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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 32-48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 5:59pm
Straight, Sapiosexual
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 2" (1.57m)
Body Type
Average build
Atheism and laughing about it
Has kid(s) and might want more
English (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Firstly, no ex wife drama please.
I value honesty and integrity above all else.

Pls read: I am not looking to hop into bed with anyone or to be rushed into a relationship. Jumping from one relationship into another like it's some sort of trial and error got old real quick and does not appeal to me at all. I am looking for a special person and for that special person to find me. I am looking for someone I can respect, admire and at the very basic, someone I like and enjoy as a human being. I understand it takes time to know someone well and it requires patience. So the best way to go about doing this is for you and me to be friends first. I am picky who I let into my life. If I like you enough to want to hang out with you, then you may become a friend. Then from a friend, we see where it goes. I would like it to be organic and anything that's worth growing will need time to do so.

Also, I am busy with school and with my kid so I need someone to understand that my schedule won't allow for a lot of time to date.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
My life has flipped around completely recently. I gave up on my old life and crossed an entire ocean to give it a re-boot. If life is a journey, I am definitely embarking on it. I am searching for something.... meaning, love, myself..... I'm not sure what but I knew that I needed to do what I did. "Follow your heart" is something I think more people should do.

Back to school at PSU and it keeps me very busy and I love it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
.......calling your bluff, seeing through your BS.

......seeing both sides to every story. Empathizing with people. I consider myself a Jill of all trades. I can cook, bake, has really good and discerning taste for all things. How true are these, you decide.

......blending in. I am a chameleon and kinda adapt to my surroundings and the mix of people I hang out with. I feel at home in London, fancy myself some sort of a mix breed, could see myself living in Paris and equally comfortable in Cambodia. I can eat at a food cart or dress up for fine dining. I can enjoy a slapstick ala The Dictator or savour a day at Musee du Louvre.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
The following are what people have used to describe me.
- quirky
- passionate
- spirited/sparky
- curious
- intense
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
A recovering TV addict.

I try to read more but never as much as I would like to. Favourite books at the top of my head:

1. The Hobbit and LOTR trilogy
2. James Herriot and his animals series
3. Harry Potter Series
4. Memoirs of a Geisha
5. A History of love - Nicole Krauss
6. The Alchemist - Paulo Coelho
7. The Help - Kathryn Stockett
8. Norwegian Wood -Haruki Murakami
9. Flowers for Algernon - Daniel Keyes
10. Homer's odessey. ( about the blind cat not the Greek tragedy)
11. Bill Granger & Donna Hay cookbooks

Thinks that Twilight & 50 shades sagas are literary trash.

Last read: my textbooks
Reading: The wind-up bird chronicle

Movies...too many to name but I generally enjoy funny heist movies like Lock, Stock and 2 Smoking barrels, Oceans 11...
Also romantic movies like Before sunset, After sunrise, Midnight in Paris...
Indies like Memento, Billy Elliot, Little Miss Sunshine, Juno, Sideways...
Movies made from Jane Austen novels: Pride and Prejudice, Emma, Sense and sensibility....
Others like Inception, Blood Diamond...
Classics: Gone with the Wind, Sound of Music...
NEVER horror and always heartwarmers over tearjerkers.
All Time Favorite: Love Actually. I never tire of watching this.

Music: Varied. ROCK, Pop, R&B, Jazz, Classical, Instrumental, Musicals, indie...
You'll likely think I have horrible taste in music. It's up to you to introduce and convert me.

Definitely a foodie. Don't waste calories on mediocre food.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Sunblock. Yes I take care of myself.
2. Serenity
3. Sense of humor
4. Sense of curiosity
5. Smoochies

hmmm what else....why do all begin with the letter 'S'? Trying to think of 1 more ;)

But seriously, besides our basic needs, is there really anything we can't live without?

So let me rephrase and put down 3 things I would need for my life to be complete.

1. Love (friends, family)
2. Laughter (from humour and not taking things too seriously)
3. Passion (for my job, for life and with the special person)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What does love really mean? Why are there millions of lonely souls seeking it to no avail?

Why are people here (I don't mean okc) so flaky?

The universe, the Cosmo and how small we all are.

How I get about an average of only 1 solid message every 2 weeks. My opening paragraph must be a wonderful deterent and filter. Lol
That said, you should message me if you're interested because I hardly ever message first.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
up for anything interesting or I am just staying in and having a quiet night.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
And that isn't my real age. Sorry. Had to change that because some people are ageist and I just want to be caught in the wider net. Ask and you will be told. I do look like my pics though so I've been told.

There will always be a little girl in me despite my age. I giggle and laugh a lot. I feel like a dork most of the time. People notice my grace and sensuality which I don't see.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are an introvert like me but likes to laugh and have fun and is up for an adventure whenever or you can be an extrovert who has already mellowed and appreciates quiet time. As you can see, I like a balance.


You are a great, single dad who's looking for a partner to share your life and family with and who doesn't mind sharing mine.


You are looking for a long term relationship with a good woman who has a lot to offer and isn't afraid to put effort into a good healthy relationship.

You should preferably be MATURE, intelligent, has depth, well travelled, well educated, kind, witty, playful, enjoy deep meaningful conversations, nonjudgmental, good looking.......... haha.... i better stop here or no one would message me at all ;P

Thanks for making it to the end. As you can see, I am wordy and if you think you can get away with a one-liner, have no pictures and a short profile, think again. It's my one pet peeve on this site, people who contact me without reading my profile first duh!