It took me at least a week to come up with a screen name. I mean
there are a million options and each one of them will give you a
snapshot into someone’s interpretation of who they are and why they
have come here, right? I thought about referencing some song –
“gropeforluna” or “devilbunny” – but they both emphasize the sex
and naughtiness too much. As do “hedonismbot,” or any number of
Heinlein references. Then I thought about philosophical and
mythological options: “Zarathustra,” “Dionysus,” “pomohomo”…but
they all seem to just focus on facets of my personality and don’t
properly express who I am. That’s not saying that JAlfredPrufrack
is perfect but it does get some of it.
I am an introspective, honest, authentic, and ethical man. I try to
live the best life I can. I try to be nice and open and honest with
everyone I meet. I abhor dishonesty...mainly because I can't live
with the smallest of lies (I feel like "The Tale-Tell heart"). I
think that life might be easier than most people make it out to be,
if we can just be honest with ourselves (and those with whom we
interact) about our desires. I think challenges are fun. I think
life is worth living artfully.
I am Godel, Escher, and Bach
What I’m doing with my life
I’m happily married to a beautiful woman
on here) and we have two incredible
children. I’m a stay-at-home-dad during the day and audio
engineer/musician/composer by night. I’m the sound designer/audio
engineer for a musical theatre company and I'm trying to start a
business recording records for bands. I play guitar (classical and
noisy punk rock/jazz), bass, keys, and will attempt to play
anything else that makes noise. I’m also a classically trained
composer…I tend to make noisy but pretty stuff.
I’m really good at
Listening to the world around me and responding to it
Forgetting important practical matters.
Remembering ridiculous theoretical matters.
The first things people usually notice about me
My pretty hair.
The gap between my front teeth.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: I’m one of those guys that doesn’t read as much as I want
and then chastise myself for it. That being said I tend to be
reading non-fiction of late: theoretical physics, Nietzsche,
polyamorous concepts, mythology, history. In general, when I read
fiction I like artsy/philosophical authors: Salmon Rushdie and
Jeanette Winterson are probably my favorites. The same goes for
poetry: TS Eliot, John Ashbery, Alan Ginsberg…
Movies: You know, I haven’t watched a movie in a long time. Not out
of malice or anything. We’ve just been watching all the new cable
shows as they become available on DVD: the Wire, Battlestar
Galactica, Generation Kill, Mad Men, Six Feet Under, Deadwood, The
Shield, 24, Firefly, The Sopranos, Oz, The Tudors, etc.
Music. Ok, so my life is made up by music so this answer could be
long. I use music for many different purposes and each requires
something different. When I’m deeply listening to the music I like
classical music (Wagner, Beethoven, Kronos Quartet) or avant
noise-jazz (John Zorn), noisy synth stuff (Autechre, Boards of
Canada), or noisy guitar stuff (Sonic Youth, Marc Ribot). When I’m
thinking about song-writing, I like Willie Nelson, Cole Porter, the
Beatles, solo John Lennon, the Smiths, David Byrne, Tori Amos, CCR.
When other people are around, I tend towards the stuff I grew up
on: the Pixies, Jane’s Addiction, Fugazi, NIN, TKK, the Beatles. I
spend a lot of time listening to whatever record I’m working on at
any given time. And I have this running soundtrack in my mind that
is usually a combination of whatever I’m writing, a record I’m
mixing, and whatever musical I’m working on. Today it’s “Luck Be A
Food: I’m vegetarian, leaning toward vegan. I like good food,
preferably fresh food. I like to eat food…I don’t really like to
cook. I can, and will…it just takes away some of the pleasure of
eating the food. I tend to have a perfunctory relationship with
food. I eat good, healthy food that fills me up and then I don’t
eat again until I’m starving.
The six things I could never do without
1. My wife and children
2. My hearing
3. A guitar
6. Pattern Recognition
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I really spend a good deal of my life thinking about sound and the
vibrations that create those sounds. I'm also quite interested in
theoretical physics, aesthetics, linguistics, history, mythology,
existentialism (and its children: solipsism, nihilism,
On a typical Friday night I am
I work most Friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I superstitiously believe that I must wear certain socks on my left
foot and certain socks on my right.
You should message me if
I am part of a polyamorous couple that is looking to build a
relationship with a bi man, bi woman, another couple, or some other
combination. We are not simply looking for sex, but for an
interesting, engaging, beautiful person(s) with whom we can develop
an emotional, intellectual, and sexual relationship.
Would also like to talk to people that have had experience dating
as a couple.
And of course, I am always interested in meeting new and