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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25-45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 11:20am
Relationship Type
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Average build
Special Diet
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Dutch (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
is a work in progress.

I'm a physician and writer possibly looking for someone kind and compassionate. Brilliant intelligence and wit are welcome, but I won't say essential, because romance is surprising. if you have any remarkable creative talents--for example, you've written several earth-shattering novels or your singing voice makes strangers burst into sobs--that would be awesome. but if you merely wish you had such talents, that's okay too.

You can read an extended interview with me here:
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I used to dream of being the next Diogenes....until a friend pointed out that nothing written by Diogenes still exists. Now I'd settle for winning a Pushcart Prize....
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
asking difficult questions.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I prefer to go unnoticed. It enhances my pick-pocketing. If you return home from work and find you're missing your watch or one of your stockings, but you can't explain the disappearance, that was me. I'll give them back to you in exchange for good company.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Yes, I have favorites. But I am open to liking your favorites as well. There are limits, of course: I will only eat human beings if they are farm raised and organic.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to write better short stories.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
either at the theater or wishing i was at the theater. far too often it is wishing....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am actually the Unabomber, but I'm glad they pinned it on that other guy.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are willing to meet for coffee at some point. If we make it to a second date, I'll give you an advance copy of my forthcoming novel.

you should think of yourself as a kind-hearted and generous person. i will make every effort to be the same. i am also very open-minded when it comes to dating, so as long as you're not a sociopath or overtly bigoted, I'll probably enjoy meeting you.