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J-Parm

27 M Portland, OR

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly vegetarian
Smokes
When drinking
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Often
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Latin (Okay)

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My self-summary
I just graduated from Reed College as a religion major (distinct from a major religion; at present I only have a handful of worshippers). Presently sorting out what to do next.

I'm intellectually curious, politically left-wing, do drugs (though I tend to stay away from the really hard ones, as the idea of being addicted to things disconcerts me), and am generally more stressed out than is strictly necessary. And a vegetarian. Oh yeah, and I can talk about myself endlessly...I am, if you couldn't tell, hopelessly verbose (and at least one third mad). I have the most amazing plush shark and whale that you will ever have the privilege of meeting. I think joie de vivre is an important and intensely appealing quality. I reject the opposition many people assume between intellect and emotion, and tend to be a bit too into both for my own good.

I fire dance. I spin poi, whip, and meteor. I'm kinda mediocre with the former, and don't actually burn with them much these days (though I do love my Oggz). I'm pretty good with the latter two, and can do a lot of things that nobody else seems to do with whip. I'm always happy to meet more fire spinners around Portland and the surrounding environs.

Regarding my relationship status: I'm in a polyamorous relationship, with two primary partners, who are each also involved with other people. I'm not really in the market for another primary, but I'm not going to rule out the possibility entirely either, given the right person, and I'm certainly up for more casual dating and getting to know people.
What I’m doing with my life
That...is a damn good question. Mostly I'm learning how to live without a sense of overriding purpose. Not something I'm generally good at, but I'm working on it. Living off my savings and the occasional odd job while looking for work; doing a bit of everything in the meantime. I'm hoping to apply to law school soon, but I have some work to do getting all my ducks in a row first.
I’m really good at
I'm fluent in the language of carnivorous eggplants, and I know a hawk from a handsaw under virtually all weather conditions.

I won a pancake-eating contest, once upon a time. I'm told I spin fire pretty well. I have an exceptionally good memory. This is probably the talent that gets the most attention. I'm really good at remembering names and faces (except people named Sarah, for some reason), and I always seem to be the one citing page numbers and footnotes in classes. I serve as a surrogate memory of sorts for a few of my good friends.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I use "Deviant(s)" as a term of endearment. Occasionally "Disco Deviants," if I'm in particularly good company.

That I'm not entirely here. Where I am, I'm not sure. Perhaps my mind is floating free in the ether, or something no less obnoxiously Neoplatonic. I'm open to suggestions as to where I am! Wherever that is, though, I'm pretty sure it's not here. I have been known to gesticulate on occasion, and also to wear funny hats.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
(Books)Conspiracy fiction, like Foucault's Pendulum, Illuminatus!, and The Crying of Lot 49. Thoughtful science fiction and fantasy by people like China Mieville, Neil Gaiman, Ted Chiang, and Orson Scott Card. Fiction with lots of commentary on religion, like The Screwtape Letters, His Dark Materials, and various things by Kahlil Gibran. Dystopias-I've enjoyed the classics, haven't gotten much further. Philosophy and religious theory are cool too. Joseph Campbell and I go way back, but I don't find him as compelling as I once did. Any scholarly work about the end of the world. I like comics a lot, but not most superhero comics. Transmetropolitan is amazing, as are Lolita and everything Umberto Eco and Ken Kesey ever wrote.

(Movies)Epics like Lawrence of Arabia, Seven Samurai, Star Wars, and Lord of the Rings. Spaghetti Westerns.
Wild Zero (the greatest Japanese zombie rock opera ever made). I mostly go for dramas (Trainspotting...The Last Temptation of Christ), but there are good comedies too, and my life is essentially one drawn-out Big Lebowski reference.
(Video Games) Xenogears, Planescape: Torment, the Mass Effect, Shadow Hearts and Silent Hill series. I take video games seriously as narrative art, and would be happy to tell you why at length.
(Television) I don't watch much TV. The new Battlestar Galactica is pretty excellent. Umm...Cowboy Bebop; Freaks and Geeks; Community.

(Music)A lot of things. I'm a musical gourmand; I like some genres more than others, but I like something in almost all of them. If I have a focus, it's probably the eclectic side of classic rock (Warren Zevon knew what it's all about), and I'm fond of Celtic Punk and various loud and exciting things, e.g. O Fortuna and symphonic meta like Nightwish and Epica. Techno/electronica are also a lot of fun, particularly if they are trippy (Shpongle!) and/or readily danceable (Pendulum, Black Sun Empire). I'm not snobby about music, and have a low tolerance for those who are.

My tastes in food are boring. I'm a vegetarian, but not for ethical reasons, and I tend to eat bland food. Hummus and Fuji apples are amazing, but not at the same time.
The six things I could never do without
I interpret this question as: 'Three things I at least would really rather not go without,' leaving out the obvious ones like oxygen, food, shelter, etc. I know that three is not six, but six is an arbitrary number, and I choose to ignore it.

People. Both in the sense of close friends, and the random crowds of acquaintances that filter in and out of my life. I really like and need human contact and affection.
Books. Light of my life, fire of my loins (papercuts have never been more terrifying), my sin, my soul. Including but not limited to the one I just paraphrased. For better or worse, they own my life.
Hope, both hope for myself, and for the ability of the human race to improve and/or transcend itself. I don't believe in an afterlife, reincarnation, etc. Transhumanism is about as close as I come to religious belief.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Premillennial Dispensationalism!

Many things. I spend a lot of time in my own head. And other people's heads, as it were. I used to do a lot of grandiose speculating on the meaning of life, the universe, and everything, but these days I try to keep my topics a bit narrower, if only because it's so hard to come to any interesting or original conclusions about the bigger things. Still, I can't help but come up with the occasional General Theory of Everything, and "Head in the clouds, body in a bucket" fits me pretty well as far as descriptions go. I spend a lot of time thinking about the end of the world, and about people who spend a lot of time thinking about the end of the world. Oh, and sex, but you doubtless assumed that.
On a typical Friday night I am
Doing things in places with people at times!

Partying, usually. I'm a social butterfly like that, and I go crazy if I don't get my people fix. Or hanging out with people more casually, for that matter. Peradventure I'm sitting in my room, grinning manically, gesturing messianically, and listening to 'O Fortuna,' 'Tribute,' 'The Last Crusade,' or the like (because most music just isn't earth-shattering enough).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Once, when I was in middle school, I awoke from a dream crying out "Oh Marmalade Tea, your lips are so juicy!" I've never been entirely certain what to make of this.

I'm something of a trendy bisexual. It's as if I'm one of those women who kiss other women at parties to get men's attention, only the genders are reversed (trendy bisexuality is a phenomenon that needs to get more play among men). Okay, and some guys kiss really well. Okay, I'm in a state of perpetual confusion about my sexuality, but I don't mind, because I'm alright with being straight or bi (and generally identify as heteroflexible). I haven't generally done long-term relationships with men, but I won't say no to fooling around, given the right guy.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
Something I say here really catches your interest. You think everything is important all the time, and find life and the world really damned interesting. If you want at my hot, hot mind, my hot, hot body, or some combination of the two. You think I'm a veritable latter-day James Bond with an order of Plasocristotle on the side.

I'm open to mind-to-mind contact over the internet, meeting on platonic or amorous grounds in person, you name it. I like meeting and talking to people. Sate my craving for novelty?