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37 M Oakland, CA

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6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Working on university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
Seeking folks to enjoy both exciting and mundane experiences with!

I'm not in a rush to be in a traditional partnership, but I do crave meaningful intimate connection.
If that evolves into something lasting, wonderful! If not, so be it.

I don't believe that successful relationships are necessarily lasting ones.
(I shudder when I hear about people being 'stuck' in unhappy relationships; the burden of expectation, fear of failure, financial obligation, etc..)

I've participated in committed monogamous partnerships in the past, and now feel like I want to explore inclusive ways of relating.
I'm good at monogamy, and not sure how I'd do with non-monogamy, but my heart feels open and I'm interested.
Most importantly, I'd like the dynamic between myself and others to happen naturally.

I've experienced incredible growth and feelings of connectedness within the context of intimate relationships, and would welcome that kind of deep familiarity again.
In a partnership I want to love and be loved selflessly; to genuinely want the other to pursue/receive whatever they wish from this life, and to be present (or not) for them as they need.

I desire the company of positive people. I feel like one of the big challenges of our time is apathy, and I think I do best with others who try to bring meaning and gratitude to suffering and sadness.

It may seem obscure, but I have a feeling that an ideal partner for me would be someone who enjoys nude sunbathing & skinny dipping; probably because activities like this represent to me a love of nature, childlike playfulness, a gentle approach to hedonistic pleasure, and rebelliousness toward repressive cultural mores and stigmas which stand in the way of people living fully and freely.
What I’m doing with my life
Studying, working, learning mindfulness, exercising, developing creatively, being like an open book, trying to do more of what I love, and less of what I don't.

(I currently work weekend evenings. FYI, 9-to-5'ers.)
The first things people usually notice about me
Maybe my warm smile. Or that I'm a little bit pigeon-toed.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Mostly stuff about the intersection of psychology/spirituality/philosophy.

Movies: My love of film has recently evolved into piggybacking YouTube videos for cinematic lengths of time.

Shows: I don't enjoy the tension and dedication required to follow a show as it airs. It's not that important to me. So, I tend to wait until a show has ample momentum & cultural enthusiasm in its favor before releasing the floodgates and marathon'ing the fuck out of multiple seasons.

Music: Lately I've been on a bender of 80's bands from New Zealand and Australia. Also, Fresh & Only's, Sonny & The Sunsets. I'm a sucker for pretty things with rough edges. And bangra.

Food: I'm making an effort to eat less animal products at the moment, and I'm feeling good about it!
The six things I could never do without
•coffee (for better or worse)
•apparently isometrics
•brief conversations with strangers
•long conversations with friends
•sharing popcorn at a movie
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How beautiful and mysterious this life is.
Staying focused on small tasks and not daydreaming.
Deprogramming inherited bullshit.
Finding more time in my day!
On a typical Friday night I am
I just found a Friday meditation group in Oakland that I'm enjoying.
After that, maybe having conversation with someone over a light dinner. Or seeing a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I want to connect authentically, deeply, and playfully.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 27–47
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're not cynical.
You possess a heart of gold, and a dirty mind.
You needn't abstain, but you're comfortable socializing without drinking alcohol.
And especially if you're Scorpio.
Or you want to start a band.

I'm more responsive to a note than a rating. It shows initiative, and more importantly, that you've read my profile. Quick match is an unfortunate feature.

Also, I would prefer to date in the east bay area.
If you're elsewhere and my profile really appeals to you, feel free to say hello! :)