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42 M Decatur, GA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 6:28am
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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"There are only two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as if everything is." --Albert Einstein

I choose the second option!

I love to get out and about around town for mini-adventures. I love the arts and culture in the very broadest sense. I am as comfortable at the symphony as I am at a rock concert. I also enjoy getting out into nature for camping and hiking trips.

I am not always on the go, I also have a well developed domestic side (ok.. I don't actually like to clean but I can at least keep things somewhat presentable). I guess that is necessary when you are a full time single parent to three awesome young children (Love my kids, but I am done reproducing!). I really enjoy cooking (Vegetarian) when I have the time. I enjoy just snuggling up to a good movie rather than going out a lot of the time.

If you looked over to the right side you probably noticed that I have a PhD. That is also somewhat of a blessing and a curse as it can be very intimidating to people. However, I really am not an arrogant bastard(despite what the OkCupid analysis says!)! I promise! :-) I even feel weird about putting 'jacked' for body type, but I have a lot of muscle on my frame, and none of the other descriptions really fit, lest you think I am just another self-absorbed idiot (I am at least aware of it and make fun of my vanity!)

I am a professor(often a rather absent minded one! ) who teaches and conducts research at a medical school. I research racial/ethnic and socioeconomic disparities in health and health care access. The kind of research that hopefully helps make the world a more fair and just place, as well as helping to reduce suffering.

I try to practice what I preach and live as healthy a lifestyle as possible. I run, do yoga, and lift weights as often as I can manage to. I also have a meditation practice to help maintain my sanity in this sometimes crazy world.

I also enjoy creating. Whether it's painting, drawing or decorating my house.

God this profile is starting to annoy me! I sound like such a goody-goody! Little "Mr. Perfect"! I really am not..really!.. I better just shut-up now!

My philosophy toward love is in agreement with David Deida's idea of intimate communion:

" is something you do, not something you fall into or out of. Love is something that you practice, like playing tennis or the violin, not something you happen to feel or not. If you are waiting to feel love, in passionate sex or safe conversation, you are making a mistake. Love is an action that you do–and when you do it, you feel it. When you are loving, others find you lovable. Love is an action you can practice."

Ok now I really will shut up!
What I’m doing with my life
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Living it!

Trying to stay awake and present in whatever I am doing!

This includes but is not limited to:
Doing Research
Trying to grow my own vegetables
Learning Guitar (very slowly)
Genuinely relating to others
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing profiles on dating sites? :-)

Loving(emotionally AND physically!). Laughing. Cooking. Baking. Teaching. Learning. Daydreaming. Meditating. Misplacing stuff. Epidemiologic research and statistical analysis(well I should be after spending so much time in school). Dancing(in my own energetic crazy way..)

Oh and I can do the traditional "man of the house things" like fixing stuff, hooking up electronics, and lifting heavy stuff!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A certain je ne sais quoi? ;-)

I would hope that they notice that I am genuine and kind (most of the time!)..

Lately it has been that they think I look like Mark Ruffalo (although I am built more like the Hulk than Bruce Banner) or the large Kundalini snake tattoo on my left arm.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I usually have about three books going at one time, ususally one fiction, one non-fiction, and one Buddhist/spiritual. Ken Wilber , David Deida, Chogyam Trungpa and Eckhart Tolle are my favorite authors at the moment. All-time favorite authors are Aldous Huxley and Herman Hesse. Also enjoy science fiction (especially the classics: Asimov, Heinlein, Herbert) and fantasy. Yes, I have even read all the Harry Potter books. Other influential books on my life: The Alchemist, The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Shambhala Sacred Path of the Warrior, Sex at Dawn

TV: only watch TV shows on Netflix or HBO. Breaking Bad, The Walking Dead, Game of Thrones, Battlestar Galactica (I frakkin' love that show!). Star Trek, Californication, Arrested Development(at least the first three seasons), Better Off Ted, My Name is Earl. Always Sunny, Louie, New York Jets football games

Movies: Are you really going to read this ridiculously long list? Don't you have something better to do (obviously I didn't when I wrote it!)
Dr. Horrible's Sing Along Blog, Fight Club!, LOTR trilogy, Batman Dark Knight Series, Original Star Wars Trilogy, I Heart Huckabees, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Fear and Loathing in Los Vegas, V is for Vendetta, A Scanner Darkly, The Usual Suspects, The Fifth Element, Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels, Snatch, Pan's Labyrinth, The Wicker Man(1973 version), Donnie Darko, Casablanca, The Science of Sleep, The Last King of Scotland, The Lives of Others, 28 Days Later, Godfather 1 and 2,One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest, 12 Angry Men, Pulp Fiction, Raiders of the Lost Ark, The Silence of the Lambs, The Matrix, Memento, American Beauty, A Clockwork Orange, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Baveheart, Bladerunner, The Thing, Bound, Borat, Jackass 1 and 2, Harold and Kumar go to White Castle, Something about Mary, Clerks, Zack and Miri Make a Porno, The Life of Brian

Video Games: . I enjoy RPGs and adventure games with good story lines. Love the Zelda, Uncharted and Mass Effect series.

Music: I love music!!!! It really depends on my mood: Classic Rock(even the semi-cheesy Billy Joel and Journey), Alternative Rock( Alanis Morrisette, Tori Amos, Edie Brickell, Jewel, Ben Folds Five, Bare Naked Ladies, Radiohead, Red Hot Chili Peppers),Metal(especially old school: Iron Maiden); but also new like System of a Down, Avenged Sevenfold), Jazz fusion/Mixed Genre stuff (Bela Fleck, Al DiMeola), Classical (esp Baroque), Chanting, Classical and Flamenco guitar.

Food: vegetarian.(I don't discriminate in my friends and lovers, but for a long-term partnership this would be a requirement) I love Indian, Thai, Mexican and Italian. A good New York style or Chicago deep dish pizza! Good Beer, Wine, or Scotch(in moderation of course!)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sex, sex, sex, sex, sex and more sex!

Just kidding! (A joke for the women on here always complaining about guys on OKC talking about sex in the first IM conversation.)

I do love sex, like all men, and definitely have a kinky side, but it really is not the be all and end all of a relationship.

The real list:
My children(not really "things" I know), Books, Music, "The Internets", Good Friends, Coffee, Meditation, and Breaking rules like listing only six things!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I really want to manifest in all aspects of my life, including relationships, career, money and leisure time.

What research am I going to propose to do in my next grant proposal that I'm actually really interested in AND that the federal government will actually fund.

Integral Philosophy(it explains everything!).

My next artistic creation.

What needs to get done to provide for my children's health and happiness.

Oh yeah I do think about sex quite a bit, especially when I'm not getting much!

The best is when I am able to not think and just be in the moment. The space between your thoughts is where enlightenment begins!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I could be home with the kids or pursuing whatever strikes my fancy on that particular evening.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am familiar with the Tantric arts... ;)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
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