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51 Ashland, MA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 25–70
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:07pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
A little extra
Graduated from masters program
Has a kid
English, French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I don't play games, I'm very direct, and I try to always tell the truth and to be kind. I can carry on a decent conversation with just about anyone, and I enjoy learning about what makes people tick. I'm here on OKC because I'm interested in meeting all kinds of people, to enjoy myself a little in the midst of a fairly go-go-go lifestyle.

I am a fundraising executive and a mom, intelligent, funny, sometimes quiet, sometimes outgoing. I'm used to making all the decisions during the day but sometimes at night I like to be courted and romanced in somewhat of an old-fashioned way.

I'm what you would probably call a BBW -- 5'8" and 200+ pounds -- and have been characterized as very sexy and attractive. I'm pretty much open to anything once. I tend to be attracted to men who are taller than I am, but in general I'm open to men of all races, professions, body types, etc. Though I must admit that I can't deal with Republicans or religious people. Intelligence and sense of humor are a must.

Oh, BTW, in most normal American viewpoints you could consider me fat. And I proudly announce to the world -- as well to the nebulous stable of folks who might be labelled "potential connections...." -- I am, indeed, a fat woman. A fat woman with what many men have called delicious curves and a "pretty face." :-) One who tends to eat her dinner out of her organic garden during the summer and who tends to get to the gym 5 days a week. So those who are into the 21st century Glamour-Cosmopolitan-Insert Magazine Title Here version of female beauty: I suggest you might want to move on. Just sayin'. :-)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a professional fundraiser, a mom, a board member, a philanthropist, a friend, a confidante, a daughter and sister, an erstwhile writer, and someone who is just trying to get from day to day while enjoying the fleeting moments of clarity, joy, and peace along the way.

I work too many hours during the school year and tend toward burn-out at times. That's when good friends, an excellent California cabernet, and an hour with an absorbing novel out in the hammock come in really, really well.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing, being a mom, directing things, conversing, putting two and two together, playing piano, cooking, knitting, being a good friend, listening, being non-judgmental (well, there IS that religion and politics thing.....), sex....
The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't know -- maybe you could tell me. :-) Though a lot of people have told me they like my blue eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I'm an avid reader -- tend toward well-crafted stories -- though lately, given my busy schedule, I "read" books via - -just finished Anna Quindlen's "Blessings" and Sarah Waters' "The Paying Guests." I don't buy books any longer because they clutter up my house and I rarely read things twice. That is, unless they are seminal (to me) like "Women Who Run With the Wolves" by Clarissa Pinkola Estes (though that gives away my feminist leanings, which I realize most men run from....) and "A Journal of a Solitude" by May Sarton. Love historical fiction. Always looking for recommendations. I am particularly fond of novels set in 17th century New England.

I like indie movies. Music runs the gamut -- folk, jazz, blues, classical, rock -- Elvis Costello is one of my favorites. In these days of iPod and iPhone playlists I still tend toward the albums of Billy Joel, Little Feat, early Rolling Stones, Bruce Springsteen. All pre-1982, when I graduated from high school. Hmmmm, is there a connection? :-) Love all kinds of food, tend toward the organic, like to think of myself as a localvore.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friendship, my daughter's smile, money, family, honesty, sex.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to do things better. What scares people. Yes I am open minded but here's the thing: I'm more turned on by intelligence and a sense of humor than I am anything physical.

Lately I've been thinking about my OKC experiences, specifically:

-- Why so many OKC guys think it's a good approach to send me one word emails. Or variations of "let's get it on, baby."

-- Why "don't ask don't tell" marriages don't equal open relationships in my book -- though I've had several participants in said self-described marriages try to convince me otherwise.

-- Do men really expect a response when they have no photos, no questions answered, and no profiles listed?

-- I think there is a great business opportunity for a professional photography service geared specifically toward OKC men. It seems that fuzzy selfies taken in bathroom mirrors are the portraits of choice for many.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At the gym, or reading in the hammock with a glass of wine (or in front of the fire in the winter), or having friends over around the fire pit, or, quite frankly, vegging in front of really bad TV after a stressful week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I believe in polyamory.
You should message me if
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you are not intimidated by smart, strong women, but you know how to treat a woman well at the same time. You are turned on by giving, paying attention to and being curious about your partner. You know how to take charge, even when I am vying for control. :-). You are either single or in an open relationship ("don't ask don't tell" marriages don't count, sorry, in my experience you are deluding yourself), you don't play games, you don't wear cologne but you smell really nice, and you want to have an interesting conversation over a fabulous cup of coffee or a glass of wine. You are your own person and have found success in your life, however you define that. Most importantly: if you know what you want. I see that OKC has identified me as someone who "responds selectively." That's because I never respond to one word messages. Oh, and I'm not interested in long distance relationships, or sponsoring anyone to move to the Boston (I've been noticing that the majority of men who contact me live elsewhere, even though I specifically say I'm looking for people near me).