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  • Ages 40–56
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Last online
Jan 23
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
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Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
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Yes's: "America:

Morning Music.


"What's all this about some-sex marriage?!" Emily Litella

"Hain’t we got all the fools in town on our side? And ain’t that a big enough majority in any town?"--Mark Twain's The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn.
Listening tonight to Mark Knopfler:

Romeo and Juliet, always works, a live version:


A Green World, may not be that far away, it might only be a bike ride away?


Musics for a Sunday Morning:

David Bowie's "Heroes" full album on youtube:

Peter Gabriel's "So" full album on youtube:

Roxy Music's "Avalon" full album on youtube:


Fake OKC account, explores just how low some men will go:

I'm sure, readers, you're not surprised; And I've seem some "interesting stuff" too...



Can Men and Women be "just friends"?

A study described in Scientific American suggests: Not. I think the study was marred somewhat by using only undergraduates--a notoriously horny group of people...

"The results suggest large gender differences in how men and women experience opposite-sex friendships. Men were much more attracted to their female friends than vice versa. Men were also more likely than women to think that their opposite-sex friends were attracted to them—a clearly misguided belief. In fact, men’s estimates of how attractive they were to their female friends had virtually nothing to do with how these women actually felt, and almost everything to do with how the men themselves felt—basically, males assumed that any romantic attraction they experienced was mutual, and were blind to the actual level of romantic interest felt by their female friends. Women, too, were blind to the mindset of their opposite-sex friends; because females generally were not attracted to their male friends, they assumed that this lack of attraction was mutual. As a result, men consistently overestimated the level of attraction felt by their female friends and women consistently underestimated the level of attraction felt by their male friends."

"These results suggest that men, relative to women, have a particularly hard time being “just friends.”"


Is OKC like a binder full of women?


I sit in bed on a beautiful cold fall morning, with coffee and soft Beethoven Piano Sonatas played by Glenn Gould on. (Low enough, so I can't hear his grunting right now.)

A moment to reflect upon why I'm here; I'd rather have someone in bed next to me. And at my favorite museums, and at political and civic functions I go to, and as I explore the back roads of the midwest with my camera, and as I go into dive-ethnic restaurants in out of the way places.

I've been alone, which is ok, and I've been in love. Being in love--is the best drug there is I know. It makes you sleepless and silly, the colors are turned up and even food tastes better too.

The basis of any relationship is reciprocal ethical behavior: Simple really.


I shoot to live these days, stills and video and sometimes news... But my heart is in the art. I push memes locally and on the web. I love to disassemble complicated ideas, and test them...


Oh, and do you ever wonder if Orly Taitz is really Sasha Baron Cohen, or is it just me?


We're all different; we can't possibly be the same. We had different : Parents, places to grow up and learned different things. And--WE'RE THE OPPOSITE SEX--I've noticed too.

I've come to think it isn't how similar we are, but how we treat each other that matters. I didn't used to have friends from across the political spectrum--now I do. I like to disagree, can you do it with a smile on your face, and befriend that person? Attacking them, may not change their mind it seems, they may not listen to you and defend themselves instead.

Are you honest, do you care for those less fortunate, on the other side of the planet, and the animals and environment too?

I know many people measure money--but do you spend TIME on other people? I've seen it, my mom's family has tremendous wealth. I measure how you think, how you communicate, how you try to change the world.

I think the world is flat. Maybe you recall in the movie Gandhi, how he took the tray away from the servant and served all his peers around the room? Recall how Jesus stooped to wash his disciples' feet. Treating all the same--allows me to treat Governor Pawlenty, or Dayton, or Tom Emmer when I talk to them, with the same respect I treat the garbage man or the homeless person on the corner.

I value all people, even those on the other side of the planet with no names to me, and everyone who reads this. I think, they have the same value.

I think the basis of all ethics--is reciprocity--treating others as you wish to be treated. Seems simple, but we just have to look up to see otherwise...

I note on some profiles, that some are already retired, or ready in two years to hang it up. Great, I hope that's what you want. Me, I'm shifted recently, and I'm now doing what I always wanted and should have done. ;) I make art--why would I want to retire? When I stop making art--I might as well be... I like to explore, and I'm super curious : I'm a journalist/videographer/livestreamer/photographer/webproducer. I like doing it--it's consuming. I like to think, every now and then I whip out an essay in Game Theory or Evolutionary Economics.

I do all the above, because they put me into "Flow" (google, and read the wiki entry) a psychologist, went looking for "the biology of Zen", and he describes states of consciousness where you are so absorbed you lose all measure of time, you are in "Flow". Athletes, Musicians, Artists and many others will recognize this state when you read the wiki entry. Love--can do it too.

I think the purpose of couples, is... complicated. Did you know that couples live longer? There must be something intrinsically good about them then. No woman is an island. I see so many "I want a man but don't need a man" statements in the profiles I read. Hmmm, I think anymore, the only ethical relationships are peer relationships. Equals, we have different skills, and they balance over the spectrum. It's isn't just about living longer either--it's living better. Another Google and wiki read you might like is the "Yerkes Dodson Law" in psychology. It links "stress and performance". What does this bell shaped curve mean? It means it takes stimulus or stress to have better performance. If we were talking ice skating : You'd need public performance; you'd need a coach to go up the curve. But what if right before you go on you learn your hero Dorothy Hamill is in the audience? Does that take you to a new peak, or over the top and down the right hand side where stress takes away from performance?

I bring this up, because I think a function of couples, is to stimulate each other to a higher peak in life. And, when the bus-of-life is about to run them over, grab them and pull them out from under and say : Don't worry I'll make dinner; I'll get you to the airport on time. It's also to get you to maybe do the thing you fear, but if someone had your back you might try. So love--can be a stimulating-powerful thing.

I want to be in love.

What I’m doing with my life
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I like to spread memes with images and words. I do political news, art and push theory.


This week I work on a documentary of a one room school, next week I'll be shooting wind turbines, last week I worked for a national political campaign. Such is a typical week... I love NO routine.

I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Thinking, listening and noticing the little things. Maybe, it was my Ethology Major? Or spending 15 years on psych wards doing Behavior Mod?

Relationships, I am open and honest, and can't really lie. I've yet to figure that out--and the truth always feels like a bubble inside me.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm funny, smart and thinking about what they say... I seem to be happy. (sometimes I fake this, I admit, but I've learned this skill.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books : Hesse, Camus,

Artists : Rene Magritte, Edward Weston, Diane Arbus, are my personal big three influences as an artist.

Movies/Film : Kubrick, Werner Herzog, I just saw True Grit by the Coen's and liked it very much. Everyone is eccentric in their films, beautifully filmed and strangely authentic to the book and the times... Still, it's hard to top the Big Lebowski from them, for me.

Music : Yes, Weather Report, Beethoven, Fusion Jazz, Return to Forever, Brian Eno, Ambient, Eric Satie, TheCurrent

Food : Non-American food, Asian, Curry, Seafood, Mexican food, Mediterranean food I like to cook for guests but not for myself.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't seem to have a typical Friday night. I live in creative cycles, and the news cycle. I may go out on a date or be with a friend, or I may intensely be underway in a project too.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm an open person, if I know you and like you, there's isn't much I'm not willing to admit. Being ethical and honest, isn't that hard.

I developed a clog fetish while at St Olaf, all the women wore them there. ;)
You should message me if
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You're curious, or you like to write about inner thoughts or expose the human condition.

I reward people for pushing themselves to think about things... I would prefer to discuss than argue.