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59 Berkeley, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 39–59
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:13pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Not at all
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Affectionate & attentive, "still boy-ishly handsome" (a direct quote from my ex), entrepreneurial & conscientious, spiritually developed & therapized, observant & intellectually curious, live in nature & work in city. (And why did I answer nearly 400 profile questions ?...)

Thanks to my new gym routine, I'm now 150lbs. vs. 130 lbs. in the photos. Nearly everyone who meets me assumes I'm in my mid-40's...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm blessed to be doing what none of my ancestors had the luxury of doing—being a full-time musician—performing and recording with my favorite jazz and world music artists in the Bay Area. I play piano & keyboards, vocals, alto flute, and hand & mallet percussion from around the world. [I bet there's a label for someone who leads a half-dozen bands, maybe something like 'Acquired Band Leader Syndrome']. I teach other teachers and am finishing a major book on the art of practicing for all artists.

I see Beauty in everything. The music in someone's speech,
the poetry in their eyes, the dance in their gestures, the design
in a pile of leaves, the unintended humor in billboard, what a building says about a culture. "There is Beauty everywhere,
only some see it", said The Buddha.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Communicating & listening w/o giving unsolicited advise, bodywork, poetry, kissing, avoiding owner's manuals, graphics, cooking, guessing what instrument someone plays or used to play (isn't everyone clairvoyant at something ?), imitating a drum-set & bass with my mouth...not complaining that I carry hundreds of pounds of gear to most gigs.
Seriously good at composing, arranging, & teaching.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
"You're from Back East, right?"
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Poets—Billy Collins, Hafiz, Mary Oliver, Christian Wiman

Movies (animation)— "Spirited Away", "Triplets Of Belleville" (comedy)—"Best In Show", "I Heart Huckabees", "Defending Your Life", "Il Mostro", (music)—"The House That Ahmet Built", "Ray", "Amadeus" (drama)—"The Life Of Pi", "Being John Malkovich", "American Beauty", "Slumdog Millionaire", "Malcolm X"

Music (jazz)—Kurt Elling, Claudia Acuna, Nguyen Le, Art Lande, Jason Moran, Egberto Gismonti
(classical)—Hildegarde through John Adams
(international)—North Indian, Brazilian, West-African
(funk/gospel/blues)—Herbie Hancock, Parliament, Take 6, Kirk Franklin, Robert Johnson, Buddy Guy
(pop/rock)—Martha Reeves, Steely Dan, CSN, Joni Mitchell, Sting, Usher
(country, no joke)—Kacey Musgraves, Brad Paisley

Radio (NPR)—Snap Judgement, TED Talks, To The Best Of Our Knowledge, Wait Wait Don't Tell Me
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
* Supportive friends & open-hearted communication
* Humor that questions my assumptions & all the arts
* Hot showers & touch
* My gym
* The sound of nature
* Organic produce
* Non-corporate media
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
* How to not take things personally, while taking 100% responsibility for how I show-up.
* My next composition, arrangement, or poem.
* How great it is living in the Bay Area.

Why OkCupid's profile don't include these questions:
"Are you attracted more to vegans or virgins ?"
"If your car could talk, would it lie to the CHP for you ?"
"Your dog is feeling depressed. Would it be ethical to force it to watch John Stewart and Stephan Colbert for a week ?"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
* Practicing or performing
* Hanging with a friend
* Thinking about dancing with you in the moonlight
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I spit out my desert laughing at a commercial about
a baby wolf...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
* You're at least 5'6" and have a slender or athletic build
* Being with a full-time artist would inspire the Artist in you
* You want your partner to be their best friend,
yet still allow for a bit of mystery
* You value a partner who has done a significant body of personal growth