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42 Albuquerque, NM Man


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  • Ages 30–43
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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5′ 9″ (1.75m)
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Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
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I find this site and others like it fascinating. All of us here looking for that one, our soul mate or whatever you want to label it as. We’re here because we haven’t run into them at the grocery store, the coffee shop, live music events, art openings, poetry readings, yoga or any other places that The Red Book, Cosmo or Men’s Health have suggested we might. So we end up here together with one common goal, that aren't necessarily intertwined, looking for that perfect someone to spend long summer days sipping a pint and laughing together or long winter nights with intellectual conversation, a glass of wine and a fire. We end up here, reading through brief, mostly poorly written, descriptions of people and searching photos carefully selected from the best 10 seconds of our lives thrown out there in some fleeting last ditch effort to show how great of a catch we really are and how amazing your lives might be with us. Funny, witty catch phrases, unique only in that they are all exactly alike, blot the page with empty self-esteem that speak volumes about us as individuals and reveal our own insecurities to those that are paying attention. Personality profiles that get lost in the monotonous drivel, churned out as if all of us are paying the same service to write them for us. Yes, I too seek that one and I too have resorted to this subculture of absurd self-marketing in an effort, any effort, to find someone worthy of my time, attention and love. Funny how we are all alone among a website of hundreds of thousands of others that are also all alone. The cruelty and irony of love doesn’t escape me. In fact, it may not be more prevalent in any other place than on a dating site. So many amazing and attractive people, every single one in their own unique way. So many people, so alone, together. Consolidated in one electronic location separated by mere feet in some instances and whole continents in others. Fascinating!!

Now on to my own drivel and self marketing...

My friends would describe me as the most independent and self determined person they've ever met, albeit stubborn to a fault at times, despite what my personality test on here indicates I would agree to some extent. Their words, not mine. I'm very driven and let little stand in my way. I've spent time in the army, but don't hold that against me. It was an idealistic crusade and a naive one at that. My service is mine and I did it for me and my own purposes so I hate being thanked for my service. I left because I realized I was just another cog in the wheel that creates death, destruction, hatred and unhappiness. Peace through superior firepower is as absurd as integration through segregation. “War don't ennoble men, it turns 'em into dogs. It poisons the soul.”
― James Jones, The Thin Red Line

I have since spent my time rectifying within myself my own drive to have been part of that machine. I spend time trying to make up for my past bad deeds and learning how to be a happy person that infects others with happiness through my wit, charm and own happiness. I make documentary films because I love listening to peoples stories but mostly as a way to give back to society in a positive way and give someone a voice as we all want and need to be heard. I make narratives because few are making the type of films I want to watch. Mostly I'm just passionate about film.

I ski a ton, race sailboats and surf whenever I can. I take a lot of time off of work instead of making more money because life is short and I want to enjoy it and I value experiences over things. I've had some amazing relationships and have experienced living on 3 continents as well as all over the US. I have big doubts that the person I am looking for is on a dating website, as they are probably pursuing their passion somewhere and don't have the time, if they even exist. I'm flawed like everyone else but work hard at correcting those flaws and am not afraid to face or battle the demons in my closet. Im a raging idealist and feel that life would be so much better and easier if everyone was up front and honest with how they felt and what they were thinking. I'm not sure why we are all afraid of the human condition and embarrassed by those very things that make us human. I believe insecurities are the root of all evil not money. One begets the other I suppose. I could go on but I've been preachy enough. Ask and I will respond in the most honest way I know how.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Being happy, working on being even happier! Giving people a voice that may not normally have one through documentary filmmaking. Working on breaking the status quo and opening minds, hopefully, because, although I have a sneaking suspicion that we are dumbing ourselves down (yeah reality TV), I am a raging idealist inside and believe people just want to be challenged and be engaged in substance!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being loyal, sometimes to a fault, being a smart ass (I'm the youngest brother), coming up with random hilarious scenarios on the spot, impersonating my friends, being passionate and engaged in a cause, voicing my opinion, making changes in my life and not looking back, jumping into new hobbies and careers that inspire me without being afraid.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smartassery
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Waaaaay too many to fit in here. There are so many amazing books and films how could I possibly limit them to any favorites? My favorite food is anything I'm eating while in great company and conversation. Favorite music is the live kind but again, how can I possibly limit myself to what I could fit in this box? I can chat about the most random foreign films that you've never even heard of and I carry around a copy of the Tao Te Ching and Belly of The Beast most everywhere I go.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Why only 6 and are they being literal? How about just asking to list things that are important to me. Too many to list and it depends if you're asking based on a physical, emotional or intellectual level. Never mind, I clearly think too much...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Making films, writing screenplays, new tv and film ideas that will remedy the amazing crap that currently exists, skiing, surfing and sailing. The inequalities of the world, my idealism, how easy it would be to make the world a happier place, being a better person...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Depends what city I am in and what time of year it is. If I'm home in the summer then probably cooking dinner, watching a movie and going for a late night bike (Bicycle) ride around town. Or on my way to a J22 (Sailing) race. If it's winter then I'm in Taos Ski Valley, just got done skiing and having drinks and dinner with friends then going to bed early so I can ski hard on Saturday. I take most Fridays off.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Nothing on the web are you kidding me?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're not a whack job, bat shit nuts and need a team of sherpas to carry your baggage.
Are into being fit and active
Are into traveling anywhere
Are open to new cultures and ideas
Aren't a food snob, music snob, movie snob etc. (Even though I secretly find those attributes endearing in some women) because chances are you're not going to impress me with any of that as I am well traveled, have lived all over the world and am very open minded so I've experienced a lot. It's pretentious and merely serves to put on display your insecurities and weaknesses and it makes me ill dealing with it. Having said that, it's important that you have good, unique taste in all of the above, top 40 and typical blockbuster Hollywood garbage def won't cut it with me.