I've never spent time in prison, ran a meth lab, or been in a biker gang, so I am totally lacking “dangerous bad ass” appeal. I suppose that leaves me with the unfortunate “nice guy” label. That doesn’t mean I’m a doormat, it just means that this is who I am as a genuine person. I even believe in chivalry! Congruently, I’m looking for a mature woman who is thinking more about her future, not who’s gonna buy her another martini.
I'll be honest and say I have a bit of a quirky side. I feel like I have an artistic side to me, and in contrast, a very grounded and somewhat conservative side. I could tell you anything you’d like to know about a particular type of beer, cars are my biggest obsession, and I live for football season. I grew up in a small town with blue collar roots, and much of those values have stuck with me. I also have a great appreciation for family values and I’m very close to mine. I’m looking forward to accomplishing “the traditional life goals” like owning a home, getting married, and starting a family but I'm not in a hurry to.
I'm happy with my life right now but I am interested in having a greater "purpose" to it.
In contrast, I also love to get lost in music, I’m very much a “creative type” and an artist, and I can engage in conversations about life, art, literature, politics, philosophy, etc. that last for hours if you get me going. I get very little out of pop culture. I didn’t watch that reality TV show last night, I could care less about any celebrity, and I’d rather go on a 50 mile hiking trip as a vacation instead of going to Cancun. I don’t mean to sound condescending about anyone who enjoys the above, I’m just saying I’d much rather go out and do something that enriches my own life then sit around.
The blending of these two sides to myself, is me. Because of how different these aspects of my personality are, I find myself more apt approach life with an open mind and appreciate things for what they are rather then trying to force myself into a particular image or to stubbornly “pick a side” of an issue. I think above all, I am this “contradiction” because I am always trying to learn something new, hear a different point of view, or tear something apart and see what makes it tick.
In general I'd say I'm a pretty active person. I've made a commitment to getting in better shape this year and I'm working out 4-6 days a week and I've lost over 25 lbs since the start of the year as of 4/15/14. I like to workout or bike, it's not uncommon for me to stay up til 12 or 1 on a regular basis (and consequently I'm a terrible morning person and I enjoy sleeping in a bit on weekends to catch up on my sleep), and I like to experience new places and things as much as I can.
I think I generally look for a certain sense of “vitality” in women. Someone who seems to carry herself well, has a strong will, and lives with passion. I can appreciate sarcasm, and I like a challenge (excluding high maintenance and bitchiness!). I’d hope to find someone I can have laugh with, feel comfortable around, and share some interests with. I’m also looking for someone that’s determined, independent, caring, compassionate, and intelligent. Admittedly someone with a creative flair is a big plus, but it’s not entirely required. If we can laugh and have fun together that’s all that’s important.