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59 Portland, OR Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 42–58
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Some more or less random facts about me. I'm a freelance writer, teacher, and poet. I've lived on both coasts and in the middle of the country and Europe: in Brooklyn (for 12 years), Boston, Ithaca, Boulder, The Netherlands (briefly), and Lincoln, Nebraska (I was born there, I had no choice in the matter). I was a hospice volunteer in New York City. I meditate, play guitar, read a lot, love seeing good films at Portland's many wonderful theaters, love being in the woods, trying new restaurants, exploring neighborhoods, etc. But what I enjoy most of all is lively conversation—connected, intimate, wide-ranging, witty, smart conversation. I think that's one of the very best things in life.

I'm affectionate and empathic and have a playful sense of humor.

And, yes, I do have a website, thanks for asking:
What I’m doing with my life
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Right now I'm immersed in editing an anthology called The Poetry of Impermanence, Mindfulness, and Joy. I'm also teaching and writing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Finding the humor in almost everything, not taking myself too seriously, being supportive, listening, kissing (and associated activities). I'm a good cook. My daal is not dull!
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've never asked anyone this question. That I'm tall, maybe.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books and writers: One Hundred Years of Solitude, The Book of Laughter and Forgetting, Jane Eyre, The Death of Ivan Illych, Chang Tzu, Lao Tzu, Kafka, Peter Carey, J.M. Coetzee, Joseph Goldstein, Dan Siegel, Mark Epstein, Whitman, Neruda, Frank O'Hara, Elizabeth Bishop, Wislawa Szymborska, Fernando Pessoa, Lucia Perillo, many others.

Movies: Secretary, Wings of Desire, Caspar Hauser, Little Miss Sunshine, Bright Star, The Piano, Au Revoir Les Enfants, Pina!, Much Ado About Nothing, A Hijacking, The Pianist. TV: Mad Men, Colbert Report, Daily Show.

Artists: Giacometti, Andy Goldsworthy, Richard Serra, Pissarro, Bill Viola, Gregory Crewdson.

Music: Wayne Shorter, John Scofield, Bill Frissell, Radiohead, Chris Whitley, Fiona Apple, Black Prairie, Trio Subtonic.

Food: I could eat Indian food every day. Current favorite Portland restaurants—Bollywood Theater, Tao of Tea on Belmont (great food menu), Blue Olive, Ya Halla, Nuestra Cocina.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The non-locality of consciousness.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Seeing a film, having dinner with friends, reading in a cafe.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a fascinating scar.
You should message me if
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You're smart, bookish, sexy, interested in art, film, music, and know what Milan Kundera means when he says: "love is a conversation."