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47 • Brooklyn, NY • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 29–51
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Online now!
- 5′ 10″ (1.78m)
- Body type
- Trying to quit
- Aries, and it’s fun to think about
- Graduated from masters program
- Art / Music / Writing
- Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
- Likes dogs and likes cats
In principle, I despise jobs and the workaday life. I broke my teeth and paid my dues in the down-and-out DIY contemporary art world. Then, I failed into the high-end Museum and Auction and High Fashion worlds, which made me very confused. Now, I am in books and happy as a clam. I feel blessed (like it’s a trick of which I am not worthy) to interview my favorite authors anytime I want. They don’t say no. Or, God forbid, review them. It’s a workaday life that I lead now, not so very interesting, perhaps, from the outside.
I am relatively unfamiliar with the word no. For this reason, I can be very empowering to people, especially those who hover on the edge. In some ways, this also makes me a little bit dangerous, even though I have a really good heart and would never ever encourage anyone to do something dangerous or hurtful to themselves or someone else—this being an important distinction for me that distinguishes me from some of my colleagues and peers.
Maybe this makes me a good badboy. I just happen to think that there's more going on in this world than mainstream culture dreams of, although I'm still hooked on the core values.
My limits are high. I can tolerate difficult people like nobody's business, especially creative wonderful geniuses. Most people can't, so I often get to keep them. But I give many more points to people of grace and dignity and would probably prefer to connect with someone who just walked off the set of Little House on the Prairie.
I survive by grooming myself and acting polite. I work as a marketing creative at the highest end of the luxury spectrum, like a house slave. That world I serve is like a book I'm reading, not my life at all, and most of my intellectual antics at night tend to be as inappropriate as possible to that kind of propriety. I mean, sh*t, I actually used to have to write etiquette.
In my last chapter, I was a writer by day and an impresario and a raconteur at night. I curated art and criticized it and even made it. I tried selling it too, but I was never very good at that part.
When, after a decade+, I finally lost my superpowers, I took pause to reflect and realized that I done the same exact thing for all that time, mostly out of habit, and for all of it I had paid absolutely no attention to what anyone was doing unless they walked directly into the purview of my immediate creative concerns (I think maybe that's the long-winded way of saying, I was having fun). I was so busy trying to make the world just a little bit more entertaining, as though nibble by nibble we would get to something profound.
So, now I'm trying to take a step back and figure all that out. This is a process and it involves meeting new people and getting new perspectives. More specifically, I want to have a crush on someone and I want it to last forever.
Books are where I am most at home. Currently loving Zoo City by Lauren Beukes. South African author destined to be the next big 'ting'. I'm interviewing her next week and very excited about that.
Some of the genres/authors and books that have had a big impact on me include: St. Exupery, Charlotte’s Web, Candide, Don Quixote, Thomas Hardy, Klaus Theweleit’s Male Fantasies, Jonathan Carroll, Dostoyevsky’s The Idiot, Poe, Coleridge, Mary Shelley, historical fiction, Luc Sante’s Low Life, Cormac McCarthy’s The Road, Magic Mountain, John Barth (particularly Giles Goat Boy), The Black Dahlia, Moby Dick, Roald Dahl, Huckleberry Finn, theory, Virginia Wolfe, Robert Coover’s Spanking the Made, Graham Greene…
I am a foodie and an omnivore. Seriously into learning how to boil water properly.
My favorite meal is breakfast. I have a very healthy curiosity about new things and am especially fond of seafood (steamers, top neck clams for lunch most days, percebes which are also called gooseneck barnacles, smoked fish, the toothier the better). Dim sum, yes. Middle Eastern, yes. Rustic Italian, yes. Asian fusion, yes. Indian, yes. Regional American comfort food, yes. In restaurants, a chill, relaxed vibe is important to me.
TV: Not so much. I’m a big fail here. Haven’t quite figured out how to get into it, but am open to trying. I do Game of Thrones, Vikings and Walking Dead on social occasions.
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