pictures, and if they are interested after that, they move on to the words. They will then PERHAPS read them in their entirety, and at that point, make a decision whether or not to send a message, hoping that the other person will then like their pictures enough to get them to read their little summary of their self.

Oops. I just noticed I left out cynical down below. Oh well, they only let me have three. (EDIT: There we go, I simply added it to another field. Go me *high fives self*)

Anyway, I have decided that for this section, I would just kind of type what is on my mind, and hopefully, that will give you enough of an idea of my personality, that you can decide if I am someone you wish to meet further.

At this point, I will say that I tend to not have much of a self filter over my mouth, and I have a habit, (good or bad) of saying exactly what is on my mind. I tend to be a bit quiet in larger groups, but in smaller settings, I tend to be the one making people laugh.

I have recently moved back to Michigan after living in Chicago for almost a year. Living in Chicago had been a dream of mine for over 20 years, and while I am very sad to have my dream not play out longer, I also am happy that I am able to do what I need to in order to be closer to my daughter who is the meaning of my life. I have recently had the realization that everything that has happened to me in my life, (good and bad) has molded me to be the best father I can be, and I love being a dad. At 39, my dream of having more kids, and a full time family of my own seems to be close to an end, but I will give it a few more years before I let that one go entirely. :P

If you don't believe that we live in a society that encourages, supports and apologies for rapists, or don't believe that we live in a rape culture please don't contact me. If you do not agree that we live in a misogynistic, patriarchal society, please don't contact me. If you believe that racism is "a thing of the past" or that it isn't prevalent still on our society today, or if you disagree that white privilege is very real and a systemic part of our society, please do not contact me. We would be doing nothing but wasting our time. I cannot have anyone like that as a long term partner.

If however, you do not know what those things are, or are unsure or undecided or uneducated about those things, and you have an open mind, and are open to discuss and learn about them, then please, by all means, contact me. I am very open minded and I enjoy challenging my own belief systems as a means of growing as a person.

I am a funny, cynical, sarcastic, kinky, and opinionated feminist.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am living it. I enjoy my life. I love spending time with my daughter. I love playing MMOs and other video games, watching movies, chilling in front of TV, and watching movies. Shit...I said that already? Oh well.

Trying to figure out how to be more socially active as a means of changing the collective consciousness of our society, other than vocalizing my disdain for our society on Facebook and blogs.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making people laugh. I am funny. I am not bragging, but it is true. Although, I will admit that I have a sarcastic sense of humor, and if you don't get sarcasm, I am probably not funny and instead just an asshole.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes. I have great blue eyes. I really do.

That I am not skinny. It's not a bad thing, and I don't say that out of some kind of self pity or anything. It's just the truth. I will say that while I am still not skinny, I have recently lost damn near 150 pounds. I am far more "normal" looking than "fat" looking now, but if that is really an issue one way or the other, it's probably best for both of us for you to just continue your search now. I despise the fat shaming that is so prevalent in our society.

**recent edit: I am now what most people would call average, if not skinny. I decided to leave that last part in there, as well as thee heavier pictures of myself, because, quite honestly, if you are interested now, but wouldn't have been when I was huge, we probably wont get along. While I certainly can understand physical attraction as being important, if there is anything I have learned since losing 200 pounds, it's that so many people in our society completely ignore the existence of people that we see as unpleasing to the eye.
I cannot describe how many more people actually just LOOK at me now when walking down the street, and that is so sad to me that our subconscious completely seems to dehumanize those we don't find physically attractive.
That said, I know that everyone has their preferences, including me. I understand that for most people, (including me), there is a "too big". However, I still look at those people I find unattractive and send a smile and try to spread some positivity. You never know when that person that you smile at is having the worst day of their life and that smile alone could help them feel better.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Oh hell...this box might take a while.

Books: Anything dealing with quotes, either historical or from movies. John Sandford's "Prey" series. I read some Star Wars novels back in the day, but they have gotten progressively more terrible. I have been wanting to start Gates of Fire for the longest time, but the greek names throw me every time I try. I recently start The Count of Monte Cristo so next year I should finish it. [EDIT: it is three years later, and I still haven't finished it] I made a New Years resolution to read one book a month, and I got through half of Zen and the art of happiness on New Years Eve and never finished it. Yes, I know all of these titles should have capitol letters for each I do not care enough to go back and change it. I am only a grammar nazi when it comes to their, there and they're, and a lot. ((IT IS TWO DAMN WORDS PEOPLE! PLEASE LEARN THIS))
Also, The Punisher, The Avengers, Spawn, Wolverine, Star Wars, and a few other comics. Yes, comics are books. They are a visual storytelling medium that exists to pass along ideas and spur creative thinking in people. They also have beautiful artwork, characters, stories and ideas.

Movies: Wow. no particular order other than the first 2: The Hustler, The Crow, Star Wars, Fight Club, Aliens, Blues Brothers, Breakfast Club, Heathers, Boondock Saints, The Big Lebowski, Predator (all of them including AvP 1 and 2), Equilibrium, Nightmare on Elm Street 1, 3, 4 and Freddy vs Jason, Hellraiser 1, 2, Tombstone, and a ton of others that would seriously destroy my wrists trying to type them all.

TV: The Shield is the best show ever made, and my favorite. Battlestar Galactica was the best science fiction that has been on in the last 20 years, and was a phenomenal show...up until the last half of the last episode. Firefly could have beaten out BSG if only there were more episodes. For what it is though, it was a great show. Currently, I love Game of Thrones, Orphan Black, Archer, Son of Anarchy, Justified, Revolution, Fringe, and Arrow

Music: Anything from Frank Sinatra, to Slipknot, to Eminem, to Blink 182, to Korn, to Jay Z, to Billy Joel, to just about anything except country. My favorite bands of all time include Iron Maiden, Anthrax and Nine Inch Nails I am a fan of a little classical, and recently, I have really been digging on rock/classical movie scores like 300.

Food: Pizza, steak. Those are my favorites. Judging by my pics, I am sure you can see though that I don't turn down too many foods other than veggies. I am a meat and potato guy through and through. Vegetarians are cool as long as they don't try and force their views or reasons for not eating meat down my throat. At that point, we may have issues. (By the way, that statement also fits for just about anything.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My daughter.
My sense of humor.
My computer/cell phone.
My feet.
My right hand. ( I am right handed after all and would never be able to write properly with my left...why, what did you think I meant? :P)
Hollywood/LA/New York/Chicago (Movies, TV, and The Bears)
My inner need to fight. Not physically, I have outgrown that. I mean the fight to find the positive in every situation. The fight to maintain my own ideals. The fight for love. The fight for the truth.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
That I will always appreciate a hard truth over a soft lie. While often, those hard truths are incredibly difficult to hear, I would rather hear them, have them hurt me, and learn from it, than be lied to, not learn, and possibly find out about the lie later. At that point, there is no opportunity to learn or grow, and if we are not learning and growing as individuals, how will our society ever grow past the bullshit state that it's in now?

What my superhero power would be if I had one.

Honestly, this is kind of a bullshit redundant question. I just spent the better part of 30 minutes typing all that stuff up above, and another 30 minutes editing it after almost a year, now you ask me what I spend a lot of time thinking about?

Currently, I am thinking a lot about these questions.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working, or hanging out at home, watching TV, playing games, or online chatting.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have testicles.

I mean really? What kind of private moments were you hoping I would let loose on a public website?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You like to laugh, or you like bigger guys, or you like bigger guys that make you laugh. Or you like skinny guys, but can't find any that aren't douchebags, and don't mind a big guy as long as he puts out, (or makes you laugh.)

Even though I am not what would be considered a "big guy" anymore, I wanted to keep this answer because I really like it.