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Janabean

42 F New York, NY

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 4:24pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity
Sign
Capricorn
Education
Graduated from law school
Job
Law
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Isn't internet dating the best??? Said no one. Ever.

Anyway, since it seems to be the way to meet people these days, so...I've been in NYC for most of my adult life and while I have managed to surround myself with an amazing group of friends, still haven’t met “that guy” (and I’d rather be single than be involved with someone just for something to do). I'd like to meet someone special and have a relationship based what I think are the essentials: trust, kindness, chemistry and respect . That said, I also think it’s important to want to take your clothes off when you see someone.

A bit about me: I am fun, funny, kind, smart, successful and driven enough to love what I do but not be obsessed with it. I'm a good listener and a great audience (I love to laugh and I do it out loud and often). I try not to take myself too seriously, but at the same time I am reliable and, where a situation calls for a grown-up, I can be very no-nonsense. I can come off as a little aloof (really it’s because I'm a little shy) or alternatively "tough" (keep in mind I am a woman in a man's world professionally (I'm a maritime lawyer) so it comes with the territory), but at heart I am very compassionate and generous (both emotionally and otherwise). I think if you asked my friends, they would say the same and then some.

I love cooking, eating and a good cocktail (or more than one). I am a gym junkie. I am always "in the middle of a book". If I start one I have to finish - even if I hate it. I can get ready to go out in 15 minutes and look cute (I can get ready and look hot in 37 minutes). My dog and I come as a package deal (thought, frankly, she's much cooler than I am. I've learned a lot from her, actually. But that's a story for another time).

I love learning about people and learning about life. In other words, I like myself and I like my life…..and it would be great to have a partner in crime who likes himself and his life too.

A disclaimer: I'm somewhere between "curvy" and "athletic" so I picked athletic but I've def. got some lady-curves.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a maritime lawyer. You wouldn't believe the sh*t that happens on boats. For law, its a fun gig and I really enjoy my work, but ultimately its really just a J-O-B.

I am also a dedicated crossfitter. I wish I could get paid to do it but I'm not that good. I can talk about things other than crossfit but if you're a crossfit hater and can;t keep it to yourself we might have an issue.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making people feel comfortable; listening (and actually hearing what someone is saying!!); saying I'm sorry; sunbathing (if it were an Olympic sport I'd medal every time!); supporting friends and family; laughing at other peoples jokes; yoga; my job; showing up at the gym even when I don't want to.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes (or if you're a boob man, my boobs).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Anything by John Irving or Stephen King (go ahead and mock - he's brilliant), The Unbearable Lightness of Being. I am presently in the middle of the Game of Thrones books and I am OBSESSED!!
Movies: I don't like going to the movies. I know, weird, but I don't.
TV: Law & Order (the original), CSI, The Killing, basically any cop/law show. I suffer through life without HBO
Music: everything except "unstructured" Jazz and Rush
Food: Here's what I don't like: broccoli rabe and kale. Everything else is fair game
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sundresses, reading, the gym, my dog, my friends, the beach.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why I am on this website
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Socializing (dinner and drinks....typical NY)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I only make my bed when I am having guests.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 35–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...any of this sparks your interest....but first, a few "must haves":
-emotionally available and are ready for a relationship (that doesn't mean jumping into a relationship with ME. Come on, we barely know each other, but please be in a place where you want to be involved with someone special and not playing the field forever)
-smart
-have a slightly wicked sense of humor
-single (I'm not looking to have an affair or "friends with benefits". If that's what I wanted, I wouldn't be on OKC, I'd be out getting laid)
-age appropriate (meaning you are not old enough to be my dad and I'm not old enough to be your mom)
-confident and comfortable in your own skin
-have a "glass half-full" outlook on life (no Debbie Downers, please)
-cares about being healthy and fit