Iolairemhara
64 Inverness, CA
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My self-summary
Genuine, affectionate, mature and intuitive single gay man, fit, friendly, active, and passionate.

Currently living a rich and fulfilling life in the West Marin countryside after decades in New York and San Francisco. Traveled and cultured, a Francophile trained in three Asian languages and a long-term buddhist meditation and study practice.

I gravitate to an inclusive multicultural scene. Black lives matter, and I continue to do my inner work and be my own best friend as well as engage in community organizing, activism and political revolution. Yes, Bernie Sanders!

Experienced in long-term adult relationship and authentic emotional intimacy, I'm looking for love - a journey that begins with friendship and requires communication, compromise and commitment.

I seek companionship and authentic connection with someone unique and special - a man whose body, heart and mind fire me up, and who can be fired up by mine as well.
What I’m doing with my life
Retired but hardly inactive: I've created and hosted community radio station programs, written for local newspapers and a gay lit magazine, volunteered at Point Reyes National Seashore and several local non-profits, and participated in local education, mentoring, politics and community issues. If there were local government I'd run for mayor - and likely win.

I worked for Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute (SIYLI) and have now settled at Point Reyes National Seashore Association, the non-profit educational and fundraising partner of the national park, within whose wild magnificence I live.
I’m really good at
Communicating, conversation, cooking and driving.
Editing, entertaining, gardening, kissing, listening and laughing.
Loving, meditating, networking, nurturing and organizing.
Relationships (intimate and casual), story-telling, Pilates, hiking and swimming.
The first things people usually notice about me
My energy and presence, my tiger eyes, my silvery hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
People (and men): I'm drawn to folks different from myself - culturally, ethnically, socially or linguistically. I appreciate living in the bicultural Latino/Anglo community of West Marin, and am deeply disturbed by West Marin's segregation and economic disparities.

In men, I'm attracted to unique personalities and life experiences, to individuality, and to kindness, beauty, intelligence and good communication skills.

Relationship-wise I've been usually drawn to African American guys, but am also attracted to men from India and the Middle East, the Far East, and French and Dutch men. Not averse to redheads, blonds or other guys, and generally find younger guys more interesting.

I'm fond of beards, butts and brains, and glasses.

Music: classic Jazz, the blues, gospel, pop, classical (Middle Eastern, Asian and European), Philip Glass, and world music.

Books: history and biography, mostly.

Movies: I like actors (Daniel Craig, George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Alec Guinness) and actresses (Cate Blanchett, Tilda Swinton, Helen Mirren, Maggie Smith) more than specific films. I enjoy good costume dramas, foreign language, and classic British, French or Japanese movies.

Food: I'm a good cook, appreciate good food and drink, enjoy a meal with friends in or out, love Chez Panisse, Asian cuisine, picnics, Brown Sugar Kitchen in Oakland, Bette's Diner in Berkeley, and good road food.
The six things I could never do without
fresh air and wilderness
friends and family
love
music
my home in the forest by the bay
the ability to write, think and converse
I spend a lot of time thinking about
labeling my thoughts as "thinking".
On a typical Friday night I am
In good weather I'm outdoors - hiking, gardening, on a road trip or somewhere urban in search of good food, art or style.

In winter I'm appreciating the comforts of home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Really? on the internet?
You should message me if
Oscar Wilde said, “Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”
I'm attracted to individuals, including but not solely, adult men whose best relationships are with themselves - to me, character and confidence are the sexiest asset of all!
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