The end of 2014 and beginning of 2015 has been a huge rushing out of changes for me. I can say that I’m still the same kind of person I’ve been, but with a different sense of optimism than I have felt in the past. 50 is a strange year in the life – it’s when all the trends you’ve been seeing for a deade are now solid reality: I’m not so quick as I once was, nor as dark-haired, nor thin, nor as dark or harsh as I had been. I’m much better at letting things roll off my back, and less apt to take offense or draw conclusions than when I was younger. I’m still open, and fully willing to embrace and examine emotional states (both mine and a partner’s), and I am looking for a partner in life, but I would really like a friend who wants to enjoy the learning process with me. I’m busy with reconstructing my career, after decades of being a software trainer, professional classical musician, a muscle therapist, and a host of other types of business. I keep coming back to teaching and to growing things. Horticultural instructor? I don’t know. I’m giving it time.
I live in the suburbs of Philadelphia, about 30 miles from the center of town. I’m very much a country boy and need to be around the land, the farmland and the trees. I despise the truly suburban areas of mindlessly “developed” zones with no practical culture. My years living downtown in Philadelphia, and working in many urban locations across the country were great fun, but I’m not that kind of young person anymore, and I can always visit easily. I’d like to find someone around who finds town life and countryside more appealing than the speed and intensity of the city, but who also seeks the culture and entertainment of urban life.
I usually have a terribly bleak outlook in the winter months, owing to SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder.) This year it seems to be responding to changes in my nutrition, large doses of Vitamin D, and to a 1000 watt lamp which extends my daylight hours. My spring, summer and fall hours are much dedicated to growing a food garden (about ½ an acre or so at this point.) I would love to plan for a dog and chickens to fill out the layout, but I spend a lot of time helping my family as my folks get older, so I’m saving the extra dedication it would require for the next chapter in life.
I spent the better part of four years living in Santa Fe, New Mexico and I am frankly entirely homesick for it. Once you’ve lived the Rocky Mountain life it’s impossible to shake it out of your system. I would very much like to meet someone open to the idea of being there at least for some point in the future. I would so much like to visit and it's long overdue. My very best of friends are still there, and though I like the folks around here, I feel like I'm just lingering. I am in PA for "the duration" as they say. I came back to help my folks as they get older (my mom's in her 'second childhood' right now), but it is sort of like putting my “whole” life on hold. Anyway, I really want to plan a trip to NM this year, impose on some friends during opera season in Santa Fe and just get back to that first chakra earth energy that I always felt being out there, and I don't know, lie in a pool at Ojo Caliente…
I like independent-minded, smart guys. I have a visceral attraction to blonds that I can't explain - maybe because I'm dark and my first crush was a beautiful blond guy - but it doesn't make my choices for me, it's just a chemical thing.