If you get bored at any point, skip to "You should message me if" for the bare essentials. The rest is for anyone who likes to do their homework.
If you agree with or can accommodate this sort of perspective on life, that's a good start:
I'm not after casual sex at the moment. I am open to "casual" and "serious" relationships and have fairly clear ideas about what either might involve. I may include them here in future, but for now I think it's nicer if they just evolve gradually from natural and casual conversation. In essence, the former is going to be pretty easy to come by and fun, the latter not at all easy, but beautiful, rewarding, hopefully life-affirming.
I’m “easygoing”, love humour and I don’t ,“take myself too seriously” but I do wince at such phrases and people who claim to be “a right laff”. I’m serious enough to be considerate and concerned with morality, and always try to do the right thing, though things are rarely black and white. To you this means I’ll try to be honest and up-front about any concerns you may have so that I don’t waste your time, but I won't try to offend or make you feel uncomfortable, and I will respond to any initial rejection with acceptance and humility.
I don’t speak as formally as I write, and I’m far less austere than I appear in description. I consider the measure of "maturity" to be in your honest attempts to understand the world around you and your capacity to find a meaningful/responsible role in it, rather than by how solemnly you act or your refraining from puerile activity or banter (which I find frequently stimulating :-p).
That said I do also enjoy intellectual conversation and philosophy (without it life seems random and devoid of real intention). You don't have to be supersmart, but you do have to be rational without being cold. I’m a massive contradiction between logic and sentimentality, though I aspire more to the logical side when the two go head to head.
I’m passionate about videogames and music, in a variety of ways and for a variety of reasons. I love food and keep fit mostly just so that I can eat more :) I’ll probably beat you at Scrabble. I’ll definitely beat you at Tetris ^_^. I’m keen to try out or take interest in most activities. I won’t look after you financially, but don’t expect any favours from you either.
I’m an Atheist who is considering the significance and validity of jumping on the Antitheist bandwagon, and to what extent. I don’t necessarily dislike or judge you harshly for being religious, but most religious perspectives, other than say moderate Buddhism, are likely to leave us struggling in a very intimate relationship.
I wouldn’t say I’m non-conformist, because that implies a fundamental and irrational pre-disposition to rebel, but there are a lot of mainstream views which seem silly and quaint once you distance yourself a little from our immediate cultural circumstances and look at them objectively, so I try to see past them and live accordingly where I’m able to. This usually leaves people with the impression that I’m strange, but I prefer to think I belong to the normal minority.
A bird flew into my head at full speed the other day. It hurt a lot and it’s no wonder they get KO’d when they hit a window. Don’t worry about me, the bird’s fine! Pssshhhh. I try to make a point of smiling at people in wheelchairs, not in any patronising sense, but because if you ever actually spend the day in one you’ll find it’s amazing how differently you’re looked upon :(. That’s about as close to artificial nicety as I get.
My voice is weird, and I’m a bit of an accent chameleon. I don’t mean to be or do it to be rude, though probably taking the piss out of accents all the time as a kid is why I’m like that :-p. For your part, if you’re any kind of combination of softly-spoken, sweet, well-spoken, or even posh (turnaround for you here) then score, that’s hot! :)
I’m online dating for the first time but I’m bewildered by people’s apprehension about it and the stigma attached to it. Yes, you’ve got to take some basic precautions, but other than that online dating really is the most practical choice if you want to find a match. It’s at your leisure, you give out the details you want, you can browse freely, quickly and accurately to find the specific qualities you’re looking for, however restrictive and intricate they may be.
We live in a strange world that places all this at our fingertips, but still considers the normative approach to romance to go out, get pissed and choose a candidate based solely on appearance from a mere roomful of equally inebriated strangers who may or may not be looking for a relationship. I mean come on, which is the weirdo’s choice here? Get a grip! :-p
The only unavoidable downside to online is the fact that chemistry and attraction can only really be discovered when you meet. Inevitably this sometimes leads to disappointment, deflation or embarrassment. So I ask anyone I may end up meeting to show a little honesty and a decent balance of modesty and self-respect in regards to this matter. Basically, I’m never going to be rude, but those who can’t handle a bruised ego with dignity need not apply. Naturally, I live by the same rule.
If you think THIS is too long, wait ‘til I update and add what I’m looking for in a relationship :-D