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63 New York, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 50–56
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 5:31pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from masters program
Science / Engineering
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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New York wry bred.

Frog? Prince? That may depend upon you as much as me. You'll have to kiss me to find out.

Neither better nor worse, but truly different -- I won't fit the contemporary criteria that women seem to use for judging men. If I had to choose one word to describe myself it would be "authentic." I somehow reject all the usual ways we mask ourselves with the things people seem to self-identify with.

A friend once described me as a "free-spirited curmudgeon" and another friend who heard that concurred enthusiastically.

Let's just say that if you knew me in a non-online setting, you might enjoy spending time with me. And perhaps a little more.

The Surgeon General warns against operating heavy machinery after viewing this profile.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Living it but not by any bucket list, simply as it comes.

Wasting some of it by writing unrequited personal notes to women on OKCupid.

Saving up to buy a weekend country house. Do you like the country?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Naming that tune. No, not THAT tune, a different one.

Fixing things, and tinkering. Good with hands & tools.

Finding a humorous, bawdy innuendo or double entendre in the most innocuous sentence if I'm in that kind of mood.

Keeping 2 contradictory ideas in my mind at the same time.

Predicting the past.

Being a man.

Being ironic. Being skeptical (but NOT cynical.)

Not good at "lifestyle", whatever that is.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm male. And tall for my height. Also, inside out.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Always have a book in tow, mostly non-fiction, but every once in a while I venture onto the "dark" side.

I know and love the Classical Music repertoire, from Bach to Stockhausen. (This includes opera to a slightly lesser degree.) Same for Jazz and the Great American Songbook -- have been an aficionado of Cabaret seemingly forever, catching Michael Feinstein at his very first engagement at the late, lamented Algonquin Oak Room. Bluegrass makes me smile, and old-time Country is an old friend. And film scores. Latest musical interest is the soulful Portuguese Fado.

Somewhat encyclopedic about classic films (can you spell "Ouspenskaya"?) and appreciate "honest" theater, whether drama, comedy, musicals or musical comedy. Love the irresistible genius of golden-age musicals but also a longtime fan of Sondheim.

Attend and enjoy ballet & dance and have seen most of the major companies, including Flamenco & Tango. Am a very regular visitor to museums, most often at the Met, but also at the Whitney, MoMA, NY Historical Society, and others.

Grew up playing sports, have remained a life-long athlete. A fan of spectator sports but never fanatical. Enjoy baseball more than the other spectator sports for a variety of reasons which I'd be happy to explain if you are interested, but also enjoy football once the autumn chill arrives.

Know my way around the kitchen a bit and even know the correct way to use a chef's knife. Tend to eat healthy, mostly vegetarian. As for cuisines, can't think of a single ethnic one I don't enjoy.

And recently, "The Big Bang Theory" in re-runs. Whodathunk?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My two teenage sons (who live with their mother, but one now away in college); my nephew, and his son, my VERY cute 5 year-old grand nephew.

2. Beverages: First cup of coffee in the AM and sometimes a cocktail in the evening.

3. Music (see the above -- if you dare.)

4. Books -- just learned to read and golly-gee, it's good clean fun!

5. Gallows humor.

6. The four seasons we get in this part of the world.

7. My ability to count to six.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How much narcissism can one culture contain?

The relentless pursuit of cool.

WWJD.... Who would Jesus date?

How the word "indie" connotes an automatic imprimatur, deserved or not. As in, "I'm an indie male."

When did the art of flirting die? (And as a woman, what do YOU intend to do about it?)

The American League East pennant race.

The law of supply. And demands.

Am I the only person who has noticed that the word "artist" seems to have lost all significance?

Well haven't spent a lot of time mulling it, but why, up to an hour after signing out, does OKCupid show that you're still online? (Did you know that?)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Ready to be swept off my feet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a book that's 3 days overdue at the library. (Do "real men" even read, let alone borrow books from the library? Tell me ladies, in your opinion, what do "real men" do? What are we allowed to do, after all?)

I'm a Retrosexual. I don't even know what that means.

Yes, I DO smile once in a while.

I believe I've gotten a bit crankier as I've gotten older. But also somewhat mellower.
You should message me if
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You've got the goods. And the bads. I.e., the "oughts" and the "naughts."

You're not a Drama Queen (not even a Drama Princess.) Nor do you seriously refer to yourself as "Goddess." Nihilists need not apply either -- interested only in authenticity and women who live down here in the real world along with the rest of us mere mortals.

Also, you are willing to do your share of the heavy lifting to get the relationship off the ground. And you also know to stop window-shopping on the site long enough to nurture one budding romance at a time.

If you notice I've looked at your profile and haven't made contact, please don't assume that I'm not interested in you and DO feel free to initiate contact if you are interested. In fact, now that I think about it, since almost all of you attractive ladies reply " very selectively", you'll pardon me for not wanting to waste your time or mine. I'm going to let YOU take the lead. Yeah, I know ALL about the man making the first move, but come on, man up --- it's YOUR turn.

All you need to do is say "hi." I'll pick it up from there.