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42 Decatur, GA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 22–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
May 1
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Strictly vegetarian
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Mostly monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Widowed unconventional professor with a big heart raising three children with totally inappropriate senses of humor (hmm..wonder where they got that from???)...also throw in two dogs and a cat. Kind of sounds like a good dramedy show.. as long as it is picked up by Showtime or HBO, I'm game.

I'm kind of like a hippy without the bad hygiene, patchouli, folk music, and excessive drug use. I am politically liberal and my research seeks to further social justice in health and healthcare. I drive a hybrid SUV and live in a co-housing community. I am a vegetarian and love veganism in concept but it is difficult to do while trying to cater to the palates of three children. I try and grow some vegetables every year. I am spiritual and a practitioner of non-dual awareness but do not believe in a personified God. I am open minded sexually and am familiar with Tantra as a spiritual path. All that said I do not totally reject materialism, am not a 100% pacifist, and think a lot of new age ideas are just loopy!

I also believe there are different types of relationships and they depend on the dynamic and respective life situations of the people involved. Essentially I am not searching for anything or anyone in particular. . I am more into finding what exists between myself and others and allowing and enjoying what dynamic exists and develops over time; whether it is as friends, lovers, or as life partners. Actually to be honest I would love to find a life-partner, I just don't count on it happening anytime soon.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living it!

Trying to stay present in whatever I'm doing and trying to be motivated by love and not fear.....told you I was kind of a hippy!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
abstract thought
vegetarian cooking
shagging..Yeah, Baby!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
A certain Je ne sais quoi? ;)

People often say I look familiar, but can't place where from....or that I look like Mark Ruffalo. Yeah I can see it , a slightly younger Mark with muscles and tattoos.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I usually have about three books going at one time, ususally one fiction, one non-fiction, and one Buddhist/spiritual. Ken Wilber , David Deida, Chogyam Trungpa and Eckhart Tolle are my favorite authors at the moment. All-time favorite authors are Aldous Huxley and Herman Hesse. Also enjoy science fiction (especially the classics: Asimov, Heinlein, Herbert) and fantasy. Yes, I have even read all the Harry Potter books. Other influential books on my life: The Alchemist, The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Shambhala Sacred Path of the Warrior

TV: only watch TV shows on Netflix or HBO. Downton Abbey, Breaking Bad, The Walking Dead, Game of Thrones, Battlestar Galactica (I frakkin' love that show!). Star Trek, Masters of Sex, Californication, Arrested Development(at least the first three seasons), Better Off Ted, My Name is Earl. Always Sunny, Louie, New York Jets football games (God they suck this year!)

Movies: Are you really going to read this ridiculously long list? Don't you have something better to do (obviously I didn't when I wrote it!)
Dr. Horrible's Sing Along Blog, Fight Club!, LOTR trilogy, Batman Dark Knight Series, Original Star Wars Trilogy, I Heart Huckabees, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Fear and Loathing in Los Vegas, V is for Vendetta, A Scanner Darkly, The Usual Suspects, The Fifth Element, Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels, Snatch, Pan's Labyrinth, The Wicker Man(1973 version), Donnie Darko, Casablanca, The Science of Sleep, The Last King of Scotland, The Lives of Others, 28 Days Later, Godfather 1 and 2,One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest, 12 Angry Men, Pulp Fiction, Raiders of the Lost Ark, The Silence of the Lambs, The Matrix, Memento, American Beauty, A Clockwork Orange, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Bladerunner, The Thing, Bound, Borat, Jackass 1 and 2, Harold and Kumar go to White Castle, Something about Mary, Clerks, Zack and Miri Make a Porno, The Life of Brian

Video Games: . I enjoy RPGs and adventure games with good story lines. Love the Zelda, Uncharted and Mass Effect series.

Music: I love music!!!! It really depends on my mood: Classic Rock(even the semi-cheesy Billy Joel and Journey), Alternative Rock( Alanis Morrisette, Tori Amos, Edie Brickell, Jewel, Ben Folds Five, Bare Naked Ladies, Radiohead, Red Hot Chili Peppers),Metal(especially old school: Iron Maiden, Metallica); but also new like System of a Down, Avenged Sevenfold), Jazz fusion/Mixed Genre stuff (Bela Fleck, Al DiMeola), Classical (esp Baroque), Chanting, Classical and Flamenco guitar.

Food: vegetarian.(I don't discriminate in my friends and lovers, but for a long-term partnership this would be a requirement) I love Indian, Thai, Mexican and Italian. A good New York style or Chicago deep dish pizza! Good Beer, Wine, or Scotch(in moderation of course!)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
More like things I don't want to do without!

My Children
Personal Growth
Good Coffee
Good Food
Good Beer
...breaking unnecessary rules like listing only six items.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What to write in this profile that will intrigue you enough to write or respond.

Why do women like looking at pictures of shirtless firemen but hate when men post shirtless selfies on their OKC profiles?

The deep philosophical conversation that would ensue if you put Timmy from South Park, Hodor, and Groot in the same room.

Seriously, I do think a lot about how to create the best life possible for myself and my children.

The best is when I am not thinking at all:

"Enlightenment begins in the space between your thoughts"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
These days mostly hanging out with the kids...unless I am out on a date with you ;)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I probably think about relationships more than most guys.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
The short answer is you want to talk to me.

If you are interested in a potential long term (meaning potential life partnership) relationship here is the checklist of what I desire in a partner, which are also the things I value and strive for in myself (if you are interested in something more causal be honest about it, I have a strong distaste for dishonesty and games):

1. Be able to give and receive love with minimal blockages (you are not trying to chase after an emotionally distant father figure and then withdrawing when actually receiving affection and attention)

2. Be on a path of personal growth, that includes introspection and ownership of your part in conflicts

3. Express anger and annoyance as it arises rather than bottling it in and exploding or taking

4. Take care of your physical health/body

5. Have an interest in relationship and sexuality as a spiritual path (I don't mean praying to Jesus together but rather as a way of becoming more present and loving)

6. You are not afraid of or shaming of your own sexuality

7. You are able to open your heart to my children, and help and interact in ways that are most comfortable to you.

8. You eat a mostly vegetarian or vegan diet

Damn I didn't think the list would be that long! I am not expecting perfection in any of these things just a commitment to getting better at all of them...and to also help me be become better at them! If you are not down for the list and you just think I'm hot, cool, interesting, whatever don't hesitate to message me just don't expect to develop a deep long term relationship with me.