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30 Brooklyn, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–32
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:12am
5′ 9″ (1.74m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of Ph.D program
English (Fluently), Russian (Okay), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am an obsessive computer nerd with many unresolved issues. I have various hobbies and interests suited for a young urban professional. I suspect that advertising them on my profile, in an attempt to make myself stand out, would be counterproductive: the list would sound exactly like those of everyone else on here. I live in an expensive apartment in an overpriced borough, and fret about the money I spend. I have turned 30 and don't know what to do with myself, as my entire identity is structured around being in my 20s.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a software engineer at a large tech company working on distributed systems that power cloud services. I spend most of my time writing C++. I consider my assignment a great privilege, as few programmers get to work on this kind of stuff. This mode of work replaces some of the mundanities of a typical programming job with far more substantial technical challenges. However, what I currently work on does not constitute my true passion. I feel more strongly about the design and implementation of programming languages, especially in addressing the obvious flaws of the status quo.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
fostering an energetic style of creativity that is a wellspring of ideas and inspiration. Also, I am a swing dance geek, covering the dances of Lindy Hop, Balboa, and Charleston.
The first things people usually notice about me
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my intelligence. It comes off as a know-it-all-ness that can be very annoying. Hopefully, there's a redeeming spontaneity that ultimately renders it charming, entertaining, and stimulating, but I don't have much faith in my people skills and neither should you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I don't have the attention span for books, which I consider most unfortunate. Currently, my favorite movie is What We Do in the Shadows. I am very excited about the TV shows Better Call Saul and Silicon Valley. Music is good, especially old jazz, but I think the music industry nowadays churns out a product that doesn't live up to its name. Regarding food, I am very very adventurous, and have wide interests, but I hate cilantro.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A decent command-line interface
Various supportive people in my life
Transport that does not require my driving
A heater that works in the winter
The amazing thought-organizing capacity of language
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how I got to where I am, and where I am going next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
drinking with one buddy or two, privately or in public.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I feel pretty smug about a lot of things.
You should message me if
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I want to date someone substantially different to those I have dated. The women of my past have certain characteristics in common: marked reliance on psychiatric medication, lack of establishment in their careers, and having a chip on a shoulder. Perhaps I am destined for someone of this type, but I wonder why I am stuck in this pattern. I'd like you to show me that you are different in at least 2 out of 3 of these categories