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29 Brooklyn, NY Man


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  • Ages 23–99
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

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6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Politics / Government
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
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I come from a small town on Lake Ontario. When I was 2 years old, my brother taught me how to sing "Goodbye Blue Skies." And when I was 15 we moved on to Social Distortion. Snowstorms, thunderstorms, and wool blankets make me feel at home. And that's my life story.

I have spent the last part of my life living and working with incredible people trying to strengthen their hearts and their communities, and this has helped me refine my values on social and economic justice. These values I have towards life are at the root of who I am. I believe that a compassionate society, based on respect, cooperation, and mutual benefit is possible - and I want to surround myself with people who also believe this, and, at least in some way, try to make it real in their own lives.

But much more than that, I really want to meet people who are alive with something. I want to hear you talk about the thing that you care about. Really that could be anything. The world is a dream all around us.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm an organizer - though people always wonder what that means, unless they are into social change or politics. Essentially, I talk to people for a living, and help build organizations for progressive social change. In my spare time you can find me checking out books from the library, exercising, and listening to John Shaefer of WNYC on my 1980s bedroom radio as much as possible. Or, I'm babysitting my 2-year old nephew, because he rules.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Getting deals at the farmers' market (I used to work on a farm because I'm small town like that.) Shooting free throws (Yes, I practiced every day in the cold until my fingers turned blue and I could make 20 in a row while trying to win the city contest for 12-13 year-olds which yes I did win and nothing changed after except I have a really good jump-shot), and Purple Rain on karaoke night (this is my song and I'm very serious about it).
The first things people usually notice about me
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Tall, eye contact, or the sound of my voice saying "hello." Other than that, people usually realize that I'm a pretty genuine person early on. I try not to have too much of an ego, and I will look at you and ask you questions about yourself. Really it's an easy thing to do.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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"Information is not knowledge, knowledge is not wisdom, wisdom is not truth, truth is not beauty, beauty is not love, love is not music. Music is the best." (FZ)

I like everything having to do with music. But as the saying goes, it doesn't mean a thing unless it has heart, and swing. Ok, that's not how it goes, but that's my interpretation.

Here are how my most favorite categories break down (buckle your seatbelt):
Intellectual/World: Township music, Eastern European folk and Balkan. In a second career I would have been a music anthropologist.
Demographically Popular Music: All the usual hip stuff.
Rock'N'Roll: Yo La Tengo, Jack White, Rolling Stones
Folk/Americana: Gillian Welch and David Rawlings
Contemporary Composition: Roomful of Teeth, Steve Reich

I try to balance fiction and non-fiction. This keeps my brain from devouring itself. I just re-read To Kill A Mockingbird, and I also just went through a book of science fiction shorts selected by Ray Bradbury and Alfred Hitchcock. Other than that, the best books I've read recently are Stoner by John Williams, and A Visit From the Goon Squad by Jennifer Egan. Favorites: Murakami, Alexie, Hemmingway, Chabon, and Brautigan when everything gets too real...

I love animated short films. I don't really watch a lot of feature films, but when I was in Amsterdam this summer I saw Boyhood, which really moved me. I've also been recently impressed by Her, Gone Girl (I know it is a great book, smarty-pants), and one other that I can't think of right now...

On a good night, you can find me in my kitchen, listening to the radio, and making something delicious. On an average night I am not this ambitious. No longer a vegetarian, I was raised as such, but a big fan of the vegetable kingdom. I literally could eat Indian food for every meal every day and would be happy. As long as there was an occasional pulled pork sandwich.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My voice
Large bodies of water
A musical instrument
Other people
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How all human belief systems are inventions, so we should try to take ourselves much less seriously. And maintain an open mind. In reality, we all know very little...

For instance, we currently have no clue about:
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If I'm by myself: Taking a bath and listening to episodes of New Sounds on WNYC. Then snuggling up with a brew and netflix.

If I'm out: Seeing some music or a film, or getting drinks with some true pals. Maybe all of the above. You know, ballin' hard.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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...I actually love basketball.

Seriously though, I'll admit anything if you ask. Life is too short, and we don't have time to hide things from each other. Plus, it's better when we don't.
You should message me if
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...that's just what you want to do. If you say the right thing, I might even be your short-term pen pal.

We should meet if: you want to talk, compare notes, or share/explore something - a story, a place... I'm a big fan of tea, coffee, and walks with new people.