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50 M Santa Clara, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:38am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly other
Other, but not too serious about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Other (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I like being around people who say what they mean, mean what they say, and avoid saying mean things where no productive outcome can result. I value truth and communication over just about everything else. I'd rather be alone than deal with shallow, predatory people.

I'm great at thinking on my feet, which is odd, because you'd think that being fully upright is when the brain would get the least blood flow.

I'm a great listener and can probably provide you with insights and observations you'd never hear otherwise. (Whether that is because most people with mental processes like mine are institutionalized is left as an exercise for the reader.)

I've been demonstrated to have multiple therapeutic effects via numerous pathways in double-blind, placebo-controlled studies, and I'm easy on the ears. I'm HDL/LDL proportionate and am a 2013 IIS Top Safety Pick. I'm housebroken and up-to-date on all my shots.

I'm self-employed, so I have time and location flexibility that most people don't.

I'm a local native but can't say I really feel at home here anymore (and am therefore open to going elsewhere -- let's run off somewhere together!)
What I’m doing with my life
I have my own business nowadays. I was a longtime software engineer / consultant and put myself through college (B.S. in C.S.), but I got fed up with several jobs in a row being offshored. Not that I'm BITTER or anything.

In addition, I'm developing other projects, such as my upcoming Twelve-Step Program for Triskaidekaphobia.
I’m really good at
Listening. Providing insight. Finding humor in anything. Neckrubs. Kakuro. Coffee. Explaining the Infield Fly Rule. Touch. Jump-starting cars. Entertaining dogs and birds. Making babies laugh. Finding the ideal wording for just about any topic for any audience. Tea. Nutritional supplements. Recalling random lyrics from memory. Balancing stuff. Explaining hockey rules and strategy to novices. Reading maps. Befriending shy dogs.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes.

Unless they've done something to cross me (or somebody I care about), in which case it's my FISTS OF VENGEANCE.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I don't read much fiction nowadays (aside from the New York Times and San Jose Mercury *wink*) for want of time; mostly nonfiction stuff about stuff I need to know, or think I need to know. Last fiction was probably Nicholson Baker's "The Mezzanine" (the frightening thing is, how that character thinks is how I think) or Patrick O'Brian's "Master and Commander" (the original, not the one of the Crowe film). I liked all the Tolkien books and the series C.S. Lewis books, but that was ages ago.

Movies: I go to few mass-market movies... all-time favorites would include Patton, Indiana Jones I and III (note the common theme: Nazis getting their asses kicked), Run Lola Run, The Godfather I-II, the Leone westerns, the Lord of the Rings trilogy (I'm still in awe of how Peter Jackson pulled that off), Ran, Seven Samurai (and its adaptation, the Magnificent Seven), Casablanca (made DURING the darkest days of the war!)... and although not as highly rated by the "experts", I think "The Sting" might be the perfect film overall (script,cast, direction,staging,costumes,score). Love great animation, like Miyazaki.

TV: I stopped watching new series, as I seem to be a curse: the more I like a new series, the faster it is killed (from Max Headroom to Millenium to Firefly to Dresden Files). Not that I'm BITTER or anything. The only series I'm watching now: Sherlock, Blue Bloods, Elementary, CSI, Doc Martin, Nova, The Simpsons, and Bobs Burgers (I love most earlier Brendan Small / Loren Bouchard series as well: Home Movies, Lucy Daughter of the Devil, Venture Brothers). I'll pick up Breaking Bad on video where I left off when Comcast started sucking so badly I dropped down to basic cable).

Music: I don't categorize well. I like all kinds of acoustic music (pretty much) and music from all over the world, from Finnish folk to Amazight (from Morocco) to Celtic to Tuvan throat-singing. Love live music (I go to Santa Cruz and Felton and such for smaller gigs all the time). Anyway... here's some lifetime favorites (in no particular order): "Making Movies", Dire Straits; "Splendido Hotel", Al di Meola; "Pat Metheny Group"; "The Innocent Age", Dan Fogelberg; "Seleniko", Varttina; "Leftoverture", Kansas; "Moving Pictures", Rush... I saw Joe Bonamassa in Sacto and San Jose in April!

Food: I eat low-carb. Don't have much choice. There's just too much at steak. *rimshot* (I lost a great deal of weight when I discovered low-carb 14 years ago.)
The six things I could never do without
honest communication
live music
fun car
live hockey
Blue Skies
Green Lights
Pink Floyd
I spend a lot of time thinking about
where in the hell things went wrong.

And smoked meats.
On a typical Friday night I am
out in the park with my hibachi, hunting squirrels with a crossbow.

Unless there's a Sharks or Giants home game or concert or something.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have delusions of grandeur (I don't even OWN a crossbow).

I have a desk drawer full of Higgs bosons.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 36–52
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
- it has finally occurred to you that you have outgrown shallow, predatory people.
- you value communication: intellectual as well as physical connection.
- you find your friends' Facebook obsession to be both perplexing and a little disturbing.

or, it's just late and you need help opening that jar of almond butter.

Are you thoughtful, yet not self-absorbed? Are you comfortable in your own skin? (I certainly hope so, since wearing somebody else's skin would be seriously creepy.) Do you enjoy long, meaningful talks and long walks off short piers?

But don't contact me if you claim to be looking for a "partner in crime" but are, in fact, the type who would then rat me out the second they put us in separate interrogation rooms. I think that demonstrates a fundamental misunderstanding of what being a "partner" is all about.

And speaking of which, if you are married and just looking for some sucker who will knock off your husband for you, at which point you ditch me and abscond with all that insurance money with some boytoy, I'm not falling for THAT. Again.