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42 • Hanover, PA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 26–45
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Feb 10, 2013
- 5′ 10″ (1.78m)
- Body type
- Mostly other
- Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
- Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from high school
- Science / Engineering
- Has kids
- Likes dogs
I am Someone honest and great at communicating as well as listening..light hearted and fun who doesn't take themselves too seriously. i am happy with my life and not seeking a woman to do so for me...I have respect for elders...I was raised that way as well as my sense of being grateful..life is too short to be anything but happy. a gentleman in every word.
I just want to Date at 1st, I split from the wife after 14 years (Don't Like Cheaters) I got 2 kids both girls...I work and I like to play
I live an open lifestyle, open mind
The majority of people in The Lifestyle are committed or married couples who share their fantasies with each other and enjoy exploring them together. If done correctly and with proper communication, this lifestyle can lead to all sorts of fun and exciting sexual experiences, new friendships, and a closer, more honest and more intimate relationship than either person ever thought possible.
The most important thing to remember about the people in The Lifestyle, is that they are normal people just like you. And its not a 24 7 thing I am looking for true love and a partner. The lifestyle is just for the fun and friends Love is for me and my partner. I like to go out one weekend every couple of weeks or when we decide as a couple to go play and have fun.
I have things to say on this subject. While the lifestyle is fantastic, I would hope anyone don’t pass up a chance at true love simply because someone isn't keen to the idea of swinging. Just because someone isn't interested in swinging, doesn't necessarily mean that there not the right person for you… in the end it all comes down to your own priorities.
People often assume that the Lifestyle is centered around macho sex-crazed men who view women as sex objects. Nothing could be further from the truth. It’s tragic that our society shames women into repressing any expression of their sexuality, classifying them as “sluts” or “tramps” any time they show a healthy sexual appetite. While at the same time, overly sexual men are applauded as “studs”. That doesn't sound like the definition of gender equality to me! Our society’s sexual double standard is what is really demeaning to women!
The Lifestyle not only levels the sexual playing field, it actually tips it heavily in favor of women. WOMEN RUN THE LIFESTYLE. While swinging is a partnership and a team effort, it is women who make all the ultimate decisions. Women are the ones who make the first move. Ask any woman in the Lifestyle and she will tell you, “The Lifestyle Empowers Women”.
Men in the lifestyle are polite, patient, respectful, and most of all grateful that they have a girl who is open-minded enough to want to experience this with him. Men who are bossy, aggressive, disrespectful or otherwise inappropriate do not last long in the Lifestyle. In the case of most Lifestyle parties, clubs or events, a couple with a disrespectful male will be immediately expelled and never allowed back… and news of rowdy male behavior travels fast. “What are my favorite things about being in the Lifestyle?“
In this order:
1) Each Other
The Lifestyle has brought couples closer to each other and made there bond stronger than ever. They have better trust and communication than either of them have ever had in previous conventional relationships. Seeing other people appreciate your spouse is a constant reminder of just how beautiful they are and how lucky you are to have them.
2) The People
I have met so many incredible open –minded people and made so many close friends. You may not believe me, but you’ll learn that the Lifestyle is not all about having sex. Through the people that you’ll meet, you’ll find that your life can improve in many different ways. The people I have met in the Lifestyle are without a doubt the most generous and helpful people that I ever met anywhere.
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n. With in the lifestyle
a) An open-minded person who pursues fun playful and flirtatious friendships, which are often, but not always, of a sexual nature.
b) Someone who is comfortable with his or her own sexuality and understands that 'Sex', 'Sexuality' & 'Physical Pleasure' are nothing to be ashamed of.
c) A person who understands that 'Sex' and 'Love' are not the same thing and can each be enjoyed separately and without jealousy.
took me 40 years too realize I'm too old to change to young to start over and just old enough to start liking who i am
Me and the ex wife where NOT in the lifestyle together....only been doing it from the split..
There are two things at work here, animal lust and love. Animal lust is what you felt in your late teens early twenties when you were on your dates and had that first kiss, the first touch of her thigh, the feeling of his hand on your knee not knowing if you were going to explode then things progressed. When we fall in love, those feelings of lust towards your partner will eventually cool down, and are replaced with a wonderful feeling of security and attachment. But the craving for animal lust will always be there… That is why so many people give in to the lustful cravings and cheat on their spouses.
Swinging is something that couples do because they love each other. They love to please each other and watch each other be pleasured. The passion that it stirs in them can take them to a higher level of intensity than you could ever believe. Since they willingly indulge each other’s lustful cravings in a cooperative and supervised manner, there is far less chance that they will fall prey to temptation when they are away from each other.
Thank you for looking at my profile and hope we can chat some time...
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