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34 San Diego, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–36
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:48pm
White, Other
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Banking / Finance
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
To horridly misquote and paraphrase Thoreau: I do not want, when I come to die, to discover that I had not lived.

I'm pretty laid back, except for the part that gets wild on the weekends. I'm pretty go GO go nonstop, except when I want to relax by spending the day in a paddleboat or a hammock. I'm pretty quiet, except when I sing in the car or go running and screaming on the Playa. I'm a lover not a fighter but I'm also a fighter, so don't get any ideas.

OKC Personality assesment is pretty damn accurate except for the "Less Compassionate" part. That's a load of crap. I'm way compassionate.

ADVENTURE is out there! I hope you can keep up.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
"Danger Zone" was the name of my band in high school.

ocean, BBQ, beach, Burning Man, economics of love/sex/relationships, Bar-B-Q, photography, skepticism, helping, the arts, road trips, humanism, WTF, great verbal volleys over coffee, almost anything with lime, dressing up, Perseid meteor shower, backpacking, cowboy poetry by the fire, camping, OMG, hiking, kayaking, poetry, running, yoga, doing things that could possibly kill me but don't, cooking, sailing, shiny things and red buttons, taking it easy, feminism, fire, sushi, and motherfucking BALLET.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
•Spatial reasoning to the tune of the 99.5th percentile.
•Jeremy's Magic Wings.
•Polish Pantscakes.
•Crème brûlée.
•Most things I enjoy doing, moderately.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Ridiculously long eyelashes, green eyes, and my happy energy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Economics, poetry (Derek Brown, Richard Siken), the science / philosophy / anthropology / psychology / biology / neurology of sex / love / relationships.
"The JOY of Cooking." David Sedaris.

Movies: THE Big Lebowski, Inception, Batman, Secretary, Batman Begins, The Dark Knight, Eyes Wide Shut, Stranger than Fiction, LOTR, Mallrats, Rounders, Kissing Jessica Stein, Unbreakable, THE 5th Element, Shawshank Redemption, Notting Hill, Good Will Hunting, Harry Potter(s), American Beauty, Love Actually, Playing by Heart, Garden State, Snatch, Hot Fuzz, Amélie, Paris, je t'aime.

TV: COSMOS!!! Mostly I refuse to watch TV, but when I'm forced...Family Guy, SouthPark, Colbert Report, Daily Show, and Archer. I also dig SATC and the British version of Coupling.

Music: Green Day, Lykke Li, Prince, Sigur Rós, Exitmusic, MGMT, Depeche Mode, John Mayer, Röyksopp, The Arcade Fire, Massive Attack, John Mayer Trio, Peter Bjorn & John, Temper Trap, Prince, The Airborne Toxic Event, Peter Heppner, Passion Pit, Rachael Yamagata, Placebo, Pink Floyd, Cocorosie, Tony Bennett, Ol' Blue Eyes, Diana Krall, Dean Martin, The Network, Touch And Go, The Dresden Dolls, She Wants Revenge, Dave Matthews Band, Radiohead, Ray LaMontagne, Ani DiFranco, Johnny Cash, The Shins, Modest Mouse, Spoon, Italian love songs, French jazz, Brasilian grooves and Carla Bruni makes me want to dance.

Food: Italian, Japanese, sushi, seafood, Mexican, Buffalo Wings, turkey dinner and limeade.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Great friends.
5 Senses.
Good sex.
Creating art (very loose definition here).

"A Finger, Two Dots Then Me" by Derrick Brown
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How do I make my art projects a reality?
...or who can loan me $8k in photo equipment for couple of weeks.
...or how to start a short-length movie studio and staff it just for the sake of making free art.

"The Invitation" by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

Lately and specifically, the economics of sex and love and relationships. How do I master it for the advancement of science?

The fuckability of god...if god is perfect, why don't christians want to die faster to get some perfect god cock?

What if the hokey poke is what it's all about?

How to make more desserts on the BBQ.

If everyone Wang Chungs tonight, what would tomorrow be like?

After Burning Man...where does one go for the next mind expanding?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
This question frustrates me the most. There's a billion things to do in this town and typically I'm trying to do it all.

Further, I don't limit fun happy times to Friday night. I'll get 2 hours of sleep on a Wednesday if laughter and endorphins are plentiful.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Prince is my spirit animal.

I kissed a boy...and I didn't like it. Boys are gross.

...or possibly...

I wish I had more friends that were sex workers. The articulate, in depth thoughts the diamonds in the rough have make me feel like I have a kindred spirit out there somewhere. They seem to understand more about humanity than most anyone.

"Hotbox Love" by Jesse Parent
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
...the following describes you to a varying degree:
(please note, NOT perfect, just SOME)

•You're worthy of the "Ellie Badge."
•You know how to keep plans, but live for spontaneity.
•Please be D.T.B.B.F. (down to build blanket forts)
•You are GGG and delight that I am as well.
•You have a curious and open mind.
•Scent is important to you.
•A male feminist is a turn-on for you.
•You appreciate maturity just as much as whimsy.
•You have a "little black dress" and you know how to use it.
•You can just as easily go out for a night on the town as you can play Lite-Up Frisbee in the park, but mostly prefer the latter.
•You think going to the ballet in a tutu is delightful and a bit logical.
•You are courageous enough to always tell the truth. Most people seem to want that in life, but I've found so few who have the insight to know it, strength to do so, or the courage to accept it.
•If you are shy on okCupid, just copy&paste this:
"Hi. I am really shy. I like your profile. Will you go look at mine and message me back if you are interested?"
•You believe the rug really tied the room together.

Ultimately, albeit antithetical to convention and nearly unbelievably so upon first blush, your panache, your trademarked facial expressions, lingering autumn scent of your skin, your heart materialized in compassion for others, curiosity of my depth, vocabulary peppered with abandon, delight of Sparkle, Romantic languages wryly slid under breath, scientific application of ethics, knowledge of obscure concepts, and a giddy disposition at my casual suggestion we go (insert verb) because we will get to hold hands, that will render my soul intrigued and a space for you in my life. Not your bra size, skirt length, or symmetrical bone structure borne from gifted genes. Just don’t forget, owning routinely worn dusty hiking boots and studded/zipper adorned heels will result in bonus points being awarded.