Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am an intense yet gentle, drama-free man attempting to create art
from life. On the surface I'm a good-natured bon vivant who loves
red wine and intelligent, playful conversation; but once I trust
you, I will plumb the depths of your heart and rock your
I'm a guitarist and percussionist, and learning an awesome Italian
percussion instrument called the tamorra. I am often found with
American or Brazilian friends listening to bossa nova or dancing
samba, or jamming in the style Brazilians call "pagode".
Another group of old friends has also led me to explore the realms
of personal development and authentic relating, and in many ways
that is where I am facing my biggest opportunities for growth and
challenge. The many offshoots of the Integral movement are taking
me on a fabulous journey of self-discovery.
I'm a social worker by trade. It's a stable gig and I get to help
people, but it doesn't begin to define me.
I am a social creature but need lots of time alone too. It's a
To go on this ride with me, you must know and love yourself and
your body, and love being a woman. Have something to offer that no
one else on earth can offer, and know instinctively what that is.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm helping people who have just left the hospital avoid
readmission. I'm making people happy through music.
I am often found cooking my Italian food, practicing guitar and
percussion, and getting together with a group of very old friends
to explore subjects related to spirituality, relationships, and
sexuality. I have a rigorous home-based yoga practice and strength
training routine that keeps me in shape. I'm looking for a cardio
routine that won't bore me to death -- something competitive that
doesn't require a ton of equipment.
I have dinner with my teenage daughter one night per week and every
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
performing small acts of chivalry -- not because you can't do
things for yourself, but just because it's fun...finding
little-known places you'd love in Manhattan...cooking seasonally,
using local ingredients when possible. Pesto sauce in the summer,
acorn squash in the Fall, hearty baked meals in the
Winter...entertaining myself alone.
The first things people usually notice about me
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An engaging smile, a slim-fit shirt, Italian shoes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite authors: George Orwell, Pablo Neruda, Cesar Vallejo, James
Wright, Tobias Wolf, Robert Bly, Eckhart Tolle, David Deida, Ken
Wilber. I am addicted to a little literary mag published by Sy
Safransky called The Sun that publishes intimate, personal writing
with strong voices.
Italian food. Italian food. Spanish food. Italian food.
I value quiet time at home, both alone and with my partner, and
have not owned a TV set since 1993. (It's OK if you do. I'll watch
your favorite show with you, but if you're the kind of person who
spends all weekend with the TV on, we are probably not a good
My favorite musicians are Brazilians that most Americans have never
even heard of: Heitor Villa-Lobos, Dorival Caymmi, Tom Jobim, Luiz
Bonfá, Baden Powell, Marcos Valle, Marisa Monte, Bossacucanova, and
Paulinho da Viola, to name a few. And, since a two-week trip to
Southern Italy, I am addicted to the Italian styles known as
tamorriata and tarantella.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
3. e-mail / Facebook
4. My daughter's phone number
5. ATM card
6. smart phone
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Sex. Yup. (I said I was gentle, not dead.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
at home relaxing after a long week. I am usually home late on most
other weeknights, and I go out often on Saturday nights, so Friday
is my night to stay in, cook something tasty, get in an hour of
music practice, and maybe watch a movie before turning in. Friday
nights are also the best time to find me online, if you're into
"chatting", which I don't do often but definitely will if you're
local and sound serious about meeting up.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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For search purposes, I shaved a couple years off my age on this
profile. However, the photos are current.
You should message me if
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you own at least one pair of high heels. Any color, any style, any
designer. You don't have to wear them to our date -- in fact, I
won't ever even need to see them. I happily explain my reasons
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