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26 M Raleigh, NC

My Details

Last Online
Jul 16
Hispanic / Latin, White, Other
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of space camp
Entertainment / Media
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I just moved to Raleigh! yay! and I need nearby humans to hang out with!

Stephen Fry was once asked: "Is everything a joke to you?"
His response was: "Only the things that matter."
It's a really fair description of how I view things. If you can't laugh about something then you haven't properly internalized it. Which means I didn't take answering the questions very seriously.

Or to put it another MUCH nerdier way; If you're familiar with the term, I could be described as "Chaotic-Good." I will save you the trouble of Googleing it though:
"A chaotic good [person] acts as his conscience directs him with little regard for what others expect of him. He makes his own way, but he's kind and benevolent. He believes in goodness and right but has little use for laws and regulations. He hates it when people try to intimidate others and tell them what to do. He follows his own moral compass, which, although good, may not agree with that of society."

I know who I am and what I want. I've had women try to change me but I can't be tied down! I'm free as a bird! I'm wanted dead or alive! I won't be part of your system, man!

Seriously though, I feel like a big part of a successful relationship is being friends with your partner first. If you can't joke around with them, tell them things and have them listen as your friend and not a "girlfriend" then it'll never work.

I'm much more in favor of just meeting and having a face to face conversation. I feel like we'd learn more about each other, and isn't meeting the point anyway? I do however find myself in the uncomfortable position of not liking coffee. So, there's that.

I have a really bad habit of being the middle of editing my profile then just walking
What I’m doing with my life
I work in Technical Theater. Which more or less means I do Lights and Sound for shows. I really love my job, but if there aren't any shows happening I don't get any work.
I work in Cary and Durham, and just very recently moved to Raleigh.

I've started working out a lot. As much as I hate when people take picture of themselves in mirrors. When I get my sexy thunder-god body, I look forward to having earned that photo.
I’m really good at
I'm not really sure how to write this without it being an extension of my resume. Figuring out how stuff works. People and things. I've always been good with my hands. I'll take something apart when it's broken and just tinker with it and fix it.
I don't read instructions I just do.

I'm a half-decent cook. I used to a half-decent bass player, but that was years ago.
The first things people usually notice about me
You tell me. Perfect excuse to message me.

My friends have told me that I'm "extremely well-adjusted"
and my father once described me as "the ultimate hippie"
and honestly, I wasn't sure weather or not to be insulted. But, in his words; it was in the sense that nothing phases me "everything is like water off a duck's back to you" were his exact words come to think of it.

If that doesn't work for you as a description. I've also been compared to The Dread Pirate Roberts, Gambit, and Flynn Rider.
So, ya, apparently I'm a scoundrel, and also a pirate, or I a latent mutant power. All of which are awesome and things I'm completely okay with people thinking about me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies, TV, Books-I really like finding new IP that I can sink my teeth into.

Books - I do read actual books! I've recently gotten into books that became movies, I think the comparison is neat. I enjoy comics but the never ending question is where to start. So recently a friend has gotten me on trade paperbacks. However, George Orwell will never have the entertainment qualities of people who can shoot laser beams out of their face, but I digress.

Shows - Actual television irritates me greatly. I only watch stuff on Netflix, and it's mostly things that the rest of the wide word would consider very nerdy, but I find unquestioningly normal and I would hope you do as well I.E. Firefly.

Movies -I really love movies and I could never even begin to list all of the movies I enjoy.

Music- Music is a really broad category for me as well. Given a choice, it tends to lean more towards metal. If it's just music on in the background, it's kind of whatever. I quoted Lady Gaga off the top of my head in one of my question explanations.

Video Games - I include this here because I'm very much a gamer and it's important to me. But it's very important to note that I only played Call of Duty so that I couldn't be called a hypocrite. Because color me unimpressed Batman. I own a ZX spectrum game, and it's based on a musical, cause I'm a huge nerd.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What to do with my life. There are so many possibilities at this point. How to go about starting my own business. Life, Philosophy, I have a keen interest in Buddhism, and would like to get to a point where I could call myself one. I feel like I can't in good conscience because I feel I just don't know enough/practice enough. I quite enjoy spending time thinking about these things aloud with other people as well. As per that whole human social interaction thing.

But for lack of a more eloquent way of doing things, as I find this difficult to write without it being an extension of my resume. Here is a list of stuff I find interesting:
rock-climbing, gardening, massage-therapy, Zen, quantum-mechanics, (no really) physics, statistics, programming
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Once upon a time I used to be a part of The Rocky Horror Picture Show shadowcast in Raleigh. but, no longer. I quit the show some time in late 2012. However, spending 6 years in fishnets subsequently means not private about much.

I have Letter of Sexual Recommendation. Seriously. I keep a copy in my wallet. 1) because it's hilarious as a conversation starter 2) because I probably need to seriously re-evaluate my definition of the word "appropriate"

All that said. I'm not in that habit of chasing down new sexual pray like a Cheetah after a damn gazelle. I could rattle on about gender politics, but suffice to say, there is noting more attractive then a women who is in control of her sex life enough to proactively want one. I'm not in the market of having sex with children. You're a big girl I trust you to use your words. It's sexy.

Also, fun fact, my name isn't Jak, but my middle name is Mitchell.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–29
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Congratulations. If you read everything, I'm impressed, and you officially know more about me then people I've gone on actual dates with. Given that, you should probably go ahead and message me. I've been taking getting messaged more seriously as I've known women on OKC who literally get over 100 notifications every day. (Not kidding) That said, it means more when it comes from you.
There is all this pressure to "knock it out of the park" with this perfect message. It's better to just hear from you if you're interested.

I'm never really happy with my profile so I'm always re-writing, and editing it.