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  • Ages 20–99
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Last online
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6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
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Working, playing guitar, getting exercise, watering my houseplants. Trying to learn things and be a decent human.

I come from a small town on Lake Ontario. When I was 2 years old, my brother taught me how to sing "Goodbye Blue Skies." And when I was 15 we moved on to Social Distortion. Snowstorms, thunderstorms, spending time at a lake or a beach, and wool blankets make me feel at home. And that's my life story.

I want to meet people who are alive with something. I want to hear you talk about the thing that you care about. Really that could be anything. If you just want to act silly and talk about life, that's fine too. The world is a dream all around us.
What I’m doing with my life
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Essentiality, I talk to people for a living, and help build organizations for change. In my spare time you can find me not thinking about politics, reading, playing guitar, exercising, and listening to John Shaefer of WNYC on my bedroom radio as much as possible. Or, I'm babysitting my 2-year old nephew, because he rules.
I’m really good at
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Writing letters;
Vocal harmonies;
Starting books but not finishing them because I have started another already;
Flossing regularly;
The first things people usually notice about me
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Tall, eye contact, or the sound of my voice saying "hello." Other than that, people usually realize that I'm a pretty genuine person early on. I try not to have too much of an ego, and I will look at you and ask you questions about yourself. Really it's an easy thing to do.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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"Information is not knowledge, knowledge is not wisdom, wisdom is not truth, truth is not beauty, beauty is not love, love is not music. Music is the best." (FZ)

I like everything having to do with music. I play a few intruments, and was once a classically trained singer. Seriously. I go through phases, but right now I'm focusing on learning old timey country songs/duets for guitar and vocals with my good friend.

These are my jams:

Intellectual/World: Township music, Eastern European folk and Balkan. In a second career I would have been a music anthropologist.

Deep stuff: Van Morrison with his band on a good night. Although usually he was drunk, on lots of drugs, and awful. But that is to be expected when people only want Brown Eyed Girl, but you really want Madame George... and it's the 70s. Anyway... Tom Waits and Bjork.

Rock'N'Roll: Yo La Tengo, Rolling Stones

Folk/Americana: Gillian Welch and David Rawlings kinds of stuff

Contemporary Composition/Indie Classical: Roomful of Teeth, Steve Reich, things of that nature... Most of what plays on New Sounds, actually.

Is any of this interesting? I enjoy talking about things like this.

I try to balance fiction and non-fiction. This keeps my brain from devouring itself. For example, I'm trying to learn about private equity and how it is ruining Main Street. I also just re-read To Kill A Mockingbird, and I also just went through a book of science fiction shorts selected by Ray Bradbury and Alfred Hitchcock. Other than that, the best books I've read recently are Stoner by John Williams, and A Visit From the Goon Squad by Jennifer Egan. Favorites: Murakami, Alexie, Chabon, and Brautigan when everything gets too real...

I love animated short films, not that I watch many. I don't really have favorites, but there were some good ones last year. Boyhood really moved me, so arty and moody stuff is always good. I've also been recently impressed by Her, Gone Girl (I know it is a great book, smarty-pants), and one other that I can't think of right now...

On a good night, you can find me in my kitchen, listening to the radio, and making something delicious. On an average night I am not this ambitious. No longer a vegetarian, I was raised as such, but a big fan of the vegetable kingdom. I worked as a cook at a restaurant in my hometown.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My voice so that I can talk to people;
Large bodies of water;
A musical instrument;
Other people;
Letting go.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How all human belief systems are inventions, so we should try to take ourselves much less seriously. And maintain an open mind. In reality, we all know very little...

For instance, we currently have no clue about:

(Update: we still haven't figured it out.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If I'm by myself: Taking a bath and listening to episodes of New Sounds on WNYC. Then snuggling up with a brew and netflix.

If I'm out: Seeing some music or a film, or getting drinks with some true pals. Maybe all of the above. You know, ballin' hard.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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...I actually love basketball.

Seriously though, I'll admit anything if you ask. Life is too short, and we don't have time to hide things from each other. Plus, it's better when we don't.
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Eventually, the sun will explode, and the universe will have to go on without us. Until then, if you want to get a drink some time, let me know.