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50 Newtown, PA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 35–56
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last Online
Yesterday – 10:52am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Life. Chapter 206. Now living back in Pennsylvania (Newtown, north and east of Philadelphia), starting out again. I spent 4 years in Santa Fe, and I have now officially burned out on it. It's the most beautiful place I've been to, but it is maddening in terms of making a living or music, or massage, or what have you. So I'm now back where there is family and friends, and less sunshine; I hope I can keep my mood up (SAD sucks!).

I've found a new home (a horrible fixer upper - how did I do this?) to rent and I'm seeking some part-time work. I spend my time with Music, Muscle Therapy and with my cats digging up the garden. I'm a chemist, computer nerd, grant-seeker, massage therapist and professional classical (vocal) musician. I love history, classic films, reading fiction and nonfiction and early mornings, though I receive much help from coffee. I'm a sensual person and a thinker, usually an introvert but I extravert on demand. Contradictions notwithstanding, I'm noted for a keen intellect and strong opinions and I'm learning to temper all that and be more open emotionally.

At this point (February of 2009, well, nearly) I'm trying to figure out how to get away from this money-chase culture, just get back to my gardening, countryside appreciation, and the calm enjoyment of the simplest things in life. Find some peace, I think.

I've come back east to be near my parents, but I'm trying to find what area best suits me. I'm on a quest to "taste-test" around the east coast (within, what, say 500 miles of Phila? - ok 1,000 - well, let's say one day's travel? I don't know) to locate someplace for me to live; I'm tired of moving all the time. I work best in a dyad, and I like independent-minded, smart guys. I have a visceral attraction to blonds that I can't explain - maybe because I'm dark and my first crush was a beautiful blond guy - but it doesn't make my choices for me, it's just a chemical thing. I've lived a lot of my younger years in city, now I'm longing to get back to the country, and start living a life more removed from the structures of suburban society...

I am Intense, Expressive, and Thoughtful
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a professional, classical choral and vocal musician, a massage therapist (specializing in working with musicians, myofascial release work, and emotional release work), and I do computer consulting with various professions, including working with investment people (which is probably why I so sick to death of people that do nothing but chase money).

I've always been a student of body language, and I can usually note what ails someone by looking at how they walk and hold themselves. This is not an earth-shattering insight, I know, but professionally it has been my hallmark.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Music, Gardening, Cooking and Massage. Sensual arts, I guess you could call them.

I really enjoy performing music for people that feel things when listening. The middle movement of Beethoven's Kreutzer Sonata will always make me cry for its tenderness and beauty. Debussy must have truly loved the Girl with the Flaxen Hair so very much, but from afar, the longing is so poignant. I used to play some of these pieces for one of the students I sang with and it probably increased my appreciation of him just because he listened and smiled quietly and tried not to put anything into words. Now if I could learn that trait, I'd be irresistable!
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have no trouble expressing my opinion, and it's usually pretty sophisticated.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Reading, singing, intelligent conversation, companionship, trust, and a place to garden - extensively.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
You name it - I'll extemporize
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Home, working in the garden, lounging in the hammock, chatting with friends online, making new friends online, cooking a meal, preparing for students on the weekend, practicing my music for the jazz choir, the medieval choir, or whatever, and then curling up around a good book, the cats, whatever's close by.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My partner of two years, with whom I moved to NM from PA died in Sept. 2006 after a stroke at 33. I'm growing through the destruction of our relationship, his alcoholism and the long dark after his death. Now that time has passed (some), it's changing and becoming less of such a millstone, and more a milestone that makes me both happy and sad.
You should message me if
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You've ever been told "you think too much", if you love music making, if you want to help in the garden, you really need a therapeutic massage, or are a great conversationalist, or like to hang out in silence (so long as you're good at snuggling). Well read individuals are much encouraged. I'm mostly harmless. Passions encouraged.