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IntentionalJon

27 M Saint Paul, MN

I’m looking for

  • Straight women only
  • Ages 23–30
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:16am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Catholicism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$40,000–$50,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I am relocating to Boulder, CO at the end of 2014. So, there's that.

A word of warning that this is going to get (unapologetically) wordy, because I love words and what they can do. Consider yourself so warned.

☞ God comes first. I'm not willing to compromise away my Catholic identity.
☞ I grew up in Dubuque, Iowa but have lived in the Cities since 2005. I'm still Iowan at heart but consider Minnesota as my adoptive homeland.
☞ By design, I don't own a lot of things. Intentional living is more than a motto.
☞ I'm not worried about finding happiness in life. I search for meaning in all things, instead.
☞ I have cultivated a talent for steam calliope. I suppose this and some related interests make me something of an anachronist.
☞ Words and ideas leave me insatiably intrigued, and the world is too big a place for restricting words and ideas to labels like conservative and liberal.
☞ Music (composing, singing, arranging, listening) is my perpetual glimpse into divinity. If you're cool with me noodling around on the piano while you're reading on the couch, we're going to get along fabulously.
☞ The river runs through my veins. I spend a lot of time at or on the water.
☞ I have learned first-hand that it is in the surviving of crises that one can simultaneously embody humility, self-possession, and compassion.
☞ Without family, I am nothing, and family can be so many things.
☞ I have two ears and only one mouth for a reason.
☞ A first inversion major chord with an added ninth, sung by a choir with good intonation, will always warm the cockles of my heart.
☞ Seriously, steam calliopes make my socks roll up and down.

I would be a fool to say that I have life figured out, so I will instead say that I am a man on a journey. It really all comes down to this: I intend to live a life characterized by unceasing love, and I discerned early on that I could best accomplish this through a lifelong, companionate, marital relationship. Every time I have had an opportunity to examine my life, I've returned to the same conclusion. It's not the only thing that will bring me fulfillment, but I know it is my vocation. I don't put off things that are important to me, which is the whole reason I'm here looking for a life partner.
What I’m doing with my life
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Relentlessly pursuing my life goals while enjoying the journey and finding meaning along the way. I really am grateful to be me!

I'm a tech writer for a music software company here in Minnesota. The guy that knows how to do that one thing in [insert industry-standard scorewriting software here]? I'm him. Seriously, how cool is it that I get to work a 9-to-5 job with the people who were legendary to me as a student and musician? Most of my non-work time is spent continuing my calliope research, writing music, playing piano, going to choir rehearsals, goings-on at my church (St. Cecilia), and communing with nature at the river side.

Music is not only my profession but also my passion. I play piano/keyboards, with a particular (peculiar) interest in steam calliope. No, really. Steam calliope. For real. Ask me about it. Plenty of videos of me doing so online...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Lifelong learning.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm not as dim-witted as I look? Beats me.

Maybe the better question is reflective: what do I notice, without using judging language? In the past two years, I've noticed a much-increased capacity for patience; a true satisfaction in having several close friends rather than many acquaintances; a marked shift in my compositional style; and a greater awareness of how differently I perceive the passage of time.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My musical tastes are manifold: I prefer traditional New Orleans/Dixieland jazz, ragtime, modern choral music, and liturgical music. I've been known to listen to Ben Folds, and Peter Ostroushko blows my mind. Also, Victor Borge is sort of my idol.

You know how some people say that some book is "their bible"? Yeah, my bible is the Bible. Also, I may have said this elsewhere, but Viktor Frankl's "Man's Search for Meaning" quite literally changed my life. Full list available on my LibraryThing.

I do not own a TV, and I'm perfectly okay with that. I prefer my shows live, as in the Guthrie. I am guilty, however, of being a sucker for The West Wing, Parks & Rec, A Mighty Wind, and documentaries. Ultimately I'd rather be reading, doing, or (more often than not) creating something.

I would rather cook for someone than go out to eat. I've just discovered ZipList - it's entirely transforming my recipe management system.

I have a deep appreciation for Calvin & Hobbes and old time radio. I listen to a lot of NPR, and I have been a contestant on Wait, Wait, Don't Tell Me. I've got Carl Kasell's personalized message on my voicemail to prove it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Faith, family, friends... there seems to be an alliterative pattern here. You know what? My pillow. Yeah, that's crucial. Preferably with a freshly-washed-and-dried flannel pillow case. Also, the overwhelming beauty of the bluffs of the Upper Mississippi. I grew up in Dubuque, IA, so I guess I'm biased. Just stunning in the fall!

The sixth thing I could never do without: the freedom to choose whether or not I will adhere to predefined, arbitrary rules on listing the number of things I could never do without. Fortunately for the OkCupid team, it just so happens that here we are at number six, and I'm calling it quits. Touché, mes amis.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Music, faith, and steamboats/calliopes, chiefly; lately, the importance of tempering honesty with compassion. Names for dogs, particularly bassets (Boudreaux, Jackson, Walter, Clyde, Charlie, Woodrow) and Corgis (Wexford, Cornelius, Hamish, Ralph, Fibber McGee, and Murphy Derps).

UPDATE: I have only just realized that my username is an anagram for Jean Lint Notion, which I do hereby claim as the name of my non-existent band. Alternatively, it is an anagram for Ole Tannin Joint, which will likewise be reserved for the name of my non-existent tea tavern.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Reflecting down at the river (usually across from downtown St. Paul), reconnecting with my roots. It's great to feel so calm amid the hushed lap of the current against the rocks. That, or trying to organize an impromptu Balderdash party.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I regularly harmonize with household appliances, usually in dorian mode or unhemitonic pentatony. I am also apparently genetically disinclined to enjoy cilantro. But seriously, I am very open to the people I trust, and we'll discuss anything you want an honest answer to, as long as I consider it safe to discuss.
You should message me if
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Seeking a woman brilliant of mind and compassionate of spirit.

One of the first things I do on this site is to look at the "explanations" category of a person's match questions. I'm really looking for a woman who has put real thought into her answers, and bonus points if, in one or more answers, you've written "I don't accept the premise of this question."

Ultimately, the best way of describing what I'm looking for is a life partner. I want to be my wife's confidante, her advocate, and her equal. I intend to bring my spouse into all areas of my life, because I know that an experience is best when shared; likewise, I want to discover her background, passions, and viewpoints.

Also, to be very frank, I'm looking for someone who, like me, is crazy about their relationship with God (without actually being crazy). The beauty that I find in the liturgy, a morality based on sound philosophical foundations, the intellectual tradition of the church, and the natural world all around me - that beauty defies description. I so completely want to share that joy and hope and love with a companion. :)

I suppose I should note that I am seldom one to initiate contact, out of deference to what I can only imagine is the overwhelming number of disgusting contacts women receive on such websites. If I do reach out, it's only because I'm quite flabbergasted - in a good way - by what I've just read on a profile.