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52 Santa Clara, CA Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 38-52
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 2:04am
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Agnosticism but it’s not important
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
English (Fluently), Other (Somewhat), Other (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I like being around people who say what they mean, mean what they say, and avoid saying mean things where no productive outcome can result. I value truth and communication over just about everything else -- I'd rather be alone than deal with shallow or predatory people.

I'm great at thinking on my feet, which is counterintuitive, because you'd think that being fully upright is when one's brain would get its LEAST blood flow.

I'm a great listener and can probably provide you with insights and observations you'd never hear otherwise. (Whether that is because most people with mental processes like mine have been involuntarily institutionalized is left as an exercise for the reader.)

My attention has been demonstrated to have multiple therapeutic effects via numerous pathways in double-blind, placebo-controlled studies, and I'm easy on the ears. I'm HDL/LDL proportionate and am a 2015 IIS Top Safety Pick. I'm also housebroken and up-to-date on all my shots -- free to good home!

The Meyers-Briggs sites I've tried tend to label me as INTP. But then again, their banner ads think I'm still shopping refrigerators, so what do they know?

I'm a little old-fashioned (in the sense that I need to be oiled regularly and it's difficult to find compatible parts or skilled mechanics).

I'm self-employed, so I have time and location flexibility that most people don't. On the other hand, I don't get to ride in a cushy corporate luxury bus or go to cool company parties. (Perhaps that's where you come in.) Before starting my business, I was an engineer / programmer / consultant for 20+ years. I'm still unclear on what I want to be when I grow up.

I'm a local native, but I am not a fan of how the area has changed and am open to relocating. Let's run off somewhere together!
What I’m doing with my life
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I've had my own business for 13 years, but due to market changes I am in the process of winding it down by choice.. I was a longtime software engineer / consultant and put myself through university (B.S. in C.S. and Business Administration) and will looking to get back to more conventional employment. Open to relocating.

I have other side projects, such as developing a Twelve-Step Program for Triskaidekaphobia. I'm also hoping to become Sarah McLachlan's dog-sitter.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. Providing insight. Finding humor in anything. Neckrubs. Backrubs. Kakuro. Kenken. Coffee. Explaining the Infield Fly Rule. Touch. Jump-starting cars. Entertaining dogs and birds. Engaging babies and making them laugh. Finding the ideal wording for just about any topic for any audience. Tea. Reciting Monty Python bits. Nutritional supplements. Recalling random lyrics from memory. Balancing stuff (like, on my nose). Explaining hockey rules and strategy to novices. Reading maps. Befriending shy dogs. Controlling squirrels with my mind.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My eyes.

Unless they've done something to cross me (or somebody I care about), in which case it's my FISTS OF VENGEANCE.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I don't read much fiction nowadays (aside from the New York Times and San Jose Mercury News *wink*) for want of time; mostly nonfiction stuff about stuff I need to know, or think I need to know. Last fiction was probably Nicholson Baker's "The Mezzanine" (the frightening thing is, how that character's running mental monologue resembles how I think) or Patrick O'Brian's "Master and Commander" (the original, not the one of the Crowe film). I liked all the Tolkien books and the series C.S. Lewis books (the Space Trilogy, Chronicles of Narnia), but that was ages ago.

Movies: I prefer small films to mass-market movies... all-time favorites would include Patton, Indiana Jones I and III (note the common theme: Nazis getting their asses kicked), Run Lola Run, The Godfather I-II, the Leone westerns, the Lord of the Rings trilogy (I'm still in awe of how Peter Jackson pulled that off), Ran, Seven Samurai (and its adaptation, the Magnificent Seven), Casablanca (made DURING the darkest days of the war!)... and although not as highly rated by the "experts", I think "The Sting" might be the perfect film overall (script,cast, direction,staging,costumes,score).

I love great animation, like Miyazaki and Nick Park.

TV: I stopped watching new series, as I seem to be a curse: the more I like a new series, the faster it is killed (from Max Headroom to Millenium to Firefly to Dresden Files)... not that I'm BITTER or anything. The only series I'm watching now: Sherlock, Blue Bloods, Elementary, CSI, Doc Martin, Nova, The Simpsons, and Bobs Burgers (I love most earlier Brendan Small / Loren Bouchard series as well: Home Movies, Lucy Daughter of the Devil, Venture Brothers). I'll pick up Breaking Bad on video where I left off when Comcast started sucking so badly I dropped down to basic cable).

Music: I don't categorize well. I like all kinds of acoustic music (pretty much) and music from all over the world, from guitar virtuosos (Rodrigo y Gabriela, Martin Simpson, Joe Bonamassa, Peppino D'Agostino, etc.) to Finnish folk to Amazight (from Morocco) to Celtic to Tuvan throat-singing. Love live music (I go to Santa Cruz and Felton and such for smaller gigs all the time). Anyway... here's some lifetime favorites (in no particular order): "Making Movies", Dire Straits; "Splendido Hotel", Al di Meola; "Pat Metheny Group"; "The Innocent Age", Dan Fogelberg; "Seleniko", Varttina; "Leftoverture", Kansas; "Moving Pictures", Rush...

I saw Joe Bonamassa in Sacto and San Jose in April!

Food: I eat low-carb. Don't have much choice. There's just too much at steak.


I lost a great deal of weight when I discovered low-carb 14 years ago. So, I'm kinda stuck with it. Curse you heathen bakers and your garlic-bread taunts!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
honest communication
live music
Blue Skies
Green Lights
Pink Floyd
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
1) where in the hell it all went wrong.

2) were the Persians obsessed with conquering the Greeks because they wanted Greek yogurt technology?

c) Rumi wrote, "Do not feel lonely, the entire universe is inside you." Is he thereby calling me "fat" ?

IV) The Russians, the French, the Greeks, and the Italians all got one (in fact, Caesar got one of his own)... but why didn't the IRISH get a salad dressing? Such injustices vex me. I hate being vexed.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
out in the park with my hibachi, hunting squirrels with a crossbow.

Unless there's a concert or hike or game or art opening or something.

So, make me a better offer. PLEASE.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have delusions of grandeur. (For example, I don't even OWN a crossbow).

I have a desk drawer full of Higgs bosons. But, it's locked, and I can't find the key.

I still use VCRs.
You should message me if
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- you acknowledge that you have outgrown shallow, predatory people and will not settle for that.
- you value forthright communication: intellectual as well as physical connection.
- you find your friends' social media obsessions to be both perplexing and sad at the same time.

OR, it's just late and you need help opening that last jar of almond butter or coping with strange noises in your house.

Are you thoughtful, yet not self-absorbed? Are you comfortable in your own skin? (I certainly hope so, since wearing somebody else's skin would be seriously creepy.) Do you enjoy long, meaningful, forthright talks and long walks off short piers?

On the other hand, don't contact me if you claim to be looking for a "partner in crime" but are, in fact, the type who would then rat me out the second they put us in separate interrogation rooms. (I think that such behavior demonstrates a fundamental misunderstanding of what being a "partner" is all about.)

And speaking of which, if you are partnered and just looking for some sucker who will knock off your partner for you, only to then ditch me and abscond with all the insurance money and some boytoy, I'm not falling for THAT.


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