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40 M Chicago, IL

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
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Process junkie.
What I’m doing with my life
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Now that I'm 40 and I have stumbled around a bit, I can Identify a theme. I seem to make strides here and there when I'm inspired by the creative process. I always orbit back to art. I love creative people and their enthusiasm for possibilities.

I'm a professional photographer of 15 years. I'm an RN of 1 year. I've been a teacher and a trainer and I love watching the lights turn on. I enjoy watching naive discovery happen. Every professional should learn to be an ameture all over again.

I tend to be very liberal and I think harmony in a relationship is largely determined by consistent values. Our world views will conflict and collide if you are not LGBT friendly, compassionate towards the poor, unprejudiced towards race ethnicity and religion, critical of consumerism, and able to entertain a thought without accepting it. Open mindedness is essential and I welcome conversations that may challenge me. These can be passionate, but never personal.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Collaborating. Problem solving. Cooking. Deciding fast like yesterday. Fixing stuff. Writing. Cardio anything. Photography. Drawing.

I'm not so good at, but enjoy dancing, sewing, and board/card games.

Not giving advice when it is best not to do so.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Confidence and Calm. Its just a cover;-)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I don't own a TV, nor do I follow sports. Its a miracle I survive.

Zen Mind Beginner's Mind. I've read more Graham Greene novels than I can remember. Kafka, Kundera, Nabakov, and Salinger. I'm reading Children of the Days by Eduardo Galeano. Its awesome, I'll loan it to you after the third date.

I love the classics like Fellini (subtitles are AOK). Anything by Jim Jarmusc, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind was great. Loved it! Charlie Chaplin is amazing. Documentaries and mockumentaries, can't get enough of them. is pretty cool. Less politics, more Ted.

Claude Debussy, Erik Satie, Revel, David Sylvian, Savages, Nick Cave, Radiohead, Joan Jett, Charlie Byrd, Miles Davis, Thelonius Monk, Morrissey (I know...) Bjork, Patricia Barber, The Kills. I play old time banjo because I'm a hipster.

I can cook well and I can crank it out for large groups. I appreciate eating healthy as a rule, but I believe in moderation in all things, especially in butter. I have a very adventurous pallet. I dare you to dare me to eat it. I recently made palak paneer. I can make it for you if the fourth date goes well.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A bicycle, music, a gym membership, friends, the lakefront, a good chef's knife, and cultural opportunities are must haves.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The best bike route from point A to point D because there is always time for B and C.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Exploring, eating, drinking, riding a bike, etc. Get tired, cuddle up for a nap, do it again. I love live music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was married before and I had a daughter who passed away after four heart surgeries. That is a lot of time in the ICU to think about the meaning of life. I guess I have some insight into the situation that I hope to make use of as a nurse.
You should message me if
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You are looking for a study buddy, a workout partner, a creative collaborator, a playmate, good conversation, urban adventure and a good time.

You like to have fun.

You can make brave choices and you don't follow a crowd.