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31 M Kansas City, MO

My Details

Last Online
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6′ 6″ (1.98m)
Body Type
A little extra
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Working on masters program
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
My real name is not Jerry. It's an old internet handle.

I'm in UMKC's creative writing MFA program and am working as a graduate teaching assistant (basically, I teach freshman composition/discourse). If one of my students happens to read this: hi, now shoo, go away, nothing good will come of this. :P

I am a big RPG & miniature gamer nerd. If you enjoy rolling dice to do things that are represented by character sheets and/or tiny plastic monsters, we will likely find a lot in common. Likewise if you enjoy rockets or trains.

I enjoy bullshitting about big ideas related to reading, writing, thinking, and discourse. I enjoy finding interesting things in genre/pulp/SFF fiction, but I'd also be happy to talk about classical drama, Shakespeare, or 19th-century British serials.

I'm very sexually, socially and economically progressive, at least by my own definitions. I once read a profile by someone who said he thought he was the most open-minded person in the midwest, but I think it's actually me. I become very annoyed with 'progressives' who dial back their progressivism as soon as they've gotten theirs (e.g. gay rights advocates who have no time for trans people and other, less visible forms of queer, and so on down the line). I still have trouble living up to my own standards, so I'm tolerant of others as long as they're trying.

I tend to rely a lot on the questions someone has answered when I scope them out on OKCupid, so I appreciate people who take the time to answer a sizeable hunk of questions. It's true that it's not a substitute for reading someone's own words and getting a sense of their personality, but it's a very big help to be able to just go through and flag potential dealbreakers (or dealmakers, ha).
What I’m doing with my life
What it says above!
The first things people usually notice about me
My size, I guess. I'm 6'6" and a reasonably strong 240-250 pounds.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Terry Pratchett's Discworld series, Charles Stross's Laundry series... and many others, naturally, but these two series give a nice representative slice of my pleasure reading.

When it comes to where my pleasure reading and serious literature intersect, the crown jewel is Orhan Pamuk's My Name Is Red. Seriously, if you like good fiction at all, go check this shit out. It won a friggin' Nobel Prize, too, so you know I'm not alone in thinking this.

Movies: Either comedies OR extradimensional demonic forces (think Hellraiser, Event Horizon, Hellboy). Not familiar with any that cross over between the camps, though that's an interesting idea.

Food: Have been low-carb dieting for a long while, so that restricts things a little, unless I'm taking a cheat day. But outside of that: Chinese, Mexican (think Chipotle, not necessarily 'real' Mexican), pizza, and other usual suspects.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Plots, narrative stuff, worldbuilding for stories and fictional settings. Also nerdgames. Significant amount of overlap between the two, unsurprisingly. Also real-world social problems, though that often leads me back into fantasy worlds since it isn't actually feasible to set all the bad people on fire with the power of my mind.
On a typical Friday night I am
Decompressing, chatting online, and reading/plotting.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Hmm... probably that I suffer from depression sometimes. Like, clinical depression.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 22–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
If you want to. It's a cliche but it's true: if you like what you see, there's no reason you shouldn't.

If you are 25-ish or younger and still interested in an old fart like me, then you should DEFINITELY be the one to message, because there's a range in there where I'd still be happy to hang out/date but I'd feel weird to be the one going after you.

If you have a kink and/or identity that's very important to you and you enjoy sharing it with someone, or just shooting the breeze about it. (And if you didn't just respond angrily to having 'kink' and 'identity' implicitly grouped together.)

If you're not perfect and don't expect others to be, either. You want someone who's employed full-time and has a house and car paid for? I'm not that person. Move along.

If most of your profile picture(s) show you being relatively casual in a domestic setting, or even doing something dorky, rather than all dressed up for a night on the town.

If you're not just looking for a hookup. I know it says I'm looking for casual sex. That's the closest option to 'willing to have sex without actually dating you.' It doesn't mean I want to fuck before we've gotten to know each other and get along.