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63 New York, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 50–56
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:07pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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New York wry bred.

Let's just say that if you knew me in a normal setting, you'd probably enjoy spending time with me. And perhaps more.

The Surgeon General recommends not operating heavy machinery for 2 months after viewing this profile.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living it but not by any bucket list, just as it comes.

Wasting some of it by writing unrequited personal notes to women on OKCupid?

Saving up to buy a weekend country house.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Naming that tune. No, not THAT tune, a different one.

Fixing things, and tinkering. Good with hands & tools.

Finding a humorous, bawdy innuendo or double entendre in the most innocuous sentence if I'm in that kind of mood.

Keeping 2 contradictory ideas in my mind at the same time.

Predicting the past.

Being a man.

Being ironic. Being skeptical (but NOT cynical.)

What I'm NOT good at is "lifestyle", whatever THAT is.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm male. And tall for my height. Also, I'm inside out (don't ask.)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Wit, joi de vivre, & classic elegance: The Great Durante. Oscar Levant. Dorothy Parker. Robert Benchley. The 6 Marx Bros, Bob & Ray. Click & Clack. Victor Borge. Fred & Ginger. Nellie Mckay. Wallace Shawn.

Always have a book in tow, mostly non-fiction, but every once in a while I dip into the "dark" side. Hugely impressed by "Wolf Hall", and recently enjoyed"The Art of Fielding" and "Kansas City Lightening", a bio of Charlie Parker, and "Bark" -- Lorrie Moore's sharp and disquieting short story collection. Last reads were "The Monuments Men" and "A Replacement Life" (fiction!.) Currently reading a sublime book, "Excellent Sheep", about how colleges are doing a disservice to their students and by extension to society at large; the author beautifully articulates so much of my outlook. Dozens more.

Somewhat encyclopedic about classic films (can you spell "Ouspenskaya"?)

Appreciate "honest" theater, whether drama, comedy, musicals or musical comedy. Love the genius of golden-age musicals and a longtime fan of Sondheim.

Music: Know & love Classical, Jazz, The American Songbook, and the classic rock I grew up with. Also, film scores. The joy of Bluegrass never fails to put a smile on my face. Newest musical interest: Portuguese Fado.

(Beethoven. Brahms. Ellington, Basie, & Satchmo. Ella, Peggy Lee, Sinatra, Jobim, Ray Charles, & Tony Bennett. Puccini, Bix & Django, Rodgers & Hart, Cole Porter, Hank Williams, Sibelius, Elgar, Merle Haggard, Schubert, Bill Monroe, Kurt Weill, Ben Webster, Nat King Cole, and literally hundreds of others that make up my diverse musical world.) Did I mention Debussy?

Also attend ballet & modern dance. Have seen most of the major companies over the years, including Flamenco & Tango.

Am a very regular visitor to museums, most often at the Met, but also at the Whitney, MoMA, NY Historical Society, and others.

Grew up playing sports, have remained a life-long athlete. A fan of spectator sports but never fanatical. Enjoy baseball more than the other spectator sports for a variety of reasons which I'd be happy to explain if you are interested, but also enjoy football once the autumn chill arrives.

Know my way around the kitchen a bit including the correct way to use a chef's knife. Tend to eat healthy, mostly vegetarian. As for cuisines, can't think of a single ethnic one I don't enjoy.

And "Big Bang Theory" re-runs. Whodathunk?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My two teenage sons (who live with their mother, but one now away in college); my nephew, and his son, my VERY cute 5 year-old grand nephew.

2. Beverages: First cup of coffee in the AM and sometimes a cocktail in the evening.

3. Music (see above if you dare.)

4. Books -- just learned to read and golly-gee, it's good clean fun!

5. Gallows humor.

6. The four seasons we get in this part of the world.

7. My ability to count to six.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How much narcissism can one culture contain?

The relentless pursuit of cool.

How the word "indie" connotes an automatic imprimatur, deserved or not. As in, "I'm an indie male."

Am I the only person who has noticed that the word "artist" seems to have lost all significance?

When did the art of flirting die? (And as a woman, what do YOU intend to do about it?)

The American League East pennant race.

The law of supply. And demands.

Well not a lot of time, but why, an hour after signing out, does OKCupid show that you're still online? (Did you know that?)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Ready to be swept off my feet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a book that's 3 days overdue at the library. (Do "real men" borrow books from the library? Do we even read?? Tell me ladies, what do "real men" do after all?)

I'm the original Retrosexual. And perhaps the only one.

For those who wonder, yes, I DO smile once in a while.

I believe I've gotten crankier as I've gotten older. But also mellower.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You've got the goods. And the bads. I.e., you're nice but you also know how to spell N-A-U-G-H-T-Y.

You're not a Drama Queen (not even a Drama Princess.) Nihilists (you know who you are!) need not apply either -- interested only in women who live in the real world along with the rest of us mere mortals.

You are willing to do your share of the "heavy lifting" to get the relationship going. Also, you also know to stop window-shopping on the site long enough to nurture one budding romance at a time.

If you notice I've looked at your profile and haven't made contact, please don't assume that I'm not interested in you and DO feel free to initiate contact if you are interested. In fact, now that I think about it, since almost all of you attractive ladies reply " very selectively", you'll pardon me for not wanting to waste your time or mine. I'm going to let YOU take the lead. Yeah, I know ALL about the man making the first move, but come on, man up --- it's YOUR turn.

All you need to do is say "hi." I'll pick it up from there.