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33 M Cambridge, MA

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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Working on Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English, Japanese (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I find this 'self-summary' malarkey most disagreeable. Weird isn't it how in real life people who talk about themselves at length are actually bores? Unless they're giving a TED talk.

If you like TED, we'll get along.

Reader of myriad books (heavy on the sci-fi and fantasy; I am an unashamed nerd). Eater of foods from the world over. Weird ingredients? No problem! I've lived in Japan and unless it's squirming and begging for its life in epic poetry form I'm generally unfazed.

I study history, have an interest in politics, and spend a lot of time wondering how humanity can be so astonishing and so awful at the same time. Generally have concluded that civilization is the result of instinct fighting conscience and that's great because I intend to make a career of studying it.

Born in Britain, lived in the Soviet Union (I shit you not), Japan, and the USA. Determined never to change my accent.

Things that seem to interest few people fascinate me (hurrah for the reconstruction of Proto-Indo-Aryan!) but things that most people seem to love bore me to the point of tears (seriously, if you can explain to me what Sex and the City has to say of value to anyone outside of uber-rich New Yorkers I'd gladly buy you a beer).

I take humour very seriously. Emotional maturity is a rare trait and essential to the drama-free life I desire. I try to treat others as I wish to be treated myself and all in all it's worked out well so far.
What I’m doing with my life
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Doing a PhD in History, which mostly means wondering why academics don't know how to write.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I get the impression that I amuse people, but then again they may only be laughing nervously out of terror. I tell a good story, usually involving a mishap from my long (possibly still ongoing) youth. I quite enjoy listening too, especially if the other person has something honest, interesting, or scandalous to say. Any one of the three will suffice.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Not sure, I've never thought to ask. My rapier-sharp wit, perhaps, or my impressive ability to hone in on the most expensive thing in the room and then eat it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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There are literally thousands in each category. Anything cultural I tend to like if it's well thought out and keeps my disbelief suspended. I don't read poetry or listen to music, not out of choice, and I would like to get a thorough education on both. Books and films are like oxygen and sunlight to me; without them I'd wither away into mulch. But, in flow-of-consciousness order: Cormac McCarthy, Gene Wolfe, Isaac Asimov, Arthur C. Clarke, China Mieville, Margaret Atwood, Junot Diaz, Salman Rushdie, Alice Munro, Ernest Hemingway, Stephen King, Kelly Link, J.R.R Tolkien, Phillip Pullman, James Tiptree Jr, Ursula K. LeGuin; (gasp, deep breath), Terrence Malick, Stanley Kubrick, Darren Aronofsky, Shane Carruth, Christopher Nolan, Ingmar Bergman, Alfred Hitchcock, Martin Scorsese, Brad Bird, Takahata Isao, Kurosawa Akira, Miyazaki Hayao, Kon Satoshi, the Coen Brothers, Roman Polanski.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My Kindle. It has a name.

The internet. Source of knowledge, joy, and shame.

Good food.

Good company.

Japan. I love Japan, I study Japan. Japan is like my slightly peculiar best friend who I've known forever.

The freedom to travel. I've been to about 30 countries and want to make it to Peru, Spain, Portugal, Egypt, New Zealand, Kenya, Iceland, and Botswana before I die.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My brain is a bit like the front page of Reddit science, but with a few extra categories like 'people', 'what do I want to eat?', 'books', 'films', 'Studio Ghibli', etc., etc. I do spend a lot of time thinking about what's going on out there in deep space because it's fun and no one will be able to tell me I'm wrong in my lifetime. Also, the past. Everything exciting that ever happened happened in the past and sometimes wandering down the street to class wondering what Tokyo really looked like in 1730 is just right.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having drinks with my friends, or relaxing at home watching whatever new fare BBC 4 has to offer. Thinking about how amazing it's going to be waking up after 10am the next day.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am not Spartacus.
You should message me if
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You feel like it.