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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24-34
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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My details

Last online
Today – 2:13pm
5' 9" (1.75m)
Agnosticism and it’s important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Portuguese (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I am curious, mostly about art and people and history, I guess. I've lived in and around NYC since I was 18, and I love my job, which involves long/irregular hours and travel with mostly people I really enjoy. I like the outdoors, but I don't own any special outdoorsy pants or anything. I know how to have a really good night in a pub without drinking a lot. I can get into busy, and deadlines, and frenzy, and pulling stuff off despite difficult odds. If and when that passes, a day or three somewhere with a back porch and some water and a few active birdfeeders goes a long way.

I love funny... so, so much. I mean to enjoy the most mundane of interactions, the most tedious of days (they're gonna happen) that way. Look: (eventually,) I want to love someone, to be passionate and carnal with them, to climb (mostly figurative) mountains with them (again, do not own mountain-specific pants), to look deep into their eyes and be moved by and with them. But in the boring, in-between, I-hate-outlet-malls-but-this-is-a-once-in-a-lifetime-Le-Crusset-sale-and-we're-RIGHT-here moments, I'm just looking for someone to do this with:
What I’m doing with my life
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I make art, mostly music, mostly with my friends. I'm a full-time professional musician and composer. I lead a few bands and am a member of several more, and I'm an active freelancer/studio musician. (It's hard to explain what kind; let's just say I'm not a classical musician, nor do I play any style that is "cool" enough to involve free drugs, posse brawls, or being irrelevant at 40.) Most of the projects I'm part of could be described as NPR-bait.

I write my own songs and sing them for very small audiences(for now.) I play percussion in a burgueoningly popular band that's taken me south, west, mid-west, and to many of the swankier parts of Western Europe, and Cyprus. I spent April to July this year (co-)composing, rehearsing and performing music for an avant-garde cross-disciplinary piece involving a quartet of opera singers, a trio of female dancers who were naked but for skin-colored thongs with tiny penises hanging off the front, and a giant EDM dance party at the end that none of the German audients would dance to. I have a few more esoteric projects that I'm always looking for ways to make lessoteric.

When not in those places doing those things, I work with people in various stages of the New York State Correctional System, performing in prisons like Rikers Island and Sing Sing, and leading songwriting workshops for teens both in and recently out of juvenile facilities. I also lead workshops where I help mothers transitioning out of homelessness write lullabies for their kids. (A lot of people assume this is volunteer work and I am a saint; I love this job, but it is a contracted job that I do, for Carnegie Hall.)

I'm studying Portuguese, and I like to go and hang at Brazilian music gigs and dance and sit in.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
constructing self-aggrandizing prose. Singing and sounding like me. Playing the pandeiro. Proofrading.

Sorry to say I am also great at being allergic to your cat; eyes itching, sneezing fits, asthma flare-ups, the whole bit. Beyond that, I am invulnerable.
The first things people usually notice about me
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is that I'm Greek, or Turkish, or Portuguese, or Ashkinaze, or Brazilian, or otherwise South American. (nope)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A few months back I was driving around Grand Army Plaza and, instead of my usual LA comedy podcasts, I was listening to WNYC's story on Carole King's early days as a Brill Building songwriter. They played her demo recording of 'You Make Me Feel Like a Natural Woman,' and I thought, "wow, how nice and spare, this really gives you a different perspective on the song, more of a Dolly Parton angle, I almost preFER it to..." and at that moment they faded in the chorus of the Aretha Franklin version and I just started yelling, LOUD, with the windows open, and missed my turn.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lyrics and jokes. Religion and politics. How to live the way I want to while doing what I want to with my life.

How frighteningly dangerous unicorns would be if they existed.

How annoying and dehumanizing this site can be, and how many zillion times worse it must be to be an attractive woman out here.

How much disappointment must fill the lives of the women whose 'message me if' is "I am short. You need to be tall."

How to navigate self-employment even when things are great.

What people mean when they say they're 'brutally honest.' Could they be kindly honest if they worked a little harder?

Whether or not sex is ever truly casual, and if it is, is that sex actually any good? Is it best undertaken with someone you don't much like, to prevent problematic attachments?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't really have that kind of schedule. Weekends are cool because everyone is down to hang and stay up late, and lame because all the places I like to hang and stay up in late are crowded.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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About twenty years ago, I used Kurt Cobain's death to call all of the girls in the middle school phone directory I'd always been too shy to call for any other reason. "Hello... is this Candace? Well, I just thought you should know..."
You should message me if
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You just now found out Kurt Cobain's died, and you need details, and your parents won't let you watch MTV.

Just as a practical matter, I live in South Brooklyn. If you live in New Jersey or the Bronx and points north, I'm flattered by your interest, but I am not a crow, and cannot fly as the crow flies...

I don't wanna go negative here; food is delicious! Often it tastes better in restaurants than at home. I am probably more likely to get along with people who agree that 'brunch' is not a hobby.

Gun to my head, goal of the moment: to find someone interesting with whom I can laugh, watch movies, watch people, cook, have sex, and go into a pet stores to pretend we're gonna buy a puppy together.

Please do not put a gun to my head.