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35 Rochester, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–39
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them

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My self-summary
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Updated, November 7th, 2014...

I identify myself in a few different ways…

I’m a Gamer (Mostly PC)…
I’m a Kinkster…
Poly, Poly Friendly...
I’m a Business Owner…

My business takes up the bulk of my time. I work every day and not all day but there are things I have to periodically check and I’m effectively always on call, but it allows me flexibility as well.

I play video games but usually not in excess. Maybe on release days and they’re my go to for stress relief. Usually I maintain a good balance. ...but yes I would game a lot more if time allowed it.

I’m a Kinkster. I feed off the person I’m playing with so your kink becomes mine. Play does not necessarily mean sex. I’m interested in finding play partners for a variety of things. I was out of practice but I'm getting back into the swing of things.

I've been poly friendly for some time now. I have a play partner that will be considered my primary until May. I will consider a secondary but until then my time will be limited. I'm not opposed to mixing things up but it's not a requirement.

That being said I'm a firm believer in feminism, maybe not your version of feminism, but the version where a woman can choose her own path. Regardless of what that path might be high powered job, stay at home mom, or sexual deviant. Feminism means a lot of different things to a lot of different people but if we can't agree that it’s about being able to make your own choices then we don't need to talk

I can be stubborn and hard to get through to. Yet I am also a great listener and pretty good at giving real relevant advice, by real I mean truthful and not necessarily what you wanted to hear.

I am not religious at all. If God exists he either gave up on us long ago or got bored and created someone else to play with. I do at times go through some of the motions of religion, for my family's sake and because I do believe tradition is extremely important. I wish I had more of them in my life that weren't based on an imaginary friend or that didn't involve a recovery process of 18 to 72 hours. I do believe in the power of prayer and the church but not as something divine, I believe in a person’s ability to channel their own strength and I believe that community can come together to overcome adversity. I do believe that tradition and faith are important, though I may make up my own traditions, and my faith is more likely to be in myself, my friends, my family and even the stars and the earth before a divine power.

I'm a loyal person. I'm the guy you can call and will help you move. I'm the friend that will help you talk it out. Need some honest perspective I'm your guy. Need the truth/reality of a situation rather than being told what you want to hear, yup I'm that friend. I think outside the box and can usually help you avoid dumb decisions if you can actually accept and follow good sage like advice.

My dream girl is smart, she's adventurous, motivated, independent, sex positive, she also happens to get turned on if another woman flirts with me the idea of me having my way with another woman gets her wet, or us having our way with another woman. She also wants hers... and I’m happy to help fulfill her fantasies... but we don't cheat if we do something with someone else(s) we've discussed it either the situation or that person specifically. And she's kinky as fuck.

PS - If I rate you highly it doesn't necessarily mean I want to date you, fuck you or marry you. It may just be as simple as I respect what your profile represents or says. Maybe something in it moved me or I appreciated your outlook on something. Try not to read into it too much or just ask.

Also I am not in Rochester expect to drive at least 40 minutes (from Rochester) if you're truly interested.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Losing Weight
Hitting the Gym
Getting Kinkier

Gaming... is not a priority right now, but it is a part of who I am, if that's something you can't abide then you need to move along.

Right Now, editing my profile...?!?!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Offending People... (Unintentionally)
Not Being Offended...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
sex toys
buffalo wing based foods
like minded individuals
oh and those things that keep me alive (water air videos games tv emissions etc)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why people even want that perfect first message on these sites, awkward is better it means they didn't practice on 10,000 other people perfecting their method.

How Awesome Would it be if Purple Hair made a person taste like grape?!?!

How Blanket Forts Are Awesome! (until someone farts in it)

Why people take pictures with their hoarder pile in the background?

Why the IRS insists my inner child doesn't count as an exemption!?!?

BDSM, LOI, DV, DP, DA... stuff like that!


Assuming the world is round and that time is infinite would you like some flapjacks?

Why Slut Shamming is a thing...?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Trying to decode the OkCupid algorithm that says the match % and the enemy % can add up to be more than 100%.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Have you read my profile... seriously you want more than that...

I don't judge... very little you can say will shock me...
You should message me if
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If you can figure out which parts of my profile are humorous and which are serious...

You think dominating a girl together is a good couples activity.

If you eat beef, chicken, turkey, pork and all their cousins and their tasty variations or at least won't piss and moan when I do. I'll eat your green things once in awhile, you know probably.

Like me you've forgotten more about doing Math than most people learned to begin with, or you still remember it and can forgive that I've forgotten it.

You have a fetlife account and know how to use it.

You know how to tell someone what you want.

You've been secretly stalking me and I haven't noticed!

You're sweet and innocent and would like to change that. <- Is that too creepy?

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