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JeffHarder69

46 M Puyallup, WA

My Details

Last Online
Dec 25, 2006
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Native American, White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, but not too serious about it
Sign
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from two-year college
Job
Transportation
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
A lot of people just don't know what to think of yours truly when they first meet me. I'm an enigma of sorts in today's world, I imagine, but I tend to think of myself as a throwback (think retro) with a twist - I'm very open and lead a very unconventional life at times. So, least of all, I'm not boring!

What makes me an enigma? Well, I'm different from most people - extremely so. I admit, I used to be self-absorbed and self-centered, living in my own compacted, narrow little world, like most people seem to live. But I've changed, and I see more of the big picture now. I'm very intuitive and insightful, and I tend to think a lot about other people and their lives - and when I can, I like to help enrich the lives of others, if possible, in any way I can.

No, I'm not rich (I wish!), but I guess maybe I have a rich personality. I'm the type of guy who can strike up a conversation and get along with just about anyone. I look at the world as a big, interesting place full of people I'd love to know, and I look at life as an experience to be relished and cherished. I think it's sad that so many people get so tied up in their lives and relationships, never really living life to its fullest.

So, you may be wondering, what is it that's so different about me? Well, that'd take up way too much space, but read on below . . . For now, just know that I'm a single, straight, fun loving, adventurous, deep thinking, caring and loving guy in the Puyallup area. I'm the type of guy who gazes into the night when it's clear and full of stars, just wondering . . . I'm the type of guy who sees the beauty in nature and in people, too. Writing and animals are my passions (I'm a published author and I have six cats and two dogs). No kids, but I do love children.

I am Kind, intuitive, and unconventional
What I’m doing with my life
I've done a lot of things in my life. Some of my friends are jealous of that, and wish they could do the same. Me, sometimes I wonder what it'd be like to have a long, stable career and family - but that hasn't been me.

I was a police officer for a number of years, and though I'm glad I'm out of law enforcement, I did do a lot of good things for people. I do some writing (I'm a published author), I own a small business and in the past I was a porn star - no kidding! I owned my own adult film production company, Allure Pictures and I starred in a series of hardcore videos shot right here in the Seattle - Tacoma area. I had sex with married women while their husbands and other people watched (married but cheating, extramarital affairs, voyeurism and exhibitionism), had sex with teenagers and college girls, did threesomes and had group sex and anal sex, helped women fulfill their bi / bisexual fantasies and generally had one incredible, mind blowing time - and all of it involved having sex on camera.

While I wouldn't recommend sex on camera to everyone, I would recommend at least trying out swinging. I am the host of a swinger party group, and host sex parties in my area for responsible adults (18+) who are swingers or want to try out the lifestyle. There's nothing worse in life than feeling unfulfilled, or having regrets about never living out your dreams and seeking out your desires.

Some people might read this and assume I'm some sort of asshole. Think what you may, but honestly, I'm just not so restrained as many are by society's views of what's "right" and "wrong" about sex. I don't believe you need to be in love to have sex, and I don't believe sex has to be about love, either. We've been given no greater gift than that of sex, because nothing else makes us feel so incredible, so satisfied, so special . . . I'm fortunate to be well endowed with a big cock (9 inches), and I have to say, I love sharing it with women. Most have never experienced one that large, and they love it :-)

I'm also not like most guys, in that sex isn't about me getting off. I pay attention to and communicate with my lovers, make sure the sex and foreplay lasts for hours, and love making women cum and cum and cum. I'm not promiscuous, though, and am very, very selective in the people I choose as friends. I recognize that sex and love are two separate things, and am good at respecting boundaries.

If you're 18 and want to see my adult movie site, go to Allure Pictures.
I’m really good at
I'm extremely intuitive. I can meet someone, talk a short while and have a really good idea what that person's life is like and who they really are. I'm convinced there are an awful lot of unhappy people in this world or ours, or at least unfulfilled people, and I find that very, very sad. I was divorced at a young age and haven't remarried. I keep meeting married women who are so stressed out, so unhappy and so unfulfilled, and many of them are beautiful, wonderful people.

One in my mind really stands out - but she's stuck with her life, as it seems many are. That's why I'm a sexually open person, involved in swinging. I love to share excitement and new experiences with others, realizing that sex and love are separate things that don't necessarily have to go hand in hand. If I help someone fulfill their sexual fantasies or live the "wild life," that's great, and if I can make a woman feel special and loved, even if only for a short time, that's great, too. We're all human, and we all have needs.
The first things people usually notice about me
I would say that I pay attention to things and care about people. Too many people in today's world live in their own little world, and nothing else matters. I'm that big picture sort of person, and I'm not too shy to strike up conversations with people I've just met or don't know well.

When I did adult films, people were always amazed after meeting me - or shocked, because they expected some sleaze bag. Instead, they get a nice, clean cut guy who's caring, compassionate and in tune with other people.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Let's skip this one for now, and just say that I LOVE movies and do a lot of reading. I also love Rock 'n Roll music, and many kinds of good food :-) And YES, I can cook!
The six things I could never do without
1. My cats: Crusty, Homer, Kitton, Mama Cat, Little Girl and Callie - I love them all and treat them as if they were my children. 2. My dog, Roxy, a black Labrador retriever. She's really something! 3. My foster dog, Rocky, a giant of a Rottweiler. I used to be terrified of these dogs, but he's shown me what marvelous companions they can be. 4. My ability to connect with people - I can't imagine being so shy or insulated that I couldn't talk with all sorts of people and get to know them. 5. My family. They're not perfect and I'm not, either, but I love them dearly. 6. My memories - some wonderful, some horrible, and many in between.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life, and how short it really is. When I was in my 20's it seemed like it'd go on forever, and in my 30's it didn't seem much different. But when you reach 40 you start to lose friends and relatives, and start thinking about your own mortality. That's why I choose to live life to its fullest and involve myself in some activities that others might disapprove of. Seize the day!
On a typical Friday night I am
Working, aaaarrrrggghhhhh!!!!!!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm involved in swinging (open relationships, partner swapping, parties, etc), but I'm far from promiscuous and not very sexually active. I'm actually very choosey, and my "wild times" are few and far between - but quite memorable :-) I'll also admit that I'm at a point in my life where I'd love to settle down with someone special - even if that meant a life of monogamy.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–78
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You love a great massage, you're looking for a little or a lot of love, if you'd like to get to know me and/or be with me, if you'd like to go to a small swinger party, or . . . ???