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39 Charlotte, NC Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:57am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Mostly other
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Less than $20,000
Doesn’t have kids
Dislikes dogs
English (Fluently), German (Poorly), C++ (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm a freelance writer, tabletop game designer, video/audio editor and production assistant who'd like to get out and socialize with people in ways that don't involve armed robbery or religious groups. My time in the theatre has left me with a penchant for acting silly in public - so much so that my first print publication was a book of strange and (hopefully) comedic monologues. I'm a bit of a geek when it comes to RPGs (role-playing games for those who would prefer not to play the Acronym Guessing Game just now), computer games, movies and comics. I also do a ridiculous amount of podcasting.

I have what a lot of people call a dry, random sense of humor and love to entertain people when I get a chance (and love it even more when they don't throw things afterward). ;)

If you're curious about the kind of stuff I write, I've got some articles on my web site And also to that end, here's a video of me acting silly in public back in September of 2010: Jim at Open Mic Night.

Why am I so open with my media? To make sure you've got full disclosure; the last thing I want to do is give you a false impression or an unfortunate surprise if we meet. I have no intention of apologizing for being myself - I got over that phase ages ago! So, hopefully these things will help give you a better idea of what manner of beast you might be dealing with here. :)

Back during the dawn of civilization when OKCupid was still young, we had to come up with three adjectives to describe ourselves, and the ones I chose were: thoughtful, strange, and humorous. It is my fervent hope that all three are still accurate.
What I’m doing with my life
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I've just completed broadcasting school, which was no end of fun and will hopefully open some doors in the entertainment industry at some point. Since then, I've been networking like crazy and adjusting to that special flavor of madness brought on by radio & TV freelancing. To make ends meet, I've also been working with some wonderful folks at a data storage company that has a refreshingly cool work atmosphere.

As part of my school work I produced a TV segment that went on the air in mid-to-late 2011. There's nothing like watching the end product of something you've poured months of your life into. I've also recently started acting in TV and radio commercials, which has proven to be a very fun experience. It's not the same kind of high you get from theatre, but it's still pretty awesome when I have the opportunity to do it.

I'm also hoping to break into the fiction authorin' biz. I'm currently over 40,000 words deep into a novel I'm trying to hammer out. So I spend a lot of my free time staring at a blank screen and trying not to get distracted from the process of willing words to appear on it. The distraction seems to happen nonetheless, so I figured it would be a good idea to maintain an account here and at least have something GOOD to be distracted by.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I seem to be pretty good at attracting people's attention (by that same token, I seem to be able to fade completely into the woodwork when I want to, as well). I tend to be good at entertaining people, confusing them or both depending on the circumstances.

People tell me I'm pretty good at putting words together on paper. In person, it can be a very different story -- or I can be Oscar Wilde -- it just depends on whether the synapses are firing or not at the time.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I think people tend to mention the fact that I have long hair before anything else. Which is odd because you'd think I'd already KNOW that I have long hair, but yet, they are compelled to speak of it. I know not why!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I'll just do the top few for these, but in pretty much all cases you can take "and many others" as read. :)

(Books) The Hitchhiker's Guide series by Douglas Adams, the Chronicles of Amber by Roger Zelazny, the New, Long and Short Sun series by Gene Wolfe; also I've more recently been getting into Neil Gaiman and Jim Butcher.

(Movies) The Star Wars films (warts and all), the Lord of the Rings films, the Monty Python films, Hot Fuzz, The Third Man, Snatch, Dark City, The Maltese Falcon

(Shows - I'm assuming by this they mean TV shows, though I'll admit I'm partial to Harold Pinter, Tom Stoppard and David Ives - extra points if you know who those guys are; ANYWAY, right, TV shows...) Doctor Who (both versions), The Daily Show, Deadwood, The Twilight Zone and the various Star Treks

(Music) They Might Be Giants, Squirrel Nut Zippers, Shostakovich, David Bowie, Big Bad Voodoo Daddy, Tom Waits, Orbital, Johnny Cash, Beatnik Turtle

(Food) I was attacked by vegetables as a child, so anything that's not green, slimy or liquidy-yet-crunchy is usually fine. Also, if the opportunity arises I can make an awesome fettuccine alfredo.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Hey, oxygen's for losers, right? Who needs THAT nowadays? Right, so if you mean six things OTHER than food, water and oxygen...

1) Sleep -- you're supposed to spend a third of your life asleep and damn it, I want my third!
2) Caffeine -- hey, you've got to wake up some time.
3) My friends -- sometimes there's nothing better in the world than having someone there to support you and I'm very grateful to have those people
4) Some kind of income -- I despise the idea of dragging anyone down, least of all myself.
5) My computer (yess... preciouss...) -- while I probably COULD get along without it if I had to, it's the best way to organize my thoughts right now.
6) Whatever wisps of my sanity currently remain -- I've got to hold onto SOMETHING, after all!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to get to the next minute. Unfortunately it usually takes more than a minute to figure it out, so I then have to think about the implications of using a time machine to get back to the minute I was trying to reach. I've been told not to abuse the time machine any more, so these days I'm mostly using it to catch movies and TV shows I've missed. It seems to be the only way to keep from running into myself. Causality is a harsh mistress.

Wait... what was the question again?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either hanging out with friends drinking, hanging out playing various RPGs (Fiasco, Deadlands, Numenera and D&D/Pathfinder being recent favorites) or staring at a blank computer screen trying to will words onto it. Sometimes when I've got the time and the cash (or the foresight to ask for a ticket ahead of time) I'll head over to see my friend's local comedy troupe.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have cynophobia. It's not nearly as bad as it was when I was a kid, thankfully. There have been a few exceptions, but generally dogs and I don't get along very well.
You should message me if
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You can hold an intelligent conversation and don't think you'll mind listening to my ramblings. Or if you feel like going nuts for a little while. ;)

* I like girls who are geeks - especially those who enjoy things like tabletop gaming, sci-fi and fantasy.

* I also like girls who are expressive, in particular those who are into acting or theatre - or who just have the same level of awesome controlled crazy that most theatrefolk do. I seem to do well with extroverts.

These are by no means requirements, but if you happen to fit into one of those two categories, we'll get along well. If you happen to fit into both of them, we'll get along famously.