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29 Hayward, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 26-37
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 11:47pm
Straight, Demisexual
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
6' 1" (1.85m)
Body Type
Average build
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
For the purpose of being upfront, I'm looking to meet people who share similar interests but are also different in ways that can inspire everything from laughter to personal development. I should also note that I'm looking for friendship to start while remaining open to the possibility that one may turn into a romantic relationship. If that's unclear please feel free to ask any questions.

Okay, like everyone else I'm too complex to summarize in a couple paragraphs, so be prepared for the generalizations. Between being a more expressive individual, once I open up, and putting a lot of value on a the type of personal connection that can only develop over time I'm not a normal guy by most standards. I am stubborn when it comes to certain principles but for the most part I am just trying to survive this crazy world and show appreciation to other people who also try to be candid, yet thoughtful, along the way.

Some words and phrases I would use to describe myself, or what I try to be, include: INFJ, open-minded, inquisitive, playful, organized, creative, respectful, avid reader, logical, outdoorsy, non-arrogant intellectual, musical, 49ers/Warriors fan, and overall a strange and intricate variety of paradoxes.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Currently working full time at a job I'm not a fan of, while simultaneously trying to find a better job based on a year of interning under the development departments of 2 NGO's.

Working in development was amazing! I really enjoyed the purpose of the work, the challenges, and a lot of the people involved. Which is why I am chasing my dream of working full-time for a NGO/non-profit that respectfully gives disadvantaged individuals opportunities to build better lives.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Active listening, over-thinking by most standards (wait, should I admit that?), getting through my to do lists, reading subtexts, cuddling, and getting too much enjoyment out of bad puns.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't know, nobody's ever told me what they notice. I'll have to get back to you on that one.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: A Visit From the Goon Squad, All About Love: New Visions, Q.E.D.: The Strange Theory of Light and Matter, Yes Please, Bossypants, The Sandman Comics, Madness & Civilization, Endless Forms Most Beautiful, The Road Less Traveled, The Creation of Patriarchy, Plato's Republic, and Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy.

Music: Garbage, Muse, Snow Patrol, The Arctic Monkeys, Kaki King, Miles Davis, Yeah Yeah Yeahs, Alicia Keys, Sonic Youth, The Killers, Elliott Smith, Blackmill, Tool, Robert Johnson, Pelican, The Pixies, Coldplay, Lightnin' Hopkins, The Beatles, Marvin Gaye... There's SO much music that I love!

Movies: Amelie, Burn After Reading, The Royal Tenenbaums, Finding Nemo, Little Miss Sunshine, Army of Darkness, Salt, The Green Mile, Once Upon a Time in Mexico, Rear Window, Pulp Fiction, Almost Famous, Edward Scissorhands, and It's a Wonderful Life.

Current Shows: Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, John Oliver, Hannibal, Orange is the New Black, and Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D.

Older Favorites: Friday Night Lights, Community, Parks and Recreation, 30 Rock, Arrested Development, Battlestar Galactica, Angel, Cosmos: A Spacetime Odyssey, Better Off Ted, Bones, and Home Movies.

Food: Italian food is my favorite (Bruschetta, Risotto, Gnocchi, Pesto, Frittata, etc.). I also really enjoy certain types of Thai, Moroccan, Mexican, and Indian foods. And pretty much anything chocolate for dessert.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Curiosity
2. Something interesting to read
3. laughter
4. Music
5. Personal goals
6. A logical explanation
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

No really, I think about all of life's unexpected outcomes and what they mean for everyone involved.

The little dreams that keep me motivated (traveling to Italy, going on a road trip along the coast, kayaking, adopting a dog, etc)

Why my love for dogs continues to grow as my faith in humanity slowly diminishes.

And you know weird analogies and puns, pop culture, gender, psychology, current events, love, education, economics, religion, literature, history, physics, music, language, and ultimately life, the universe, and everything.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I enjoy going to art walks, catching up with friends and family, seeing some live music, or just staying in to read or watch something new.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
In order to give some insight into the kind of personalities I find attractive I'll admit that my biggest "celebrity crush" is Amy Poehler.
You should message me if
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Something sparked your interest, you have a clever/interesting sense of humor, you"re passionate about something in your life, you also prefer to be friends before being romantically involved with someone. But above all, you have a good heart (empathy/compassion for others) and love for yourself.