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JAleaxander

28 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 9
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
—I try not to be set in my ways, but there are just things that can be done right, and so when they're done wrong, it's upsetting. However the rest of the time, I'm 100% go-with-the-flow.

—Anyway, so more of the "About me" type things: I grew up in Ohio as the youngest of 4. I was into classical music, so I got two music degrees. About two and a half years ago I did a 180 degree career move into the tech industry and came to San Francisco.

—As described by my friend Lauren, I'm into "fancy-pants things, but not in like a snobby way—in a fun way." I guess that's fitting, because I do like classical music, art, and scotch, but I don't want to give the wrong impression—I also love rock concerts at dive bars with PBR and shots.

—I have awesome siblings. I will talk about how awesome they are at some point.
What I’m doing with my life
I spent my college and grad school years in the classical music world, and now I'm in tech journalism. It's a long story—for now I'll just say that I feel very lucky to have a job that I love and that music is still a big part of my life!

For now as I come into 2014, I feel like I have a lot of work things put together, so it's time to have more fun. Plans for the coming months include spending more time at the Ocean Beach, going to more concerts (beyond just SF Symphony concerts), rediscovering photography (I'm tired of just iPhone photos, plus I have this odd desire to photograph all of the tower cranes and new buildings going up), and road trips throughout California (it's time to check our Big Sur, Point Reyes, and Yosemite).
I’m really good at
Learning the intricacies of a city's public transportation in less than a day. It's an odd gift, I know, but just wait until we're lost in Hong Kong with 10 minutes to catch a train. It comes in handy.
The first things people usually notice about me
I try to be well put together.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music: Normally I'd say classical music, but then I'd have to explain why most "classical" music isn't really "classical", so...let's just say Brahms. And always lots of Ravel and Debussy. And a lot of

Radio Shows: This American Life, Radio Lab, Wait Wait Don't Tell Me, New Yorker Fiction podcast, Selected Shorts, the Freakonomics podcast

Books: The Elements of Style, short fiction by authors appearing on the above podcasts, Super Sad True Love Story. (I always appreciate recommendations for contemporary-ish fiction.)

Art: 16th century Dutch still life in particular; painting in general. Also Alex Calder and Claes Oldenburg/

Shows: Seinfeld, Downton Abbey, How I Met Your Mother, Mad Men

Food: My number favorites are El Castillo burritos and Burgermeister (best burgers in the city... I've gotten into arguments over them). Besides that I'm discovering French food (I think Absinthe is my favorite restaurant in the city) and I like dark chocolate.

Drink: Tough one. I'm torn between a nice wine and a gin and tonic. And then there's scotch. Mmmm.

Other things I nerd out on: Public transportation, air travel, furniture and interior design, nice clothes and shoes, art, liberal arts schools, early music, new music, orchestral scores, high quality musical instruments, wanting to be in a band, organ music, light rail, software, violin concertos, word-smithing, how to be a better writer, how to be a better public speaker, my public persona on Twitter (it's work related)... wow, that's a lot of stuff.
The six things I could never do without
1. Live music performances
2. Music recordings
3. My trombone and playing music (Even though I haven't played much recently)(You're probably also noticing a theme here...)
4. Urban living and public transportation
5. Laptop/iPhone/internet
6. Shoot, I'm out of space, so number six will be good food, wine, clothes, art, friends, Wikipedia, the ocean, and NPR.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Here's what I could be thinking about at any given time: I could be mentally doing harmonic and formal analysis of the music I'm listening to (or music that just happens to be going through my head). Other options include what article I'm going to write next, and if I'm currently on MUNI, how people could be taking up less space if they were standing differently.
On a typical Friday night I am
At happy hour after work, a concert, a bar with friends, or entertaining at home—just as long as it's out with people. Quiet evenings are good, too, but I definitely like to get out at some point during the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I misspelled my own OkCupid username, despite answering the question about spelling as "very important." Oops.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
--You want to actually meet in person. I'm all for messaging back and forth about how we both like music, the outdoors, and San Francisco, but I'd much rather talk about it over coffee.

--The idea of going to the SF Symphony, the Opera, or Classical Revolution on a Monday night sounds interesting. Or if going to an art museum is your cup of tea.

--Going on a long run sounds like a great Saturday or Sunday morning activity.