I'm here on a whim with no expectations. Now, usually when I describe myself I leave this part out because it's a circumstance of my life rather than a personality attribute, or defining factor. However I did not mention this on another site and...when it was revealed (although it was never really hidden,) it changed things for a lot of people...sadly. So in the interest of full disclosure I should say, I am in a wheelchair. I am not paralyzed, or ill, or frail. My disability is not passed on. I live independently with some assistance at times. I lead a very active normal life. I'm out ALOT, have tons of friends, I'm bright, funny, fit and charismatic. My disability and the wheelchair should really have no impact. Sadly, I find most women assume and fear a lot of things because of it. I am well liked. and enjoy a good deal of female attention but..the great majority never view me as an "intimate option" because of those fears and assumptions. I am NOT here solely looking for sex but I will say now, I AM fully capable and dare I say...I've a lot to offer. I'd just like to be regarded as a sensual sexual, capable being and, have that element be present with someone along with the other facets of a relationship. I have spent too long being treated like nothing works etc.I'm not looking for a nurse nor caregiver, I am looking to be seen as complete, capable and desirable. This is more than I ever discuss my situation but...if it helps people get past it then, great.
Now that that's out of the way I'll tell you about me. I'm a thinker and I'm quick with a clever comment. My life has had challenges but in some ways it has also granted me great perspective. I'm wise enough to know, that even with my life as it is, I've been very lucky. People say I'm positive but I think I'm just more aware of how good I have it. Life isn't a Disney movie and ya...some days will crush you. I'm under no illusions, but I'm not dismal either.
I care very much about how I look and am perceived. I do all I can to shatter any preconceptions that come with my situation. That's not to say I'm overly vain. I just realize in my situation, the more ways I can make people take notice, the better. My humour is also key to me and along with my intellect has been my greatest asset and weapon. I'm a laid back guy but, It's important to me that my intellect be apparent.
I'm a solid friend, and a man of principle. I value my upbringing and the manners it acquitted me with. I can be the life of the party and seem larger than life but....I'm just as capable of retreating and being a great listener. I give good advice but could do with taking my own!
I'm still waiting for society at large to live up to what it professes. I'm eager for the day the same women that marvel over me and say how great I am start attaching intent to their words and amaze me. I'm here to see if anyone takes up the challenge!
I'm very into music. I love going to live shows. I've done my "clubbing days" but, still frequent live venues. I just redid my apartment so, staying home holds fresh appeal. I do love being social but....I'd love to have someone to stay in with.
I write. I'm less passionate about it than my ability would suggest but, people seem to really respond when I set to it. I'm big into physical activity and come next spring am set to try my hand at adapted rowing.
I'm looking for a woman that wants me but...doesn't necessarily need me. I want a women I like, beyond the attraction, but attraction should definitely be present. Intellect is sexy, so is humour. I want a woman that is secure with herself but can let me take the lead when needed. I want a woman that see's past the crap most get stuck on and who, can leave me utterly impressed.