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38 Boulder, CO Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 22–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Mar 20
White, Other
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Atheism, and laughing about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
English, Swedish (Okay), Norwegian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Originally from Denver. Spent 12 years living in Sweden and Norway conducting research at the intersection of computer science, psychology and sociology, mostly to improve healthcare systems.

Had a great life overseas, professionally and outside of work. I also learned some interesting stuff. For example, people used to tell me not worry because "The sun will always come up tomorrow". They were wrong, because when you live in Tromsø the sun does not come up for two months actually. I also learned silence does not have to be uncomfortable, it's better when parents are not allowed to hit their kids, when there is less poverty, and when women are more equal. We should change that here.

End of 2012 I was given an offer I can't refuse from Google and moved to Silicon Valley. Diversity, sunshine, it had a lot to offer. But Mountain View was boring, I don't like long commutes, and then got an offer to transfer to the Boulder office. So here I am, back in my home state after 14 years away.

I play flamenco guitar and go snowboarding in my spare time. Also VJ sometimes but dont actively look for gigs anymore. Want to start running a bunch after reading "Born to Run.

I am looking for something serious but would consider a short term distraction if you really hot and not crazy.
What I’m doing with my life
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Listening to NPR. My job. Watching funny stuff on Youtube like Jerry Springer fights, memes and cats. Playing my guitar. Putting together IKEA furniture. Working out. Hitting the like button on my friends' Facebook posts. Still enjoying reading articles about conservatives having their feelings deeply hurt by the re-election of Obama.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
socio-technical design, trigger point massage, rasgueo (compared to normal people but not compared to great flamencos)
The first things people usually notice about me
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I wear a gold "doktorsring" on my left ring finger. You get them in Sweden when you finish your Ph.D. and it makes me look married.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Buckethead (slow stuff like Colma, Electric tears, A Real Diamond in the Rough, Pike 13), John Coltrane, Jens Lekman, Paco de Lucia, Vicente Amigo, Motorpsycho, Shining, Pink Floyd

Comedy; Being John Malkovich, A Serious Man
Drama; Chop Shop, Dogville
Action; Machete, The Terminator
Documentary; "Up" Series ("7 Up" etc.), Hoop Dreams
Romance; The Artist
Sad; Idi i smotri

Food: dark chocolate, lasagne, spicy noodle soup, smothered burritos, smoked reindeer heart, cloud berries
Drinks: Italian red wine, Bushmills 16 years, Ardbeg, espresso, Ito En Oolong Shot
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sex. Music. Friends. Peace. Quiet. Laughs. Love.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where will I settle down? With what type of woman? How tall, what sort of fashion style, and will she be good at math or maybe artsy stuff? Will I start a company some day or stay with this big corp or maybe move back to academia? Is that "lagom" or too much or too little? I wonder if I will use my savings at some point to just fly away to the beach for 3 years or so. What is the best restaurant in my neighborhood? Should I clean my apartment, or just enjoy my mess? Is it more shallow for man to be attracted to a woman for her looks, or for a woman to be attracted to a man for being a musician? Those flowers I just walked past smell pretty nice.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Home playing my guitar with Netflix on in the background.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I think women that are a few years younger than me are hot, and the fact that some people think that is bad makes it more fun.
You should message me if
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You think professionally oriented guys in their 30's are hot. You are fun to be around and have self-distance. You are looking for something serious. You are not crazy.