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43 Jamaica Plain, MA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 30–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:13am
5′ 0″ (1.52m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Judaism, and laughing about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Has cats
English, Tibetan

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My self-summary
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Please note that I have checked the "single" box, but OKC keeps displaying "available". I've contacted them twice, but to no avail, they still tout me as "available". Anyway, I am both available and single, for what that is worth.

I'm a night owl, a cynical optimist, a voracious periodical reader (that way I can finish things and not feel guilty about it), and I like to laugh and make others do the same. I can be a nerd and occasionally inadvertently hip. I enjoy community and private time. I love the community I live in and I love my home. I enjoying gardening, dancing (Salsa, Zumba, Square, Contra, Swing, Afro-Haitian, noodley freeform funky), riding my bike, and have a particular passion for xc skiing.

I love games, I love going to concerts and festivals for the live music and general scene. I enjoy a good meal out (or in) with great company.

Others have described me as sexy, quirky, well adjusted, smart, self-aware, comfortable in my skin, funny, affectionate, and a spitfire.

I am interested in maintaining emotional balance in my life, strive to understand and be mindful of my actions, be a good parent, and appreciate what I have. I value genuine human connection. I don't take myself too seriously, and get along best with others who share that attitude.

I'm stable, secure, and know myself quite well. No, I'm not perfect. But I do know how to admit a mistake, and how to ask for help, and how to lend a hand. I am seeking a relationship with someone who knows how to nurture and be nutured, how to give and receive, to teach and to learn from each other for mutual growth. And I can be a silly goofball, and hope you are too!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Oh, busy busy busy. I'm parenting an energetic, bright and affectionate 5th grader, connecting with my communities, and plotting my next move. Tending my gardens or XC skiing, depending upon the season. Going to little league or hockey games. Making jewelry. I recently started a blog and am appreciating the practice of regular writing and community building in a different realm.

Professionally, I am a clinical psychologist, and have worked in both academia and non-profits as a researcher and evaluator. I recently started a new job with a nonprofit that serves the homeless.

On the home front, I do some board & volunteer work with local community organizations, and I coordinate the twice a week meal program in my cohousing community.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Socializing, keeping up with old friends, kvetching, analyzing, empathizing, hugs, staying up late, pinball, giving directions, reading the small print, understanding the big picture, intellectual sparring, back scratching, having fun. Making wisecracks. Making people laugh. Making things grow. Making things taste good. Making it all work out OK somehow.Keeping several balls in the air.

I'm really bad at: holding a grudge, hiding my feelings, one arm pushups.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably my long auburn hair, dazzling smile and witty repartee.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I recentky read Death at Sea World, which was great and eye opening. I studied dolphins in the wild, and have seen cetaceans in captivity, but the book got me thinking about the issues differently.

I love a book that sucks me in & I can't stop reading it every spare minute until it is devoured. I don't find those very often, but when I do, they are gems. I also appreciate both fiction and non-fiction that is both intelligent and funny. Some of my favorite authors are: T. C. Boyle, Tom Robbins, Augusten Burroughs, Nick Hornby, bell hooks, T. Geisel, Christopher Moore, David Sedaris, Carl Hiaasen, Jennifer Weiner, Jonathan Tropper, Matt Taibbi and Daniel Pinkwater.

I'm really a periodical junkie: Bitch, Brain, Child, Mother Jones, the NY Times, Rolling Stone, Atlantic monthly, Science News... I like the satisfaction of reading something start to finish, that's topical and has taught me something new.

There are too many too name. A few all time faves: Down by Law, Fly Away Home, Across the Universe, Heist (the mamet one). Loved Argo. Recently purchased my very own copy of Monty Python and the Holy Grail. After playing Monty Python Fluxx, it was time for my son to learn what all the references meant. And that fills really holds up - almost every line of dialog is brilliant! As for recent films, I really enjoyed Blue Jasmine.

I recently treated myself to an HDTV, and love watching it when I have time. Colbert & Stewart are faves, and I enjoy Nova, Mad Men, True Blood, 30 Rock, Key & Peele, Children's Hospital, Breaking Bad, United States of Tara, Hung. I recently started Newsroom and want to get to more House of Cards.

Podcasts: I dig the Moth, Freakonomics Radio, Wait, Wait, This American Life, Fresh Air, Planet Money.

Music: Beatles, Southern Culture on the Skids, Propellerheads, Martin Sexton (saw him play last summer and he was transcendent), Ben Folds, Red Molly, Beck, Greg Brown, Elvis Costello, Guster, Violent Femmes, Ryan Adams, Classic rock (Neil Young, Stones, Broooce, etc) to name but a very few. I love to dance to disco and the old-fashioned dance stuff like Deee Lite, Salt n' Pepa and Sugar Hill Gang. I am having fun with Just Dance on the Wii!

I find that great outdoor music scenes, with smiling people and kids about, really fills my spiritual tank. I've been a regular at the Falcon Ridge Folk Festival for many years, and went to the Gathering of the Vibes the last couple of years.

It's a big wide world of culinary delights yet to be discovered. I love most Asian cuisines and most things "ethnic" (except, say, steak and kidney pie). I'm picky about Chinese food, and not so much about pizza (very unusual for a native New yawker). There's not much I *don't* like, but that list is shorter: nuts, seeds, whipped cream, fish eyeball, pumpkin pie, Organ meats, and raw oysters. I love Ice cream (I like to utilize my ice cream maker in the summer), smoked salmon, chocolate and coke zero. Cereal and milk is my primary staple. My cereal collection puts Seinfeld to shame.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Lists without limits, the mutual love, caring, support and connection of my family & friends tops the list. Intellectual stimulation, new ideas, analyzing many sides of an issue. Sexual and erotic endeavors. The rest are all nice to have, not need to have: Dental floss, cereal, my home, my kitties, love, transportation, a creative outlet, high quality lube, coke zero, chocolate, ice cream (it's genetic), hair sticks, hugs and kisses and cuddles. And my iphone, ipad and NYT subscription.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
* why do I get so many contacts from 25 year olds?
* The importance of timing.
* Erotic endeavors. And sometimes about how they relate to timing (see above).
* Why it is that people do what they do
* Ethical non-mongamy
* How to (re)define and (re)configure relationships that are outside of what society expects, and encourage mutual growth, support & understanding
* Why people do not bother to reply to a nice note on OKC.
* what should I do with all those apples?
* Why are there so many people with college degrees who do not have basic mastery of sentence structure and punctuation.
* why so many people can't bring themselves to admit anything when asked what they are "willing to admit".
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Dinner with friends or a date, seeing a play, some form of laid back socializing. Sometimes going to a swing dance. Sometimes hanging at home. Sometimes I am in the car, driving to someplace for the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm ambivalent about monogamy. I'm also ambivalent about polyamory. I feel about polyamory the way I do about Communism - in theory it's fantastic, in practice, it doesn't always work the way the theory predicted.
You should message me if
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What you'd really like, should the stars align well, and the timing is right, is to have a woman in your life who is intelligent, supportive, sexy, challenging, fun and interesting for a meaningful relationship.

In the absence of said alignment and timing, you'd like a friendship with said smart and fun woman for activities, kibbitzing, and kvetching.

You are whip smart, well educated, and can hold your own in an intellectual conversation.

And if you are relatively sane, know yourself pretty well, and know how to handle your baggage (because, let's face it, we all have some). You are able to deal with conflict and disagreement respectfully. You can debate and you also can listen, you value authentic connection, good communication, emotional groundedness, and high quality kissing.

You should certainly message me if you have been a visitor and are interested. I don't check that list very often - apparently it will only let you see the last hundred or so, so if you were one of the 500 or so visitors before that I missed- oops.

You should NOT message me if :
* You are a-lookin' for threesomes. I wish you well on your quest, but I will not be joining you.
* You are more offended by flag burning than book burning.
* You are on OKC primarily for sex or a sexual relationship. That is just not where I'm at.
* You do not have a picture in your profile
* You are married and are new to an open/poly relationship. I'm open to ethical non-monogamy, but I've met remarkably few folks who truly manage it well. I try to manage it through a lot of openness and communication (I'm open to being convinced that you and your other(s) really have it down pat).