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JAleaxander

30 San Francisco, CA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 26–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:47pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
As described by my friend Lauren, I'm into "fancy-pants things, but not in like a snobby way—in a fun way." I guess that's fitting, because I do like classical music, art, and cocktails, but I don't want to give the wrong impression—I also love rock shows at dive bars with PBR and cheap whiskey.

Now for more of the typical "About me" type things:

– I have awesome siblings. If we meet, there's a good chance that I'll talk about them at some point.
– I'm from Ohio.
– I'm earnest. I generally follow rules and I strive to be honest and dependable.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I spent my college and grad school years in the classical music world; now I'm in tech journalism. How I made that change is a long story—so for now I'll just say that I feel very lucky to have a job that I love and that music is still a big part of my life!

These days I feel like I have a lot of things in my life in order, so it's time to have more fun.

Other things that occupy my time include playing music, walking around the city seeking sidewalk stairways and good views, hanging out in parks, running, cooking, going to San Francisco Symphony concerts, looking at art, and getting in my share of travel.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
– Standing patiently in lines.
– Using public transportation.
– Being on time.
– Packing for picnics.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm presentable.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music: Mostly classical (including early music and modern music), but I truly like everything else, too.

Radio Shows: All the standard podcasts—This American Life, Radio Lab, Wait Wait Don't Tell Me, and many others, though I haven't actually listened to Serial yet.

Books: The Elements of Style, short stories, contemporary fiction. Recently read BJ Novak's short stories, Green Metropolis, and some Juno Diaz; next up some Gary Shteyngart and Tobias Wolff.

Art: 16th-century Dutch still life in particular; painting in general. Also Alex Calder and Claes Oldenburg.

Shows: Seinfeld (bonus points if random references are part of your daily life), Mad Men.

Other things I nerd out on: Air travel and airplanes, furniture and interior design, clothes and shoes, art, liberal arts schools, orchestral scores, musical instruments, wanting to be in a band, light rail, and how to be a better writer and public speaker.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Live musical performances
2. Recorded music
3. My trombone and playing music (You're probably noticing a theme here...)
4. Urban living
5. Truthfully? Laptop, smartphone, and internet, or all that stuff that keeps us connected.
6. Knowing that there are smart people out there working on things like global warming, access to education, teaching, and other good things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
– Harmonic analysis of the music I'm listening to (or whatever music happens to be in my head).
– What to write for my next article.
– When on MUNI, how people could be arranged
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Preferably at happy hour after work, a concert, a night of bar hopping with friends, entertaining at home—basically anything as long as it's out with people. Quiet evenings are good, too, but I feel like a hermit if I don't get out during the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I misspelled my own OkCupid username, despite answering the question about spelling as "very important." Oops.
You should message me if
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Specifically: If you're up for a getting a drink or coffee sooner rather than later. Messaging back and forth is great, but really, we can't tell until we meet in person, right?

And generally:
– The idea of going to the SF Symphony, the Opera, or Classical Revolution on a Monday night sounds interesting. Or if going to an art museum is your cup of tea.
– Going on a long run or a hike sounds like a great Saturday or Sunday morning activity.
- If you're interested in a significant relationship. (Oh geez, how do I put that in a way that doesn't sound way too serious way too fast? You know what I mean, right?)