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33 M San Diego, CA

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White, Other
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Banking / Finance
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
To horridly misquote and paraphrase Thoreau: I do not want, when I come to die, to discover that I had not lived.

I'm pretty laid back, except for the part that gets wild on the weekends. I'm pretty go GO go nonstop, except when I want to relax by spending the day in a paddleboat or a hammock. I'm pretty quiet, except when I sing in the car or go running and screaming on the Playa. I'm a lover not a fighter but I'm also a fighter, so don't get any ideas.

OKC Personality assesment is pretty damn accurate except for the "Less Compassionate" part. That's a load of crap. I'm way compassionate.

ADVENTURE is out there! I hope you can keep up.
What I’m doing with my life
"Danger Zone" was the name of my band in high school.

ocean, BBQ, beach, Burning Man, economics of love/sex/relationships, Bar-B-Q, photography, skepticism, helping, the arts, road trips, humanism, WTF, great verbal volleys over coffee, almost anything with lime, dressing up, Perseid meteor shower, backpacking, camping, OMG, hiking, kayaking, running, yoga, doing things that could possibly kill me but don't, cooking, sailing, shiny things and red buttons, taking it easy, feminism, fire, sushi
I’m really good at
Spatial reasoning to the tune of the 99.5th percentile. Crème brûlée. Most things I enjoy doing, moderately.
The first things people usually notice about me
Ridiculously long eyelashes, green eyes, and my happy energy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Economics, poetry, the science / philosophy / anthropology / psychology / biology / neurology of sex / love / relationships.
"The JOY of Cooking." David Sedaris. Poetry.

Movies: THE Big Lebowski, Inception, Batman, Secretary, Batman Begins, The Dark Knight, Eyes Wide Shut, Stranger than Fiction, LOTR, Mallrats, Rounders, Kissing Jessica Stein, Unbreakable, THE 5th Element, Shawshank Redemption, Notting Hill, Good Will Hunting, Harry Potter(s), American Beauty, Love Actually, Playing by Heart, Garden State, Snatch, Hot Fuzz, Amélie, Paris, je t'aime.

TV: Mostly I refuse to watch TV, but when I'm forced...Family Guy, SouthPark, Colbert Report, Daily Show, and Archer. I also dig SATC and the British version of Coupling.

Music: Green Day, Lykke Li, Prince, Sigur Rós, Exitmusic, MGMT, Depeche Mode, John Mayer, Röyksopp, The Arcade Fire, Massive Attack, John Mayer Trio, Peter Bjorn & John, Temper Trap, Prince, The Airborne Toxic Event, Peter Heppner, Passion Pit, Rachael Yamagata, Placebo, Pink Floyd, Cocorosie, Tony Bennett, Ol' Blue Eyes, Diana Krall, Dean Martin, The Network, Touch And Go, The Dresden Dolls, She Wants Revenge, Dave Matthews Band, Radiohead, Ray LaMontagne, Ani DiFranco, Johnny Cash, The Shins, Modest Mouse, Spoon, Italian love songs, French jazz, Brasilian grooves and Carla Bruni makes me want to dance.

Food: Italian, Japanese, sushi, seafood, Mexican, Buffalo Wings, turkey dinner and limeade.
The six things I could never do without
Great food.
5 Senses.
Creating art (very loose definition here).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Lately and specifically, the economics of sex and love and relationships. How do I master it for the advancement of knowledge and my own personal gain?

The fuckability of god.

What if the hokey poke is what it's all about?

How to make more desserts on the BBQ.

If everyone Wang Chungs tonight, what would tomorrow be like?

After Burning Man...where does one go for the next mind expanding?
On a typical Friday night I am
This question frustrates me the most. There's a billion things to do in this town and typically I'm trying to do it all.

Further, I don't limit fun happy times to Friday night. I'll get 2 hours of sleep on a Wednesday if laughter and endorphins are plentiful.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Prince is my spirit animal.

I kissed a boy...and I didn't like it. Boys are gross.
...or possibly...
I wish I had more friends that were porn stars. The articulate, in depth thoughts the diamonds in the rough have make me feel like I have a kindred spirit out there somewhere. They seem to understand more about humanity than most anyone.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 22–36
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
...the following describes you to a varying degree:
(please note, NOT perfect, just SOME)

•You're worthy of the "Ellie Badge."
•You know how to keep plans, but live for spontaneity.
•Please be
•You are GGG and delight that I am as well.
•You have a curious and open mind.
•A male feminist is a turn-on for you.
•You appreciate maturity just as much as whimsy.
•You have a "little black dress" and you know how to use it.
•You can just as easily go out for a night on the town as you can play Lite-Up Frisbee in the park, but mostly prefer the latter.
•You think going to the ballet in a tutu is delightful and a bit logical.
•You are courageous enough to always tell the truth. Most people seem to want that in life, but I've found so few who have the insight to know it, strength to do so, or the courage to accept it.
•You believe the rug really tied the room together.

Ultimately, albeit antithetical to convention and nearly unbelievably so upon first blush, your panache, your trademarked facial expressions, lingering autumn scent of your skin, your heart materialized in compassion for others, curiosity of my depth, vocabulary peppered with abandon, delight of Sparkle, Romantic languages wryly slid under breath, scientific application of ethics, knowledge of obscure concepts, and a giddy disposition at my casual suggestion we go (insert verb) because we will get to hold hands, that will render my soul intrigued. Not your bra size, skirt length, or symmetrical bone structure borne from gifted genes. Just don’t forget, owning routinely worn dusty hiking boots and studded/zipper adorned heels will result in bonus points being awarded.