Hello there. I am a writer, editor and positive kink educator; singer-songwriter, multi-instrumentalist and music producer.

Tall, dark, friendly, relaxed. I prefer to be unraveled on a date rather than sum up my life here really. I've had stalkers so I am also wary.

Looking for a woman who is not addicted to cocaine or their own baggage. I adore intelligence & all routes to laughter.
I'm also a fan of style, but not over content.

I freelance in a variety of fields including magazine editing to fund all else, including my entrepreneurial investigations and creative projects. Just got an ILM award in enterprise planning.

Focusing on prehabilitation, gym fitness, mixed schools yoga, cycling, running, swimming and eating less silly party food, like crisps.

All the things I'm passionate about...
Friendship
Conversation
Cooking to a restaurant standard
Listening
Kissing
Playing the devil's advocate
Providing answers
Making people belly laugh
Sussing out BS
Dancing
Skepticism NOT cheap Charlie Brooker cynicism
Badminton
Fencing (foil)
Backgammon

I've been told:
Size. Half-sleeve tattoo. Charm/ humour. Frankness. That I'm actually listening. That I'm a man: not a bloke, boy, lad or a cliché.

Too many and too much...
Books: Immortality Milan Kundera
Picture This Joseph Heller
Films: A Clockwork Orange Kubrick
Apocalypse Now Coppola
Amelie and less obvious French cinema
Philosophy: A mix of Buddhist and Taoist with existential absurdism. I read Alain de Botton and AC Grayling to help me digest and debate complex ideas
Albums: Big Science Laurie Anderson, Blue Joni Mitchell, Beatles White, Brian Wilson Smile, Boards of Canada Geodaddy
TV: Mad Men/Thick of It/The Bridge
Comedy: Python, Spike Milligan, Peter Cooke, Comic Strip Presents, Borat
Stand-up: Louis CK, Bill Hicks, Steve Martin (late 70s), Steven Wright, Stewart Lee.
Food: Chinese, Indian, Italian, French, Spanish, Japanese; macrobiotic, home cooking.

The arts: especially songs & film
The love and support of my sister and friends
The immemorial wash and expanse of the sea
Keeping fit/practising yoga/pilates/running/cycling
Love, sex and classy kink (ie, intelligent and stylish)
Something to learn

My friends
Recipes for nutrition and my lapses
Wine (Grenache, pinotage, Zinfandel, Sangiovese, Pinot noir)
Philosophy (Buddhist, Taoist, Existential, post-punk hippy)
Humour, Song structure
Creative & writing projects
My fitness/wellbeing
Financial intelligence
Music
Film
Boy-Boy the studio cat
Latex/rubber kink

doing a number of things, one of which would be drinking wine with friends. Going to fetish clubs. Cinema. Friends' parties. In the studio.

On here? Mmm... Rest assured I'm pretty open once you get to know me.

- if you can not judge me till after we've had a conversation.
- if you're not put off that I didn't message first.