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In-This-Together

59 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 42–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:03pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other
Sign
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I try not to hold too tightly to my story of who I am, but we gotta start somewhere. So... The focus of my life is spiritual and psychological growth. I believe our deepest purpose is to understand and become who we truly are. I've been a Zen practitioner for many years and am now involved in the Diamond Approach, which I love.

With all that, humor is the great lubricant of life. Let's find what there is to laugh about.

I admire and aspire to emotional transparency. Can we all express and take responsibility for our feelings and needs? I find Nonviolent Communication very helpful in this area. As much as possible, can we talk about what is really going on? (You know- not like the families most of us grew up in.)

I am smart in a did-well-in-school kind of way. I recognize that there are infinite forms of intelligence and doing well on the SATs is not necessarily one of the most useful in the longer term. I am funny and delight in finding the humor in life. I love words and like to write.

I am healthy and generally eat well. I love a day when I can leave my car by the curb and ride my bike where I need to go. I don't drink alcohol or do drugs anymore- life is getting shorter and I'd rather have a clear mind.

I am a psychotherapist (MFT) who has just begun a new career as a government bureaucrat. I think everyone should be a government bureaucrat at least once in a lifetime, don't you?

Sometimes, I feel lonely and would love to have a companion to explore ourselves and our world, to play and laugh with, to give comfort and support. Mostly, I'm happy and would enjoy being happy with someone.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying not to get in its way.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, puns, paint-by-number Van Gogh, seeing the humor, reading aloud (especially if there's someone to listen), waking up before the alarm, haiku, introspection, learning new words, kissing, taking at least one good photograph a year, appearing calm (not actually as useful as I once thought), saying "please" and "thank you," cooking steel cut oats, parenthetical remarks (when appropriate), remembering to water the plants, walking and talking (at the same time!), laughing in the face of death (okay, I made that one up)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a biped.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't know about this question. I mean, what if you are the otherwise perfect woman for me but I mention some band or HBO show that you hate, so you write me off? Seems too risky.
(I suppose that's my glib way of avoiding having to make lists of these things. Such preferences are fun to talk about, but don't really seem essential)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I can definitely do without answering questions like this.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Patriarchy- it's the root of so many problems.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have somehow managed to find 500 OKC questions that weren't too intrusive or annoying to answer.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
This one is up to you. Hey, I can't do all the work. (Though, I will say that I'd love to connect with a tender heart and a lively mind- someone who sees her life as a spiritual journey, with relationship as part of that journey)