There are only two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as if everything is." --Albert Einstein

I choose the second option!

I am looking for new friends and eventually a new life partner to enjoy the ride. I particularly want to start traveling soon! I also love to get out and about around town for mini-adventures. I love the arts and culture in the very broadest sense. I am as comfortable at the symphony as I am at a rock concert. I also enjoy getting out into nature for camping and hiking trips.

I am not always on the go, I also have a well developed domestic side(ok.. I don't actually like to clean but I can at least keep things somewhat presentable). I guess that is necessary when you are a single dad every other night. I really enjoy cooking ( Vegetarian(mostly vegan)) when I have the time. I enjoy just snuggling up to a good movie rather than going out a lot of the time.

If you looked over to the right side you probably noticed that I have a PhD. That is also somewhat of a blessing and a curse as it can be very intimidating to people. However, I really am not an arrogant bastard! I promise! :-) I am a professor(often a rather absent minded one! ) who teaches and conducts research at a medical school. I research racial/ethnic and socioeconomic disparities in health and health care access. The kind of research that hopefully helps make the world a more fair and just place, as well as helping to reduce suffering.

I try to practice what I preach and live as healthy a lifestyle as possible. I run, do yoga, and lift weights as often as I can manage to. I also have a meditation practice to help maintain my sanity in this sometimes crazy world.

I also enjoy creating. Whether it's painting and decorating my house or drawing. I've even have done some acting (I love it but it is very time consuming).

God this profile is starting to annoy me! I sound like such a goody-goody! Little "Mr. Perfect"! I really am not..really!.. I better just shut-up now!

Trying to stay awake and present in whatever I'm doing! Trying to have as much fun as possible while also helping others.

Loving(emotionally AND physically!). Laughing. Cooking. Teaching. Learning. Daydreaming. Meditating. Writing profiles on dating sites? :-)

A certain je ne sais quoi? ;-)

I would hope that they notice that I am genuine and kind (most of the time!)..

Books: Ken Wilber and David Deida are my favorite authors at the moment. All-time favorite authors are Aldous Huxley and Herman Hesse. Also enjoy science fiction (Asimov,Heinlein) and fantasy. Yes, I have read all the Harry Potter books. The Alchemist, The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Shambhala Sacred Path of the Warrior, The Gift by Hafiz.

Movies:Are you really going to read this ridiculously long list? Don't you have something better to do (obviously I didn't when I wrote it!)
Fight Club!, LOTR trilogy, Batman Begins/ Dark Knight, Original Star Wars Trilogy, I Heart Huckabees, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Fear and Loathing in Los Vegas, V is for Vendetta, A Scanner Darkly, The Usual Suspects, The Fifth Element, Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels, Snatch, Pan's Labyrinth, The Wicker Man(1973 version), Donnie Darko, Casablanca, The Science of Sleep, The Last King of Scotland, The Lives of Others, 28 Days Later, Godfather 1 and 2,
One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest, 12 Angry Men, Pulp Fiction, Raiders of the Lost Ark, The Silence of the Lambs, The Matrix, Memento, American Beauty, A Clockwork Orange, 2001: A Space Odessey, Baveheart, Bladerunner, The Thing, Bound, Borat, Jackass 1 and 2, Harold and Kumar go to White Castle, Something about Mary, Clerks, Zack and Miri Make a Porno, The Life of Brian

Video Games: Only play in moderation, mostly with my kids. I'm still stuck in the last generation! I enjoy RPGs and adventure games with good story lines. Love the Zelda series, and on the dark side the Resident Evil series. These aren't the most social games unless you are a video game geek and can watch when someone else is playing!

Music: I love music!!!! It really depends on my mood: Lately have been listening to a lot Psytrance on Pandora. Classic Rock, Alternative Rock(Ben Folds Five, Bare Naked Ladies, Radiohead, Red Hot Chili Peppers),Metal(especially old school: Iron Maiden, Metallica(the old stuff!), Megadeth; but also new like Disturbed, System of a Down, Avenged Sevenfold, Trivium), Jazz fusion/Mixed Genre stuff (Bela Fleck, Al DiMeola), Classical (esp Baroque), Chanting, Classical and Flamenco guitar,

Food: vegetarian.(I don't discriminate in my friends and lovers, but for a long-term partnership this would be a requirement) I love Indian, Thai, Mexican and Italian. A good new york style pizza! Good Beer, Wine, or Scotch(in moderation of course!)

Sex, sex, sex, sex, sex and more sex!

Just kidding! (A joke for the women on here always complaining about guys on OKC talking about sex in the first IM conversation.)

I do love sex (I even wrote a post about it!), like all men, but it really is not the be all and end all of a relationship.

Ok here are some more things:

My children, Books, Music, "The Internets", Good Friends, Coffee, Meditation, Sleep (God I absolutely hate being sleep deprived!), and Breaking rules like listing only six things!

What I really want to manifest in my life!

What color to paint the rest of the walls in my house.

Integral Philosophy(it explains everything!).

My next artistic masterpiece.

What needs to get done to provide for my children's health and happiness.

Sometimes I actually think about my research and what is the proper statistical test for a particular study.

The best is when I am able to not think and just be in the moment. The space between your thoughts is where enlightenment begins!

There is no "typical" Friday night! Sometimes I am just hanging with the kids watching a movie, sometimes I am out at a party, sometimes I am just hanging with a friend or two, sometimes I am working on a drawing or reading, sometimes I am just crashed out from an exhausting week, sometimes I am on this website trying to find new friends! The possibilities are endless!

I can moonwalk(the strange thing is, I posted this fact on my profile the night before Michael Jackson died..psychic and synchronistic occurrences are a normal part of my life)! Yes I was once a white suburban break-dancer, before I discovered metal and the mosh-pit! Haven't done much breakin' or moshin' lately!

Were you expecting something sexual here???? Oh please that's so blasé !

ok..ok I 'll admit something somewhat sexual. I believe that monogamy past about 2 years is extremely difficult for myself and most humans. This requires one of two things for a relationship to last 1) A conscious commitment by both partners to continue to make the relationship a top priority in and out of the bedroom. 2) a shift to polyamory. I am open to both options!

"You want to", is the short answer, but if you really want to read some more I am more than happy to oblige with yet another avalanche of words!

You are my long lost soul-mate who has been looking for me across life-times and has finally found me due to the modern miracle that is OKcupid! I'm only half-joking about that! Don't believe the non-romantic badge below (I don't believe in the Hallmark-Diamond industry type of romance), but if I love you I won't ever give you a reason to doubt it!

You are a woman whose superior intellect is only eclipsed by the size of her heart! Your mind must be the servant of your heart(not the other way around)!

I especially appreciate you messaging me if you are an attractive ENFJ or ESFJ, since those are supposed be my best MB matches..in my experience it is usually NF women that I really connect with....but I am not going to discriminate by type if the chemistry is there! For the record I am an INFP..but in one to one situations or when I am giving a presentation you would never guess that I am an introvert!

You are fun-loving and playful but NOT crazy(yes, that is a technical term). I have made a promise to myself to stop falling in love with crazy women! I understand that we all could be considered crazy by at least one other person's perspective. However, if you suspect you have serious mental health issues and have not yet sought out professional help, please stay away from me until you do. The problem is the truly crazy ones never even question their sanity.....

Yes I know I keep mentioning women and way back up top there it says I am bisexual. That is because every once in a while I am attracted to a hot guy, but I don't foresee myself in a long term relationship with one. So if you are hot intelligent guy lets chat...

Especially message me if you understand and aspire to this quote:

“The integral sage, the nondual sage… Known generally as "tantric," these sages insist on transcending life by living it. They insist on finding release by engagement, finding nirvana in the midst of samsara, finding total liberation by complete immersion… Indeed, the whole point is to be fully at home in the body and its desires, the mind and its ideas, the spirit and its light. To embrace them fully, evenly, simultaneously, since all are equally gestures of the One and Only Taste. To inhabit lust and watch it play; to enter ideas and follow their brilliance; to be swallowed by Spirit and awaken to a glory that time forgot to name. Body and mind and spirit, all contained, equally contained, in the ever-present awareness that grounds the entire display.”
Ken Wilber