Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am curious, mostly about art and people and history, I guess.
I've lived in and around NYC since I was 18, and I love my job,
which involves long/irregular hours and travel with mostly people I
really enjoy. I like the outdoors, but I don't own any special
outdoorsy pants or anything. I know how to have a really good night
in a pub without drinking a lot. I can get into busy, and
deadlines, and frenzy, and pulling stuff off despite difficult
odds. If and when that passes, a day or three somewhere with a back
porch and some water and a few active birdfeeders goes a long
I love funny... so, so much. I mean to enjoy the most mundane of
interactions, the most tedious of days (they're gonna happen) that
way. Look: (eventually,) I want to love someone, to be passionate
and carnal with them, to climb (mostly figurative) mountains with
them (again, do not own mountain-specific pants), to look deep into
their eyes and be moved by and with them. But in the boring,
moments, I'm just looking for someone to do this with:
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I make art, mostly music, mostly with my friends. I'm a full-time
professional musician and composer. I lead a few bands and am a
member of several more, and I'm an active freelancer/studio
musician. (It's hard to explain what kind; let's just say I'm not a
classical musician, nor do I play any style that is "cool" enough
to involve free hard drugs, posse brawls, or being irrelevant at
40.) Most of the projects I'm part of could be described as
I write my own songs and sing them for very small audiences(for
now.) I play percussion in a burgueoningly popular band that took
me to Europe twice, and South America and the midwest this summer.
I have a few more esoteric projects that I'm always looking for
ways to make lessoteric.
I also work with people in various stages of the New York State
Correctional System, performing in prisons like Rikers Island and
Sing Sing, and leading songwriting workshops for teens both in and
recently out of juvenile facilities. I also lead workshops where I
help mothers transitioning out of homelessness write lullabies for
their kids. (A lot of people assume this is volunteer work and I am
a saint; I love this job, but it is a contracted job that I do, for
I'm studying Portuguese, and I like to go and hang at Brazilian
music gigs and dance and sit in.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
constructing self-aggrandizing prose. Singing and sounding like me.
Playing the pandeiro. Proofrading.
Sorry to say I am also great at being allergic to your cat; eyes
itching, sneezing fits, asthma flare-ups, the whole bit. Beyond
that, I am invulnerable.
The first things people usually notice about me
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is that I'm Greek, or Turkish, or Portuguese, or Ashkinaze, or
Brazilian, or otherwise South American. (nope)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
A few months back I was driving around Grand Army Plaza and,
instead of my usual LA comedy podcasts, I was listening to WNYC's
story on Carole King's early days as a Brill Building songwriter.
They played her demo recording of 'You Make Me Feel Like a Natural
Woman,' and I thought, "wow, how nice and spare, this really gives
you a different perspective on the song, more of a Dolly Parton
angle, I almost preFER it to..." and at that moment they faded in
the chorus of the Aretha Franklin version and I just started
yelling, LOUD, with the windows open, and missed my turn.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lyrics and jokes. Religion and politics. How to live the way I want
to while doing what I want to with my life.
How frighteningly dangerous unicorns would be if they
How annoying and dehumanizing this site can be, and how many
zillion times worse it must be to be an attractive woman out
How much disappointment must fill the lives of the women whose
'message me if' is "I am short. You need to be tall."
How to navigate self-employment even when things are great.
What people mean when they say they're 'brutally honest.' Could
they be kindly honest if they worked a little harder?
Whether or not sex is ever truly casual, and if it is, is that sex
actually any good? Is it best undertaken with someone you don't
much like, to prevent problematic attachments?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't really have that kind of schedule. Weekends are cool
because everyone is down to hang and stay up late, and lame because
all the places I like to hang and stay up in late are crowded.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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About twenty years ago, I used Kurt Cobain's death to call all of
the girls in the middle school phone directory I'd always been too
shy to call for any other reason. "Hello... is this Candace? Well,
I just thought you should know..."
You should message me if
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You just now found out Kurt Cobain's died, and you need details,
and your parents won't let you watch MTV.
Just as a practical matter, I live in South Brooklyn. If you live
in New Jersey or the Bronx and points north, I'm flattered by your
interest, but I am not a crow, and cannot fly as the crow
I don't wanna go negative here; food is delicious! Often it tastes
better in restaurants than at home. I am probably more likely to
get along with people who agree that 'brunch' is not a hobby.
Gun to my head, goal of the moment: to find someone interesting
with whom I can laugh, watch movies, watch people, cook, have sex,
and go into a pet stores to pretend we're gonna buy a puppy
Please do not put a gun to my head.
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