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32 M Pacifica, CA

My Details

Last Online
May 5
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm an optimist, or maybe just a super lucky realist. It's my experience that things tend to work out for the best.
I think many people associate optimism with brightness and loudness, so I feel I should mention that I'm pretty quiet and reserved as optimists go.
I am not mean, but when forced to choose between nice and honest I will almost always choose honesty. I can think of just a few instances (death-bed question from a nice person about whether I liked her cooking?) where I'd swing the other way.
My profile says I'm here for both friends and dating/long-term relationships. I mean it. If you don't think we'd make a good match but want to go walking, or want to play a board game, or want to go see a movie together? I'm game. In such a case a heads-up on the friends-only status so I don't spend a bunch of time speculating on my romantic odds would be polite.
If you honestly don't know? I'd rather try for friendship first. In my experience an attempt at friendship that turns out not to allow for romance is usually still pretty great for all involved, while an attempt at romance that turns out not to allow for friendship is just...bad.
Nerd/Geek Disclosure: I am a nerd who likes nerdy things. If you don't have experience with nerdy things but are game to try new experiences, then I have activities we could try out for about as many hours as you have free. If you hate nerdy things, nerd culture, and nerds, I recommend moving on to one of the many other profiles on this fine website.
And if you're a nerd too? By all means, contact me whether you think we're a romantic match or not. I love finding new folks with whom I can watch shows, play games, and generally geek out.
What I’m doing with my life
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For money I do writing and editing management? I'm not entirely sure what to call the jobs where they just want me to shift data to a new format (most of the time I just lump them under "editing"). I also have royalties coming in from Shadowrift, a card game I designed a couple years ago. Winning a Spiel des Jahres (basically the Oscars of the board game world) is one of my life goals.
I've also been making a comic! It's over at, and while it's just a hobby, I'm having a lot of fun with engaging the readership and learning all kinds of things about Photoshop and painting.
I finally finished crocheting the MegaQuilt and donated it to Child's Play, and am now pondering my next crocheting project. I'm considering 3D, as plush dolls can capture all kinds of beloved characters without taking years to make (the MegaQuilt, being a 6x6' tapestry, took hundreds of hours).
Aside from all that I have an ongoing interest in NLP, massage, Chinese pressure point/meridian therapy, "soft" martial arts (Aikido, Ninjutsu, and Tai Chi), and ethics.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Learning and designing games
Seeing good in people
Remaining calm
DMing (the missing link between writing and game design, no?)
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm tall and slim. Or, if I'm among tall people, I'm noticed for saying something entirely unexpected, such as the etymology of the now-dead word "Gardyloo!"
(For the curious, it means, "Look out below, I'm emptying my chamber-pot!")
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Good fantasy novels. Sir Terry Pratchett, Neil Gaiman, and Robin McKinley come to mind.
Manga and Comics: I have very little in the way of standards for what comics I'm willing to read, especially once you're into the Japanese "big eyes small mouth" territory. I can recognize that a manga is bad - just, really honestly horrible - but that doesn't tend to stop me from enjoying it.
However, for a comic I actually love and would recommend to anyone in my 90+% match zone who hasn't read it, check out Promethea by Alan Moore. Its writing is clearly intended as a literal work of magic.
Webcomics: Homestuck, Girl Genius, Gunnerkrigg Court, El Goonish Shive. I wanted to give these their own space, since in terms of actual time spent I read webcomics (comics released first or perhaps only online) a whole lot more than their physical counterparts.

Movies: Fantasy doesn't get many good films, but when it does they are HUGE winners with me. Marvel Studios has had a pretty good track record. Ghibli's track record (Spirited Away, Howl's Moving Castle, Mononoke Hime) is even better. Paprika (Satoshi Kon) is also one of my favorites.
My favorite Truly Bad Horror Film is called Biozombie. I like it because the acting quality suddenly spikes at the end, and because "Engrish" is on the list of language options, in addition to "English."

Shows: Right now I'm watching Eden of the East, which is both a light romance and a story about someone who has to save Japan or die trying. As with manga I'm a lot more forgiving of bad anime with good art than I would be of a bad live-action show with good cinematography, but I think Eden of the East is one of the really good ones.
I'm also slowly catching up on old fan favorites, like Star Trek: TNG, which I didn't really have access to when it was first airing. I watched X-Files for a while, but stopped once it started getting...stupid?

Music: Fast and complicated. (That is NOT a metaphor for how I like relationships.)
Celtic jigs, for instance. Almost any song with the word "Butterfly" or "Reel" has 5 stars on my playlist. (Seriously, look up various artists' butterfly odes! They're so much fun!) There's a favorite music style from my parents' region of Whidbey Island called Gypsy Jazz.
In addition to butterflies, I like music that evokes clockwork.
Oh, and video game soundtracks have piles of nostalgia value, because they evoke fun times that were had.

Food: I love (and probably eat a little too much) chocolate. I love sushi, though not anywhere near the same time as chocolate. I love almost anything that's fresh enough - for instance I don't like corn in general but corn that's less than half an hour off the stalk is heavenly. Related but not quite the same: I love caprese salad, especially with a good balsamic.
Okay, actually I like a LOT of things with a good balsamic.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Apparently "food, water, and shelter" all count as cheating. I could possibly get away with leaving food on, but I'm not actually a great lover of foods. I'm a decent but not exceptional cook, and don't bear particularly discriminating tastes.

So. Six things other than physical necessities I really enjoy in my life:

Music. Not constant, mind, but at least some melody every week or it begins to bubble in my head. Only by influx do I prevent myself from compulsive composure. You'd think that would be great, but trust me: I'm not that good at it.

Cleanliness. This is halfway to cheating, perhaps, but I find I do absolutely everything better when I'm totally clean. I could survive physically without cleanliness, doing the whole "once a week" bachelor thing, but I'd be completely miserable. The same goes for my surroundings; my former roommate got away with not cleaning up after himself sometimes, because I couldn't stand his plates just sitting out until he got home so I'd clean them up for him.

Creation. Whether the writing of stories or the design of interactive environments, I want to be part of the process of making things people never would have had otherwise.

Times of Solitude. Sometimes you've just got to go for a walk, y'know?

Humor. The world has a tendency not to make any sense. We have to have some way of coping. Laughter works well, but feels a little awkward or forced without humor preceding it, don'cha know.

Companionship, of some kind. I mean, if that's not a requirement for me, what the heck am I doing here?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to design a game that simultaneously offers the depth of play to make it the kind of game I'd want to play, but a nice accessible style to appeal to a large number of people - Most people have not played as many card & board games as I have, and don't design them for a living.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
nowhere to be found.

Seriously, what is this "typical Friday night" of which you speak?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Additions and edits to an OKCupid Profile made at 4 am when I have a fever are the BEST additions and edits. What they lack in sanity they more than make up in pathos, comedy value, and total honesty.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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you want to.

you're curious.

you're interested.

you're not out for sex as an end in and of itself.

you'd like someone to tell you a story.

you rate me 4-5 stars in OKCupid's rating system and actually want me to know it (I'm not A-list, so it doesn't actually tell me!).