Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


30 Brooklyn, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–32
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 1:11am
5′ 9″ (1.74m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of Ph.D program
English (Fluently), Russian (Okay), French (Poorly)

Similar Users

My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am an obsessive computer nerd with many unresolved issues. I have various hobbies and interests that are typical of a young urban professional. I suspect that advertising them on my profile, in an attempt to highlight my individuality and make me stand out, might be futile... as I am afraid those activities will make me sound exactly like everyone else on here. I live in an expensive apartment in an overpriced borough, and fret about the money I spend. I have turned 30 and don't know what to do with myself, as my entire identity was structured around being in my 20s.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a software engineer at a large tech company working on distributed systems that power large cloud services. I spend most of my time writing C++. While I consider my assignment a great privilege to work on, as it is much better than the vast majority of mundane tasks that the young exploitative class coerces software "ninjas" into slaving on, it is not my true passion. I feel more strongly about the design and implementation of programming languages, especially in fixing the horrendous obvious flaws of the current status quo.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
having a manic style of creativity that is the source of my ideas and inspiration. This drives all of my endeavors. Also, I am a swing dance geek, covering the dances of Lindy Hop, Balboa, and Charleston.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
my intelligence. It comes off as a know-it-all-ness that can be very annoying. Hopefully, there's a redeeming spontaneity that makes it charming and stimulating in the end, but I don't have much faith in my people skills and neither should you.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't have the attention span for books, which I consider most unfortunate. Currently, my favorite movie is What We Do in the Shadows. I am very excited about the TV show Better Call Saul. Music is good, especially old jazz, but I think the music industry nowadays churns out a product that shouldn't actually be called music. Regarding food, I am very very adventurous, and have wide interests, but I hate cilantro.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A decent command-line interface
Various supportive people in my life
Transport that does not involve me driving
A heater that works in the winter
The amazing thought-organizing capacity of language
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how I got to where I am, and where I am going next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
drinking with one buddy or two, privately or in public.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I feel pretty smug about a lot of things.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I want to date someone substantially different to those I have dated. The women of my past have certain characteristics in common: great reliance on psychiatric medication, lack of establishment in their careers (often in artistic fields), and hyperactive playfulness. Perhaps I am destined for someone of this type, but I wonder why I am stuck in this pattern.