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JLightning

26 / M / straight / Single

Saint Paul, Minnesota

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Last Online
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Ethnicity
White
Height
6' 2" (1.90m).
Body Type
Fit
Looking For
Long-term dating, Short-term dating
Smokes
No
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Aries and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Science / Tech / Engineering
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Likes dogs and Likes cats
Languages
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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I am rather sarcastic, somewhat naive, and utterly altruistic.

My Self-Summary

I tried coming up with something good here, but instead, let's try a run at this "stream of consciousness" style;

Basically my life consists of working for a non-profit and helping out a bunch of others, one of my friends once said "oh man, don't geek out on me" and since then I try to own it when I do, I'm just finished a half triathlon and am casually training for next year (and for the benefits that increased endurance offers... ahem), I prefer dark beer or gin & tonics when I do drink (though it seems a significant majority of society drinks more than I do), I'm oddly partial to a clean/fancy bathroom (and have specific plans for my dream home), my car stereo plays a CD primarily consisting of free songs from the Current's song of the day podcast, I have a motorcycle that is just barely more fun to ride than it is a big hassle in general (but makes me look seriously bad ass... I'm also hoping to sell it next year and build an electric motorcycle), I've already changed careers once but I'm sure I'm on the right track now, at any time I'm slowly working on a handful of crafty/artsy projects, I'm in three book clubs (one meets in a bar but still three is probably a warning sign for something) and I write (but haven't done so substantially in far too long), I've never been an aggressive asshole but I've come to realize that the aggressive part isn't the problem with that type of guy that I should avoid mimicking, my friends insist all of life's problems would be solved if I moved to uptown, I have a sweet/romantic side but it takes the right person to coax it out, I have a salacious side but it takes even more of the right kind of person to see that, I get bored when there's nothing new to learn, I have a lime tree and an avocado tree (the former does produce fruit at this time, the latter I've grown from a pit), I'm always down for a game of scrabble or darts (and wouldn't mind being beaten), I lived in Australia for four months of 2004, I'm (extremely) slowly learning Japanese, summer is weekly kickball games (sometimes with theme nights) with my friends, in my account settings on OkCupid I set it to use metric

What I’m doing with my life

see self-summary

I’m really good at

thinking up projects to do, places to go, things to try, etc. I'm also pretty handy, in that sort of "indispensible, useful to have around during and after the zombie apocalypse" sort of way.

The first things people usually notice about me

I tend to over think things a bit, the whole "it's better to say nothing and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt" sort of thing. So at first I can come off a bit aloof or cold.

Or, if you're jumping to judgement even quicker than an initial social interaction, well then, I guess people also notice I'm tall.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Invisible Monsters by Chuck Palahniuk has a writing style that is fantastic

The Great Escape has Steve McQueen as a divisive, crafty chemical engineer with a sweet ass motorcycle... it's down right inspirational.

Foo Fighters and the better half of what's been available on The Current's podcast song of the day

Eat food, not too much, mostly plants... that last part can be tough

The six things I could never do without

1. a nice day to be outside every once and a while
2. my laptop (internet included)
3. a bed large enough for me to spread out on
4. a creative outlet
5. friends
6. someone I haven't met yet

I spend a lot of time thinking about

what I should do next. Which can be a problem since too much thinking and not enough doing is rather useless. I try not to be too useless.

On a typical Friday night I am

doing a variety of things that fall between sitting at home watching my plants grow and going out and starting drunken bar fights.

Please note that I neither watch my plants grow or start bar fights... these are merely bookends to the spectrum of my life's Friday night possibilities.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I may not be as awesome as I think I am. I've just had a tough time coming up with a proper statistical analysis to validate or dismiss my claims.

I also have a quixotic view on love. It really doesn't seem to help things.

You should message me if

you are:

a female
single
not significantly older or younger than me
crafty enough to build something with your hands
smart enough to outwit me
quirky enough to geek out on at least one subject
attractive enough to make me nervous
forward enough to cut through my lame nervousness
active enough to be willing to sweat a bit
soft enough to be pleasant through a good cuddle
hard enough to call me out if I'm being lame
green enough to consider biking a valid form of transportation
thrifty enough to get a bit excited by a good deal
restless enough to seriously consider a trip on impulse
confident enough to know you're not terribly confident
and generally fairly awesome.

I float around this site randomly and indecisively. All of this just isn't terribly tangible. I kind of think we could message/chat for months and yet it wouldn't be as productive as a single face-to-face conversation. And so I read through profiles and entertain thoughts of what you might really be like and... that's about it usually. Still, if you think that together we would meet or exceed how awesome you are on your own, you should message me. I do promise to get back to you in a somewhat reasonable time frame. That's just common courtesy. Though a friend has told me I have the most hectic schedule she's ever seen, so please forgive my shortcomings and delays.