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27 M Hayward, CA

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Last Online
Yesterday – 6:08pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Like everyone else, I'm too complex to summarize in a couple paragraphs so be prepared for the generalizations.

I'm an INFJ for those who are interested in the psychobabble theories. I feel that they're useful for self-reflection and also just fun to think about.

Between being a more emotionally expressive individual and putting a lot of value on honest deep conversations I'm not the average man by most standards. I've come to the conclusion that it takes more confidence to own up to these personal qualities and principles as opposed to denying them for the purpose of appearing more masculine, normal, or acceptable.

I've found that this can be frustrating for some people. However, the few who have made genuine efforts to understand me have made me feel loved. That's why I extend that same effort to people by always trying to learn the specifics of how they see themselves and what motivates them in life.

With that in mind, some words and phrases I would use to describe myself, and what I try to be, include: open-minded, idealist, inquisitive, playful, creative, avid reader, liberal, amusing, intellectual, musical, feminist, HSP, and overall a strange and intricate variety of paradoxes.
What I’m doing with my life
Pursuing my passion for education!

Recently moved back to the Bay Area, from Chicago, after graduating with a Bachelor of Arts in the Social Sciences. I'm now volunteering as a literacy tutor and have an internship with a non-profit that supports school districts in need.

In other words, I'm trying to figure out how I can work to help other people discover their interests, reach their goals, and build genuine self confidence.
I’m really good at
Active listening, over-thinking by most standards (wait, should I admit that?), getting through my to do lists, reading subtexts, cuddling, and getting too much enjoyment out of bad puns.
The first things people usually notice about me
How would I know? I don't have telepathic abilities. Or do I?

No seriously, I can't speak for other people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: A Visit From the Goon Squad, All About Love, The Importance of Being Earnest, Q.E.D., Pedagogy of the Oppressed, Bossypants, The Color of Magic, Coraline, Undoing Gender, Plato's Republic, On Revolution, Fear and Trembling, The Complete Poems of Emily Dickinson, and Letters to a Young Poet.

Journalism: Huffington Post, Jezebel, The New Yorker, Salon, NPR, etc. I know my taste can be seen as kind of pretentious... However, I'm really just a very curious person.

Movies: Amelie, Little Miss Sunshine, Aliens, O' Brother, Where Art Thou?, Finding Nemo, Elf, Arsenic and Old Lace, Garden State, Stand By Me, Pulp Fiction, The Fountain, Once Upon a Time in Mexico, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Salt, Vertigo, Edward Scissorhands, Pan's Labyrinth, What About Bob?, The Godfather, Die Hard, Lost Highway, Goodfellas, and It's a Wonderful Life.

Current Shows: Parks and Recreation, Community, The Colbert Report, Hannibal, Louie, and Chopped.

Older Favorites: Friday Night Lights, Six Feet Under, 30 Rock, Arrested Development, Battlestar Galactica, X-Files, Charmed, Buffy, What Not to Wear, Frasier, and Home Movies.

Music: Snow Patrol, Florence and the Machine, Puscifer, Muse, Garbage, Kaki King, Bon Iver, Miles Davis, Sonic Youth, Coldplay, Charles Mingus, The Pixies, Jimi Hendrix, Al Green, The Beatles, The Smashing Pumpkins, Portishead, Stevie Wonder, Chopin, The Magnetic Fields, Pearl Jam, Marvin Gaye... There's SO much music that I love!

Food: Italian food is my favorite (Bruschetta, Salads,Veggie Lasagna, Frittata, Gelato, etc.) I also enjoy certain types of Sushi, Thai, Mexican, Spanish, and Indian foods if I have to be picky. And pretty much anything chocolate for dessert.
The six things I could never do without
1. My sister
2. Coffee
3. Art
4. Animal friends
5. Learning something new
6. A sense of humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Ways to continuously challenge myself in order to learn and grow as an individual.

What the near future holds for myself, family, and friends.

And you know funny analogies, pop culture, psychology, gender, art, literature, education, history, religion, physics, language, and ultimately life, the universe, and everything.

*bonus points if you caught the reference
On a typical Friday night I am
Some reoccurring activities include: making memories with close friends, going to an art walk, seeing live music, or just staying in to read or watch something I haven't seen before.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
In order to give some insight into the kind of personalities I go for I'll admit my "celebrity crushes" have included Amy Poehler, Florence Welch, and Shirley Manson.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–37
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
Something sparked your interest, you enjoy indulging in artsy activities, you have a clever/interesting sense of humor, you also prefer to be friends before being romantically involved with someone. But above all, you have a good heart (empathy/compassion for others) and love for yourself.