Honesty and good communication are really important to me. It should be open, with an 'anything goes' mentality. Our hopes, our dreams, our fears, thoughts on anything that comes up. We don't have to agree on everything. It would probably get boring if we did. Varied and diverging interests help us to grow and learn.
I have been polyamorous. I've been monogamous. A slut. And once upon a time, a prude. I hope I'm better for who I've been than who I was. Life teaches interesting lessons if you're open to learning them.
I like to find something and let it develop organically rather than steer toward an impending cliff. I find different things with different people, from friendship to playmates to lovers to who knows... I'd like to think I can fall head over heels in love again.
In the interests of honest disclosure, I"ll say that I'm kinky. Not furry handcuffs kinky. I live a leather lifestyle that fosters and values honor, integrity, respect, transparency, and acceptance of others' life choices. If you've read Fifty Shades, you'll have some idea of what I enjoy. But know that those books have given a pretty skewed and overly simplistic interpretation of it.
I am an artist. I paint a scene but not a picture. I lay lines in a bend that contour to a figure. It is an art of discovery, imagination and enlightenment. It's something that really should be experienced, but can be awe inspiring to behold.
A job brought me to Seattle last year. I moved up from Honolulu, where I'd spent a decade. Lush tropics, gorgeous weather year round, but there was more bad than good. I missed the cooler weather, the changing of seasons, and for what I do there are a lot more options here.
I was born and raised in New York City. I spent a decade around Virginia Beach, and a few years on the island of Sardinia, Italy. I've traveled through Ireland, Greece, Turkey, and parts of Spain and France.
I'm a rough, gruff man's man and I'm told that to know me is to like me. Humor is important, often dark - sometimes loud and always worth smiling about. I look for the lighter side in most everything and don't seem to take things too seriously on the surface, though I am fairly pragmatic and a pretty serious person. I love to talk and am an avid listener when I meet someone who can articulate their thoughts and share a story.
I like learning things, I like trying new things, I like introducing people to things they're curious about. I like learning patterns, and I take pride in my ability to remain articulate under difficult circumstances.
I find it really hard to describe what I want outside of who I want it with, because it's so dependent on the person involved and how I respond to them. I'm reluctant to rule much out because I enjoy so many things. Sometimes my whole world is flipped completely upside down, roles reverse, and sometimes it's a good thing.