Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I don't play games, I'm very direct, and I try to always tell the
truth and to be kind. I can carry on a decent conversation with
just about anyone, and I enjoy learning about what makes people
tick. I'm here on OKC because I'm interested in meeting all kinds
of people, to enjoy myself a little in the midst of a fairly
I am a fundraising executive and a mom, intelligent, funny,
sometimes quiet, sometimes outgoing. I'm used to making all the
decisions during the day but sometimes at night I like to be
courted and romanced in somewhat of an old-fashioned way.
I'm what you would probably call a BBW -- 5'8" and 200+ pounds --
and have been characterized as very sexy and attractive. I'm pretty
much open to anything once. I tend to be attracted to men who are
taller than I am, but in general I'm open to men of all races,
professions, body types, etc. Though I must admit that I can't deal
with Republicans or religious people. Intelligence and sense of
humor are a must.
Oh, BTW, in most normal American viewpoints you could consider me
fat. And I proudly announce to the world -- as well to the nebulous
stable of folks who might be labelled "potential connections...."
-- I am, indeed, a fat woman. A fat woman with what many men have
called delicious curves and a "pretty face." :-) One who tends to
eat her dinner out of her organic garden during the summer and who
tends to get to the gym 5 days a week. So those who are into the
21st century Glamour-Cosmopolitan-Insert Magazine Title Here
version of female beauty: I suggest you might want to move on. Just
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a professional fundraiser, a mom, a board member, a
philanthropist, a friend, a confidante, a daughter and sister, an
erstwhile writer, and someone who is just trying to get from day to
day while enjoying the fleeting moments of clarity, joy, and peace
along the way.
I work too many hours during the school year and tend toward
burn-out at times. That's when good friends, an excellent
California cabernet, and an hour with an absorbing novel out in the
hammock come in really, really well.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing, being a mom, directing things, conversing, putting two and
two together, playing piano, cooking, knitting, being a good
friend, listening, being non-judgmental (well, there IS that
religion and politics thing.....), sex....
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't know -- maybe you could tell me. :-) Though a lot of people
have told me they like my blue eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm an avid reader -- tend toward well-crafted stories -- though
lately, given my busy schedule, I "read" books via audible.com -
-just finished Anna Quindlen's "Blessings" and Sarah Waters' "The
Paying Guests." I don't buy books any longer because they clutter
up my house and I rarely read things twice. That is, unless they
are seminal (to me) like "Women Who Run With the Wolves" by
Clarissa Pinkola Estes (though that gives away my feminist
leanings, which I realize most men run from....) and "A Journal of
a Solitude" by May Sarton. Love historical fiction. Always looking
for recommendations. I am particularly fond of novels set in 17th
century New England.
I like indie movies. Music runs the gamut -- folk, jazz, blues,
classical, rock -- Elvis Costello is one of my favorites. In these
days of iPod and iPhone playlists I still tend toward the albums of
Billy Joel, Little Feat, early Rolling Stones, Bruce Springsteen.
All pre-1982, when I graduated from high school. Hmmmm, is there a
connection? :-) Love all kinds of food, tend toward the organic,
like to think of myself as a localvore.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friendship, my daughter's smile, money, family, honesty, sex.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to do things better. What scares people. Yes I am open minded
but here's the thing: I'm more turned on by intelligence and a
sense of humor than I am anything physical.
Lately I've been thinking about my OKC experiences,
-- Why so many OKC guys think it's a good approach to send me one
word emails. Or variations of "let's get it on, baby."
-- Why "don't ask don't tell" marriages don't equal open
relationships in my book -- though I've had several participants in
said self-described marriages try to convince me otherwise.
-- Do men really expect a response when they have no photos, no
questions answered, and no profiles listed?
-- I think there is a great business opportunity for a professional
photography service geared specifically toward OKC men. It seems
that fuzzy selfies taken in bathroom mirrors are the portraits of
choice for many.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At the gym, or reading in the hammock with a glass of wine (or in
front of the fire in the winter), or having friends over around the
fire pit, or, quite frankly, vegging in front of really bad TV
after a stressful week.
You should message me if
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you are not intimidated by smart, strong women, but you know how to
treat a woman well at the same time. You are turned on by giving,
paying attention to and being curious about your partner. You know
how to take charge, even when I am vying for control. :-). You are
either single or in an open relationship ("don't ask don't tell"
marriages don't count, sorry, in my experience you are deluding
yourself), you don't play games, you don't wear cologne but you
smell really nice, and you want to have an interesting conversation
over a fabulous cup of coffee or a glass of wine. You are your own
person and have found success in your life, however you define
that. Most importantly: if you know what you want. I see that OKC
has identified me as someone who "responds selectively." That's
because I never respond to one word messages. Oh, and I'm not
interested in long distance relationships, or sponsoring anyone to
move to the Boston (I've been noticing that the majority of men who
contact me live elsewhere, even though I specifically say I'm
looking for people near me).
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