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62 New York, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 48–56
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 15
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Native New Yorker. Authentic and old school in the ways that matter, or at least in the ways that matter to me. By nature I'm an optimistic and happy individual with a generous heart. I've been told I have an "old soul" and it was meant as high compliment.

Even-tempered -- tantrums are not in my playbook. Healthy, hygienic, lean, muscular, athletic, & energetic. Excellent sense of directions, but also know how to read a map. And when to ask for directions.

Considerate, thoughtful, highly observant of the world around me -- probably a little TOO observant, and highly self-aware . Loving father, loyal & constant friend, and supportive, unselfish teammate & colleague. I live by the credo that if I make a mess, I clean it up.

Wryly humorous and highly irreverent and appreciated for both by most who know me.

Reasonably well educated and at least slightly more cultured than the average reptile to go along with Brooklyn street-smarts and a facility with my hands and hand tools. Clean up & present well. After all, back in the day I wore a suit to work every day. (Remember those long-ago days?)

Housebroken and available with an optional pulse.

But when all is said and done, I am nothing more than a nice, but unremarkable man. I prefer to fly under the radar.

Spoiler alert: I'm 62, but in the best physical condition I've been in in oh, the past 3 weeks. Yes, I know it SAYS I'm 62. Maybe you can explain it to me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living it. Plenty of time to rest later....
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Naming that tune. Working with my hands & tools -- fixing things, and tinkering.

Finding a humorous, bawdy innuendo in the most innocuous sentence if I'm in that mood.

Keeping 2 contradictory ideas in my mind at the same time.

Predicting the past.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
They usually don't; I usually slip by unnoticed, that is, until people get to know me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Ever curious on & off the beaten path.

The Great Durante. Oscar Levant. Dorothy Parker. Robert Benchley. The 6 Marx Bros, Bob & Ray. Click & Clack. Victor Borge. Fred & Ginger. Nellie Mckay. Wallace Shawn. Sharp wit and classic elegance.

It's rare when I don't have a book in tow, mostly non-fiction, but every once in a while I dip into the "dark" side. Was hugely impressed by "Wolf Hall", and recently enjoyed"The Art of Fielding" and "Kansas City Lightening", a bio of Charlie Parker, and "Bark" -- Lorrie Moore's sharp and disquieting short story collection. Last reads were "Missing Microbes", not exactly a beach read, and "The Monuments Men". Currently reading "A Replacement Life" (fiction!.) Dozens more.

Somewhat encyclopedic about classic films (can you spell "Ouspenskaya"?)

Appreciate any "honest" theater, whether drama, comedy, musicals or musical comedy. Love the genius of golden-age musicals and a longtime fan of Sondheim.

Music: Know & love Classical, Jazz, The American Songbook, and the classic rock I grew up with. Also, film scores. The pure joy of Bluegrass never fails to put a a smile on my face. Listened to World Music and New Age for years, but giving them both a rest for the duration. Newest musical interest: Portuguese Fado.

Also really enjoy ballet & modern dance. Have seen most of the major companies over the years, including Flamenco & Tango.

Am a very regular visitor to art museums, even for just an hour, most often at the Met, but also at the Whitney, MoMA, NY Historical Society, and others.

Grew up playing sports, have remained a life-long athlete. A fan but never fanatical. Enjoy baseball more than the other spectator sports for a variety of reasons which I'd be happy to explain if you are interested, but also enjoy football once the autumn chill is here to stay.

Know my way around the kitchen a bit including the correct way to use a chef's knife. Tend to eat healthy, mostly vegetarian. As for cuisines, can't think of a single ethnic one I don't enjoy.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My two teenage sons (who live with their mother, but one now away in college), my nephew, and my VERY cute 4 year-old grand nephew.

2. Beverages: First cup of coffee in the AM and sometimes a cocktail in the evening.

3. Music. (Beethoven. Brahms. Ellington, Basie, & Satchmo. Ella, Peggy Lee, Sinatra, Jobim, Ray Charles, & Tony Bennett. Puccini, Bix & Django, Rodgers & Hart, Cole Porter, Hank Williams, Sibelius, Elgar, Merle Haggard, Schubert, Bill Monroe, Kurt Weill, and literally hundreds of others that make up my diverse musical world.)

4. Books.

5. Gallows humor.

6. My ability to count to six.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Just how much narcissism one culture can contain.

The relentless pursuit of cool.

Am I the only person who has noticed that the word "artist" has lost all meaning? It's become synonymous with "celebrity."

Has the art of flirting gone extinct? If so, who killed it off? (Contemporary women?)

The American League East pennant race.

Why partying [sic] is such sweet sorrow.

You. (Which probably should have been item #1 on the list.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Relaxing and winding down after the work week and thinking about the next 2 days. Other than that, totally unpredictable.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That for the sake of humanity I hope most of my predictions turn out to be incorrect.

Also, shhhh! -- I've got a book that's about 3 days overdue at the library.

(Hmmm, some women are actually disdainful of men who borrow library books. I guess it doesn't fit their stereotype of "Alpha boys." Perhaps they don't realize that those guys don't read at all.)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... you are pretty, refined, gracious, intellectually curious, and you lead a reasonably healthy lifestyle (but you needn't be a fanatic about it.)

Intimacy is important to you and you TRULY appreciate how profoundly different we boys & girls are and that it is the asymmetries between us that makes our connection thrilling.

And lastly, you seek appropriate male company to anything from any of the venues at Lincoln Center, The Frick, running or biking in the park, a weekend trip to a B&B or a trip to anywhere in the world that our hearts may take us.

Months -- years -- are passing by when we might have already been enjoying each others' company. How long have we been fishing in these waters? And yet, here we remain. Mind your sell-by date.

(p.s. If you've seen that I've looked at your profile but didn't make contact, please don't assume that it's because I'm not interested. There might be any number of reasons I didn't write you at that moment, say lack of time for example. Or I might think that you wouldn't be interested in me, when in fact you might very well be. So if you think you might like to know me, please don't hesitate to initiate.)