A friend you haven't heard from in a while urgently needs something they can only get from you. What would you prefer they do?

• Get back in touch first, ask for it later.
• Ask you for it now, intending to catch up soon.
• Find another way to get it, or do without.

What's the something? (I know OKC's question system leaves to be desired, but I still feel compelled to write about questions like this.) If the something is an article of clothing or something, then the friend should find another way to get it or do without. If it's something related to health or wellness (though I don't know what only I would have that a friend of mine could urgently need for his or her health), I'd say ask now, catch up later.

Ordinarily, I find that if you think you might need something from someone, it's a good idea to stay in touch with that person on at least a skeletal level.

About how much does the cheapest possible wedding cost?

An ex who owes me $8000 has been engaged since the end of 2007, and recently married.

I want my money back. If I could ask for it and really receive it, I want my TIME back. I want to go back to 2007, start my last spring quarter at OSU all over again, and decline the date that led to what happened afterward. I want my old credit report, I want my old debtless life, I want my old body back, before I ate my way into a pit of depression. I want my life back! I'm screaming and sobbing at the computer because I want the life back that I had. I want to stop and reverse time, go back, and do it the way I want to do it, not under the influence of some dumb fucking thief who keeps saying he intends to pay me back, and that when the money is there, he'll send it..

I don't know if he will actually pay me back.. I want him to. I need him to, because I need that money to help get me out of this debt pit that resulted from that first horrible summer out of school.

I'd probably be in gradschool by now if I hadn't gone down there and lived with him in that awful house. I miss the way my study was arranged before I left.. I miss knowing where everything was, and I miss the comfort of knowing that this was home without question. I miss having possibilities open to me, relationship-wise, without the fear of repeating what he did to me.

Don't bother replying to this.. just wanted to vent publicly. I don't know why that's cathartic, but it is.

 

Have you ever intentionally left a book in a public place, hoping someone else would pick it up and read it?

• Yes.
• No.

No, but this is a good idea! Makes me want to go buy five copies of a few books from the banned book list and plant them around town!

Have you made special efforts to keep any favorite toys from your childhood?

• Yes.
• No.

Zero is a little white bear who stands about four inches tall. He's quite soft, and his body is made of a beanbag. He's the one childhood 'toy' that I make sure doesn't get packed away or buried. Since he is so small, he hangs out in a little basket somewhere in my room. Sometimes for storage I slip him into this little zippered wrist pouch that looks like a miniature backpack.

I used to make sure that my frog collection was out, but they mostly collected dust and that was unfortunate. So the stuffed frogs I have live in a plastic tub with a lid.

I guess I've made an effort to ensure that other things, like the Legos, erector sets, board games, and some of the unique Fisher Price toys I had don't stray too far from home. I'm of the opinion that toys are less engaging today than they were when I was a kid, and so they are things I would like to have for my own children. Someday.

I'd like to point out that this has caused me to hear my biological clock ticking, and I don't appreciate that.

In general, how relaxed are you on a first date?

• First dates make me nervous.
• Maybe a few butterflies.
• No worries.

Two years ago my answer would have been either a few butterflies or no worries.

Now, I'm paranoid. Suspicious. Broken and shielding myself. (Who the hell is going to want to go on a date with me after I write something like this?)

Of the following, which is your preferred method for expressing love to a partner?

• Physical touch.
• Talking, words of affirmation.
• Gifts and meaningful gestures.
• Acts of service/devotion.

All of the above, and I want nothing more than to have someone to do and say such things for.

Who is worse? A person in a committed relationship who cheats on their partner or a single person who leads someone in a relationship to cheat?

• The person who cheats on their partner.
• The single person who leads someone to cheat.
• They are equally bad.
• Neither is bad.

In either situation, the person in a relationship has the choice whether to cheat or not. If that person chooses to cheat, (s)he has done a bad thing, whether the person he cheats with is aware of his relationship or not. If someone attempts to lead someone to cheat and succeeds, it's a shared blame.

The only time that the single person leading someone to cheating is worse is if the cheating happens at gunpoint/knifepoint or in the face of some other significant threat.

Questions like this wouldn't be necessary if we were all Canadian geese.

When the first sixty (60) matches within 25 miles of me have either been exhausted as possible dates or are not as outwardly appealing as the match percentage would lead one to believe, I find myself becoming introspective and pensive.

"Fucking hell" is usually part of the first thought. Back to square one, again.

I'm not sure when I've ever been more than ten squares ahead in the romance game. One long-term failed relationship, one medium-length expensive disaster and keloid emotional scarring, one intermittent medium-length chaotic courtship, a few casual interludes and dozens of broken hearts. I'd say that ten squares is a generous estimate of my progress. Nevertheless, I perpetually find myself back at square one wondering what the hell happened that bumped me back this time.

I almost said "what the hell I did," but as I am approaching my 24th birthday, I decided to show a little wisdom and 'fess up to the fact that it's not always entirely my fault when things don't work out.

To be continued. I just fell asleep.

What's your opinion of female crossdressers?

• Isn't that impossible nowadays?
• I respect them, but they still freak me out.
• Whatever they do in private is their business.
• They should be put out of their misery.

I can just SMELL the distaste for crossdressing coming from the author of this question.

There should be an answer here that is a positive acceptance of crossdressing (without an afterthought or the stipulation of privacy). There are such people who call themselves Drag Kings (the counterpart of Drag Queens), and there are women who find fascination in specifically male clothing (though with the way fashion has changed, there are significantly fewer just for men items in existence) just as there are men who find fascination in specifically female clothing.

Cupid fails for having let this question through as-is.

Dress so you feel good. Your gender and your preferred clothing matter not, so long as you abide by the local laws and are not unkind to others.

Do you consider telling someone, "I love you," for the first to be a momentous event?

• Yes.
• No.

Where is the answer choice, "it depends" ?

Because it does.