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Jen7951

34 F Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Men who like women
  • Ages 28–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
May 2
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
4′ 11″ (1.50m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on masters program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, German (Poorly), Hebrew (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Pema Chodron tells a story about a monk, out walking, who is charged by a pack of ferocious, wild dogs...and instead of trying to run away, he turns to face the pack and starts charging them back. They're so surprised that they turn around, tails between their legs. Even though it's not always attainable, I appreciate those who can, when the moment calls for it, take this attitude toward life's challenges.

Kindness, good humor, sensitivity and grounding are some keywords. I admit to being serious without being somber: smiling and making funny faces is so important....

I am interested in finding someone to have a serious relationship with, a partnership. While I expect that along the way I might have shorter and lighter involvements, that's my overarching goal in being here.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am tutoring English and working part-time on my MFA in creative nonfiction, along the way to teaching college, I hope. I have a regular meditation practice, one with feet firmly on earth, vis a vis the spiritual school of the Diamond Approach. I believe in ongoing self-development and spend a fair amount of time tending the inner garden (like Candide suggested). And playing and listening to music, doing and appreciating art in all its colorful forms, and getting outdoors--yes, please!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Friends say I'm good at navigating meaningful/deep conversations. I've published a few pieces of writing. I'm very loyal to friends, family, and community. And I am really good at Scrabble--but would usually prefer to talk about our dreams (both the nighttime and waking life variety) and how to achieve them.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Short and sweet.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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lit:

Most recently purchased: Rebecca Solnit's The Faraway Nearby. Most recently finished: Jonathan Franzen's The Discomfort Zone. Majorly informed by A.H. Almaas in the spirituality zone; and in literary ways I've been touched by Dubliners (James Joyce); Madame Bovary (Flaubert); The Fixer (Malamud), bits of the Bible-as-literature, and many poems by Auden, James Merrill, Rumi, Bishop, Frost, Shakespeare, Plath, Moore, Yeats, Malech, etc.

films:

Black Orpheus. The Ice Storm; Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon; and everything else by Ang Lee. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. Groundhog Day. The Horse's Mouth. The Decalogue (Kieslowski). Koyaanisqatsi. Into the Woods. Princess Mononoke. Triplets of Belleville. The Lives of Others. The Hurt Locker. Cave of Forgotten Dreams.

TVland:

though I don't watch much at all these days, I've enjoyed Six Feet Under and Arrested Development. Fawlty Towers is a perennial favorite--John Cleese is a force of nature.

music:

In the Western classical world, say Bach and Brahms and Beethoven; and in the modern arena, Talking Heads, Built to Spill, Dar Williams, Patty Griffin, Belle & Sebastian, MGMT, Leonard Cohen, The Beatles, Manu Chao, Muse, The Knife, Bastille, The Shins... and those amazing Tibetan monks--the ones with the super-deep voices!

food:

Butternut squash in any of its resplendent forms. Lox. Pesto. Salads of many ingredients. Chocolate. (Another thing I'm good at: buying chocolate!) Thai and Indian food in particular, but really I haven't met a cuisine I didn't like... except maybe Venetian--it's crazy what they will fry in Venice.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
* my friends, who, like mustard, make the whole sandwich-of-life worthwhile
* good literature
* work or service to be involved in
* continuing education (both broadly and narrowly defined)
* meditation and spiritual work
* laughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why there are so many tattooed folk out west (I'm from the Midwest originally, where they are not as common).

How to balance a busy work schedule with spiritual practice and relaxation.

What adventures to cook up in my off hours, and who I want to go adventuring with!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
out with friends at a concert, potluck, movie, or dance party; stealthily observing Shabbat; and/or chilling at home and unwinding from the workweek with a good book.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
You'll have to ask me in person, I think....
You should message me if
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you feel like it. I'm interested in supporting, and being supported by, the real-life Presence of those I am in relationship with. New agey perhaps, but true: Showing up is more important than showing off; slowing down is often nicer than speeding past; and keeping it real is the sweetest of all.